CyberSafety: Online Dating Safely & Successfully

How would you feel and react if someone you had met through an online dating service gave an indepth account of their private life at the very beginning of your online dating communication? Would you feel pressured to respond with a similar account of your own life?

How would you feel if someone you had met through online dating kept their profile visible on an online dating service after you had made some sort of commitment?

Online dating is real dating and the associated risks to your emotional safety are also real. Cyber security is essential.  To ensure safe, successful online dating you must become familiar with your own emotional responses and identify your emotional boundaries to protect yourself and your online dating partners from being hurt.

If something makes you feel uncomfortable, induces a sinking feeling in your stomach or upsets you in any way then examine, recognize and learn from that response; you’ve just found an emotional boundary! For example, if receiving lots of personal information from an online dating partner makes you feel uncomfortable and pressured into sharing your own information, you have indentified an emotional boundary relating to personal information.

The next step is to define and discuss this boundary with your online dating partner which isn’t as scary as it sounds. In fact defining and discussing the boundary is as simple as saying "I’m glad you’re happy to share that information with me but I’m not comfortable discussing my own personal life in detail just yet". Next time you experience similar feelings you’ll know your emotional boundaries have been breached and you’ll be more confident in dealing with any such situations while using online dating services.

Remember that you can’t read someone’s facial expression or body language when they open your email or instant messages during online dating. You might think a conversation is flowing along nicely without realizing the other person is feeling pressured into or uncomfortable about the discussion. A simple way to ensure your online dating partner is comfortable in your conversation is to give them options.

If, for example, you’ve just shared a story about your relationship history, give them the option of not reciprocating by saying "So that’s my story but if you’re not comfortable sharing yours just yet that’s fine, I’ll understand." One of the biggest dating no no’s is to use anything revealed to you, such as fears or insecurities, to pressure an online dating partner in any way. This is a major breach of online dating etiquette and is potentially devastating to your online dating partner’s emotional safety.

Communicating through online dating services means we can’t rely on body language and vocal tones to gather information in our relationships. This difficulty can be exacerbated by typos, grammatical errors and differing language ability causing a simple email to become a minefield of misunderstanding.

When using online dating services you must realize there is a larger scope for miscommunication and misinterpretation than in the offline world. If you are offended by a comment it may be worth clarifying the author’s intent before taking it to heart. Likewise, be aware that you risk offending someone if your sarcastic remark comes across as genuine or your comments clash with language barriers and constraints.

DATING IS NOT JUST FOR BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE  by Amy Waterman

"Dating is not just for the beautiful people."

You would think it was obvious. But how many women justify their single status by saying, "I'm not good-looking enough to attract men"?

Personal appearance is the first excuse on the dateless woman's book. It is easy to justify your lack of a boyfriend by pointing to your lack of success in the genetic lottery. "Look, my parents didn't pass on the long-legged blue-eyed blond-haired genes, okay?"

Thank god it isn't true. Otherwise, appearance would condemn me to being an old maid.

I come from a family of short, overweight women. If they're born tall, they shrink. If they manage to stay skinny through high school, they gain weight after marriage. Fashion sense is limited to the shops available in a rural town, and the sales racks of those.

Women in my family don't need to be beautiful. They're too busy helping their menfolk pull lambs, feeding the hay crew, or putting on a Sunday dinner spread. They're busy raising kids and washing heaps of laundry and canning garden vegetables all summer.

They dress in what's comfortable. They run a brush through their hair and forget about it. They enjoy coming back in from the garden, muddy and tired and sunburned with an armful of cabbage.

I didn't learn how to be a lady from my family. I didn't learn how to walk in high heels until college. I didn't wear skirts until I had my first office job at 28. My favorite period of my life were my two years in a village in the Andes Mountains when I had to guess what I looked like by piecing together the reflection in a tiny cosmetic mirror, because there were no mirrors large enough to see myself. Did my lack of attention to my appearance keep me from meeting men? No. I had boyfriend and affairs aplenty, and the stories to prove it.

Now that I'm 30, I have much more to prove. I live in a decent-sized city of 300,000 and work in the very heart of the central business district, in a creative industry surrounded by twenty-somethings. How I look matters.

My boss told me a few days ago that when I go out and do seminars on dating advice, men are going to look at me and ask themselves, "Am I attracted to her?" If the answer is no, then I'm not going to have any credibility. How can an ordinary-looking woman teach others to be irresistibly attractive to men?

His comment threw my self-esteem into a tailspin. Every time I woke up and looked at myself in the mirror, I thought, My hair looks awful. I've got all these blemishes. My nose is really the wrong shape, isn't it?

If my success as a relationship expert had to come down to my appearance, I was going to lose every time.

But then I started thinking … most of the women in the world are completely ordinary looking, and yet they all get guys. Only a fraction of a fraction of the US female population can dream of being a supermodel, and yet somehow the rest of us find loving, good men who love the way we look, talk, and act. Appearance can't be the whole story. And it isn't.

Guys love women in all their shapes and sizes. Just being female is enough for most. However, most men will admit that they prefer a woman who takes care of herself: eats right, exercises, keeps her nails trimmed, styles her hair, and pays attention to what she wears. They believe that a woman who pays attention to the exterior details will also pay attention to the details where they count: in the bedroom.

Because seriously—and this is a fact that gets forgotten because neither gender wants to admit it—the only thing most guys care about is whether you will be good in bed. A woman who smells lovely, has shiny hair to spill over the pillow, and is comfortable with her body will attract men hand over fist, while a couture ice princess who spends hours on hair and makeup screams "untouchable" and finds that she intimidates all the nice guys and attracts only players.

The fashion and cosmetic industry have a vested interest in making us believe that our appearance is all that stands between us and the man of our dreams. The more they keep us chasing the holy grail of beauty, the more money they make.

And, of course, you can never be beautiful enough.

When my last partner and I separated, the only thing that I could think about for weeks was a comment he'd made to me once when we were upset at one another. I had mentioned that he no longer seemed to compliment me any more. Later, when we were walking down the street to a restaurant, he stated out of nowhere, "You're not a supermodel, you know."

And guess what I did? I murmured contritely, "I know." Of course a woman only deserves compliments if she's a supermodel; how could I have been so stupid?

So when the relationship ended I thought, "It must be because I'm not pretty enough for him." That was the easy answer. He wanted someone who looked like a supermodel, I don't, therefore it was my deficiency in the genetic lottery that disqualified me from girlfriend status.

Silly, huh? Yet I believed it. It was easier to think that than to think about the other possibilities. Maybe our relationship ended because he just wasn't that into me as a person. That would hurt much worse than being rejected for my looks.

It took the counsel of a dear, loving friend before I realized that a man who loved me wouldn't make cutting comments like that. She asked me why I would want to be with someone who only cared about my appearance anyway. Didn't I want a man who was proud to walk down the street with me because he loved everything about me, not just how I looked on his arm?

She was right.

I had to realize that losing weight and dying my hair and buying new clothes wouldn't magically bring him back. Nor would it magically bring me the man of my dreams.

She told me that to find the right man for me, I simply needed to create situations where my winning personality could do its work. Smile at more strangers, expand my social circles, get involved in fun activities, attend more city events.

Being pretty may bring more men into your life, she said, but they may not be the right ones. Chemistry is a matter of many things, including common interests, beliefs, and compatible personalities. It's not just about two mutually attractive people seeing one another.

We need to remind ourselves this every so often, especially when we see the women's magazines splashed with pictures of celebrity couples.

Dating is not just for the beautiful people.

It's for those of us who are average and ordinary in the looks department, too. That's because the majority of people in this world are quite average and ordinary, giving us a huge pool to choose from.

If YOU are going to spend the time and personal investment into making yourself irresistibly attractive to men, I have a word of advice. Don't just focus on your appearance and ignore everything else. I know that it's much more fun to buy new clothes and get makeovers than ask yourself some serious questions about the kind of energy you put out or the kind of relationship patterns you've established, but for your own sake it's essential.

Attracting your dream man is about much more than wearing the right clothes and memorizing the right things to say and how to say them. Attracting your dream man is about putting yourself out into the world in a positive, loving way, and having faith that the right man will be drawn to you as surely as a moth is drawn to flame.

Dating is not just for the beautiful people. Dating is for ordinary people. Dating is for ugly people. Dating is for everyone, because the statistics shows that we all will manage to find love and affection. About 90% of Americans will marry by the time they're thirty, and most will marry at least once in their lifetime.

Believe that dating is for YOU.

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COURTING LIKE INSECTS: HELEN FISHER'S "ANATOMY OF LOVE"  by Amy Waterman 

I'm always suspicious of scientists who try to generalize from animal behavior to human behavior. Animals lack the enormously complex social structures that condition our behaviors and cultural expressions. Whether it is true, as Kant believed, that we are a step above animals because we can project ourselves into the future and envision the consequences of our actions, the fact remains that generalizing from insects to people is a rather far stretch.

Nevertheless, Dr. Helen Fisher does a remarkable job of it in her book "Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray." Don't be too aggressive in the initial stages of courtship, or you'll end up like the male wolf spider - eaten by the female before copulation can occur.

Does your man bring you gifts of chocolate or take you on dinner dates? Maybe he's just instinctively following the same biological mandate as the black-tipped hang fly, which allows female flies to feast on his recent kills in exchange for sex. Even the discovery of the role of pheromones in insects implies that smell may play a similar role in human attraction. We can learn a lot from the animal kingdom.

Fisher's premise is that human behavior in courtship and relationships has as much to do with nature than nurture. There are powerful biological and evolutionary imperatives that channel our behavior. While our culture will provide the form through which these predispositions are played out, there's no pretending that we're blank slates programmed by society into certain courtship roles. Fisher endeavors to show how we're driven by powerful forces that aren't too dissimilar from those shown by our fellow members of the animal kingdom.

Case in point: body language.

Fisher tells us that "women from places as different as the jungles of Amazonia, the salons of Paris, and the highlands of New Guinea apparently flirt with the same sequence of expressions" (p. 20). A woman's smile starts off the encounter, with a quick look away as she drops her eyes and tilts her head down. She may then hide her faces, giggling behind her hands. Any man who's the recipient of such a gaze knows what's up.

Similarly, female possums toss coy gazes at their intendeds, cocking their heads and meeting the male possum's eyes. The hair toss (immortalized in the 2000 movie Charlie's Angels) is kin to the tossed heads of albatross and the moving heads of the mud turtles.

Men have their own postures inherited from the past. Fisher compares a man's "chest thrust" (when he sticks out his chest) with the dominance-asserting messages of bristling cats and chest-pounding gorillas.

At a certain point the question becomes: is there any human behavior that doesn't have a parallel in the animal kingdom?

Regardless of whether Fisher's book actually proves that humans draw on many of the same courtship and mating behaviors as animals, it makes for fascinating reading.

For example, the famous courtship process observed by David Givens and Timothy Perper in American bars and clubs is not limited to human beings. Animals "flirt" as well.

You see, Givens and Perper spent countless hours in American cocktail lounges, pubs and clubs observing the courtship behavior of singles. What they found was that they could break down the process from meeting for the first time to the bedroom into distinct stages. Each stage was required before the next level of intimacy was attained.

Perper described the stages in this way: "From the Song of Songs until today, the sequence is the same: look, talk, touch, kiss, do the deed" (Psychology Today).

It makes sense. You're unlikely to jump in the sack with someone you've just talked with. Each stage builds the familiarity and comfort necessary for greater intimacy.

Fisher takes the Givens and Perper data and describes it differently. In her formulation, the stages of courtship are:

1. Attention-getting phase. Men and women alike "establish a territory" (e.g., find a place to sit or stand) in the bar then commence looking at those around them while simultaneously showing themselves off to best advantage.

2. Recognition phase. This is when you catch a prospective partner's gaze, and both of you respond in a way that demonstrates your interest. You may wink or smile at him, encouraging him to approach.

3. Talking phase. Here is where the stakes get higher. If you don't like his pickup line, his voice, or his topic of conversation, he'll be crossed off your list of suitors. Similarly, it is in talking with you that he finds out about your personality and whether you'd be a suitable match for him.

4. Touching phase. At this stage, the couple begins to decrease the physical distance between themselves. They may lean forward or rest an arm close to the other person. The most insignificant brush of the arm gauges the other person's responsiveness to a sexual advance. If the other person backs away or appears uncomfortable, then the courting may be over.

5. Body synchrony phase. This is the most fascinating phase of courtship, because it's also the one most invisible to us. Leil Lowndes calls this "mirroring." It's when you start to mimic the behavior of your partner. He lifts his glass to drink; you lift yours. He leans back in his seat; you lean back in your seat. You cross your legs; he crosses his. We do this unconsciously when we're with someone we're highly attracted to, as if to show that we're "in tune" with the other person.

The next time you go to a bar or club, see if you can't identify these stages in action. Their accuracy might just surprise you.

At that point, it's your call whether you believe that these stages are part of our animal nature (just as gorillas swagger, moles rub noses, and stickleback fish zigzag in rhythm) or part of our human culture.

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MEETING ASIAN WOMEN FOR MARRIAGE 

What is it about Asian women that is so attractive to Western men? Western women insane with jealousy claim that men like subservient girls and can’t handle a proud woman, "Like me for instance."

But, no doubt, most men would probably agree that that just isn’t an accurate explanation. And sure there is a certain mystique to Asian ladies, but that certainly would not be enough to lure in so many men, would it? Maybe that truly is the reason for some men but there is probably an even better way to explain this phenomenon. Ah yes, oftentimes, the right answer is the most simple one…

For those women who have been living under a rock, we men are here to enlighten you that men, all men, like attractive, physically fit, nice, smart, refined and dignified women. In other words, men like women who are beautiful and act womanly. Unfortunately, the problem with many Western women is that they seem to have lost the significance and importance of this concept. And the thing about Asia, is that these kinds of women are literally everywhere!

Perhaps even more compelling than the aforementioned reasons however, is that Asian women are generally very attracted to Westerners. Just about everyone has heard of women not being attracted to their own race, but with many Asian women there seems to be an outright epidemic of this kind of thinking.

When you ponder the situation, it becomes clear why so many single Asian men are upset when they see yet another Asian woman with a Western man. Lucky for Western men, Asian women seem not to be deterred by their criticism. So let’s see, Western men like Asian women, while Asian women like Western men. Where’s the confusion?

Put in that light, it seems pretty clear why some men are so attracted to Asian ladies.

But where should Western men look to find their very own Asian dream woman? Well most men like to look for ladies from China, Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, and most of all the Philippines.

You see the Philippines were occupied by Spaniards for over 300 years from the 16th century onward, until they transferred control to the United States after the Spanish-American War. The long and short of Filipino history is that so much Spanish blood has mixed with Filipino blood over the centuries that the mixture today has lead to some ultra-compelling and attractive good looks in Filipino women.

Of course, men can pick any country in Asia and they will find a bevy of beautiful women there so Western men should probably not limit themselves to any one country in particular.

Once men decide to give Asian women a try, they need a plan to go after them. The eBook recommended and found on this website, Foreign Dating Secrets: An Insider’s Guide To Finding Romance Abroad, goes into this in detail for Western men. For men to get their juices flowing however, it is interesting to find out what kind of women they can look forward to meeting in Asia right here and now.

That is why below Western men will find a review of the top five international dating websites that help them meet ladies in these countries. Although there are three unique ways to meet foreign women online, as outlined in the Special Report titled, Foreign Dating Secrets: How to Meet Foreign Women Online, the second way is a great starting point for Western men. There are a few reasons for this.

> First, men from the West new to this game, can begin meeting foreign women online which is not only good fun, it gives them a taste of what they have in store when they visit this region of the world.

> Secondly, it is also highly educational in that Western men will begin to learn about Asian cultural nuances when corresponding to these lovely ladies. This might sound trite to many Western men but it is actually incredibly important because unless men learn about these differences early on, they are certain to encounter an inordinate amount of relationship friction, which could have been avoided since many problems that arise are really just cultural differences.

> Finally, my favorite reason to explore these types of international dating websites at length, is that they sometimes allow fate to decide where a man from the West will go.

For instance, he might of thought that he was going to go to Bangkok, Thailand, but later discovered that he met just one lady online from that city.

On the other hand, perhaps he met ten eligible beautiful ladies in Angeles City, Philippines. Had he not done enough research he would have just gone to Bangkok. But for him, because of his profile and a bit of luck, he does much better in Angeles City and decides to go there instead. Of course, there are numerous factors pulling men to varied locations, but this particular reason should not be overlooked as it proves to be very important for most men.

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MEETING RUSSIAN WOMEN FOR MARRIAGE

Russia and Eastern European countries are filled with seemingly endless cities, towns, and villages packed with literally thousands of single gorgeous ladies. It is mind boggling to spend an appreciable amount of time traveling throughout these countries and witness first hand the never-ending stream of beautiful women. Like the Energizer bunny, it just keeps going and going and going!

One could probably spend the rest of one’s life going in and out of these places meeting a slew of hot foreign women to date and never wind up going out with the same lady twice. Without trying to sound ridiculous, the point cannot be emphasized enough that most men, no matter from which Western country they are from, have never seen an environment for meeting and dating women that was more plentiful than in Russia and Eastern Europe.

Having said all that, most men from the West at some point wonder where the best locations are, to search for a hot foreign bride or girlfriend. They ponder, "Do I want a hot Russian bride, Ukrainian bride, or maybe one from Belarus, for example?" To add to the uncertainty, many Western men, novice and experienced alike, wonder if small towns or big cities are right for them.

Besides that timeless question, no doubt many others usually arise for Western men on a quest for love. Just about the only thing Western men are certain of, is that his prospective lady must be both physically and mentally beautiful. In fact, let’s be honest, if a Western man hoped for anything less he would just stay home and confine his search to a limited area.

Well, the truth is that there are different answers to these questions depending on each particular man, with his personal characteristics as well as what it is he ultimately wants to achieve.

The eBook, Foreign Dating Secrets: An Insider’s Guide To Finding Romance Abroad, goes into these issues at length so they will not be rehashed here. Instead this section of the website about Russia and Eastern Europe is devoted to a review of international dating websites that help men in these two regions.

Although there are three unique ways to meet foreign women online, as outlined in the Special Report titled, Foreign Dating Secrets: How to Meet Foreign Women Online, the second one proves to be a great starting point for Western men. There are a few reasons for this.

First, men from the West new to this game, can begin meeting foreign women online which is not only good fun, it gives them a taste of what they have in store when they visit this region of the world.

Secondly, it is also highly educational in that Western men will begin to learn about Slavic culture when corresponding to these lovely ladies. This might sound trite to many Western men but it is actually incredibly important because unless they learn about these differences early on, they are certain to encounter an inordinate amount of relationship friction, which could have been avoided since many problems that arise are really just cultural differences.

Finally, my favorite reason to explore these types of international dating websites at length, is that they sometimes allow fate to decide where a man from the West will go. For instance, he might of thought that he was going to explore Moscow, but later discovered that he met just one lady online from that city. On the other hand, perhaps he met ten eligible beautiful ladies in Kyiv, Ukraine.

Had he not done enough research he would have just gone to Moscow. But for him, because of his profile and a bit of luck, he does much better in Kyiv and decides to go there instead. Of course, there are numerous factors pulling men to varied locations, but this particular reason should not be overlooked as it proves to be very important for most men.

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BRIDES FROM OTHER CULTURES: What To Watch For

Every American man who begins a relationship with a foreign woman has concerns about the legitimacy of his foreign woman. Most foreign woman are honest and sincere, however, there is a small sub group of foreign woman who are only interested stringing along an American man for the purpose of obtaining money from him. Fortunately, it is relatively easy to determine if a woman is a fraud if you know what to look for. Below are the five red flags that a women might be a fraud:

A. She always wants you to be sending her money. This type of woman lurches from one family catastrophe to another. Her relatives are constantly needing surgeries and/or dying. Alternately she may claim she is being evicted from her apartment and needs money for a new place or that she just lost her job. You should not be sending a woman money in the early stages of a relationship. If you are in a relationship with a woman who always asks you for money you need to be very concerned about her sincerity. A typical American man would not give large sums of money to a new American girlfriend and neither should he give money to a new foreign girlfriend. If you have met your foreign girlfriend and are convinced of her sincerity it is okay to help her out financially. You should not, however, be sending money to a foreign girlfriend until you have become convinced of her sincerity.

B. She is unable or unwilling to meet you in person. This type of women typically has more than one American boyfriend. Also, this type of women typically always wants money from you. Beware the women who says she loves you but is unable to meet you.

C. She addresses you by a different name. Believe it or not I have actually seen this happen a few times. This type of women is corresponding with so many different American men that she gets them confused. You would not tolerate a serious American girlfriend being unfaithful to you and you should not tolerate unfaithfulness from a foreign women.

D. She is uncooperative with you or your attorney after you commence the fiancee visa process. This type of women does not actually want to come to America and does not want to marry an American. This type of women wants you to send her money so that can live comfortably in her home country. She is frequently very attached to her family abroad and just does not want to leave them. This type of women does everything she can to delay or disrupt the fiancee visa. Another tactic of this type of woman is that she tells you that she can get a tourist visa if you send her $5,000. Of course she cannot get a tourist visa, she is only trying to get yet more money from you. Beware of women who don’t cooperate with the fiancee visa process.

E. She is not available to email or talk to you. This type of woman has so many American boyfriends that she simply does not have the time to email or talk to you. Beware of women who become unavailable to you.

MARRIAGE IMMIGRATION TIPS 

As I enter my seventh year of practicing fiancee visa law I have a number of observations to share with prospective and current clients.

There is a common misconception that marrying a foreign woman is somehow unseemly or less real than marrying an American woman. We have all heard the term "mail order bride" which would describe a situation in which the American man has not met his foreign fiancee but rather has picked her picture out of a catalogue and ordered her to be delivered. Immigration law does not in fact allow for "mail order brides."

A chief requirement of the fiancee visa is that the American petitioner and foreign beneficiary have met in person within the two years prior to the filing of the fiancee visa petition. Opponents of the fiancee visa who speak of mail order brides are only revealing their ignorance of the law and procedure of the fiancee visa.

In my experience the relationships between foreign woman and American men are every bit as real as any relationships involving American men and American women.

Furthermore, the divorce rate among my clients is negligible as compared to the typical American divorce rate. I am in contact with many of my early clients and I know that they are happy with their marriages. My clients, both the men and the women, tend to be loving and sincere. Contrary to myths about the fiancee visa the men are rarely abusive and the woman are rarely fraudulent or dishonest.

It is exhilarating for my clients when I file their petitions and they get the receipt from the USCIS showing that their case is under way. The exhilaration is infectious. Even after all these years of practicing immigration law I still excited for my clients when we get the initial USCIS receipt. Unfortunately, the filing of the petition is just the first step in a long and complex journey. People need to be realistic and manage their expectations when they file their fiancee visa petition. The process is long. You will be very unhappy and disappointed if you expect that your fiancee will be here within a few weeks of filing the petition.

Some USCIS Service Centers are faster than other and some foreign consulates are faster than others. With the right combination of a fast USCIS service center and a fast foreign consulate a fiancee visa can be obtained in 4-6 weeks. A case filed at the Vermont Service Center and processed at the American Consulate in Mexico would be the fastest combination. A fast time line is not, however, typical.

The USCIS California Service Center can be slow and consular processing in China is very slow. I have an attorney who works for me in China and helps my
clients navigate consular processing in China and still the process is very slow. Consular processing in the Philippines is faster than in China but still the process can take several months.

If you have realistic expectation of the time line of the fiancee visa process you will be delighted when the visa is granted. The process is slow, but if the case is done correctly the fiancee visa will be granted.

The International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2006 was designed to eliminate the exploitation of foreign women by American men. In my opinion IMBRA is a solution to a non existent problem. I have never seen the type of exploitation and abuse IMBRA was designed to remedy.

Furthermore, as a practical matter IMBRA does not effect the vast majority of cases. It only really affects American men with serious criminal records and American men who have filed previous fiancee visa petitions. At the time IMBRA was enacted people feared that it would eliminate the fiancee visa. That has not happened.

Yes, a beautiful 25 year old foreign woman really can fall in love with a 55 year old American. I have seen it happen many times. Foreign woman tend to be less concerned with superficial attributes than American women. Most foreign woman are looking for a loving and stable man. They are not as concerned with the age of the man as they are with the quality of his character. The successful marriages my clients have built stand as a rebuttal to the cynical critics of the fiancee visa.

#5 THE AMERICAN MEN AND FOREIGN WOMEN COME FROM ALL WALKS
OF LIFE

My American clients are completely normal people from all walks of life. My clients have included multi-millionaires, doctors, accountants, car salesmen, plumbers, truck drivers, pilots, members of the military, business owners, nurses, dentists, corporate executives, artists, senior government bureaucrats, waiters, card dealers, engineers and scientists. There is no typical fiancee visa petitioner.

The foreign women are also completely normal and from all walks of life. The foreign fiancees I have obtained visas for include doctors, dentists, senior government bureaucrats, engineers, business owners, waitresses, nurses, students, and lawyers.

Deborah Weber is the principal attorney in a fiancee visa law practice in Minnetonka, Minnesota. To learn more about the fiancee visa process please visit Deborah’s website at Fiancee Visa Lawyers.

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