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This colorful state is famous for it is unique culture, custom and civilization. As the matter of costume culture, here people wear turban, kurta and skirts for women. All the people have dignity. Their warm hospitality is admirable. Every one has the sense of honesty and truthfulness. People treat very warmly everywhere. So if you are wish for India tour, must choose your option to Rajasthan tour.

Tour operators and traveling agency offer many Rajasthan tour packages to choose according to your wish. You can manage it according to your budget and purpose.

Tour operators will make your journey convenient. Rajasthan is the state of many exquisite palaces, alluring forts and monuments. Eye captivating Hawa-mahal and Jalmahal in Jaipur is centre of attraction. Legendary cities of Rajasthan take your breath away while you see the exciting and architectural art of these cities. The main cities of this region are jaipur. Jodhpur, jaiselmer, Bikaner, Udaipur, Kota. Worth seeing places of this state are jantar - mantar, city palace, amber fort, nahar garh fort, pichola lake, sajjan garh palace, jag mandir, saheliyon ki bari etc. Magnificent and spell bounding markets force you to take enjoy of these cherish moments.

Rajasthan tour package is one of the royal and sight seeing tour of India that gives the opportunity to tourists to explore this land in their own away. During Rajasthan tours you may enjoy of adventurous journey of having fun with wild life sanctuaries and bird sanctuaries. There are several sanctuaries and national park in Rajasthan. People come from across the world. You may enjoy a camel safari, jeep safari or a horse safari to explore this exceptional beauty of Rajasthan.

Sariska, Ranthambore and Keoladeo Ghana national park (Bharatpur) bird sanctuaries are the popular one that frequently visited by tourists. Mount Abu is the only hill station of Rajasthan. It is the place of your dream where you may spend holiday. During India tour never miss to visit Rajasthan.

These days in India, the concept of love-cum-arranged marriage is, rapidly, gaining popularity. And why not! This concept is a beautiful feeling. The Indian society still does not have such advanced values that they will start preferring love after marriage instead of love before marriage. There are different stages of love in a married life. In fact, love is most ubiquitous in the beginning of the marriage. Slowly and gradually, love is overtaken by various responsibilities and children, which the couple has to acknowledge.

The influence of the western culture has brought about this change in the urban cities and towns of our country. These days, young girls and boys move out for a date with the person they love. This is a hottest trend now witnessed in cities. But people living in the interiors of India are still not so familiar with this kind of concept. In villages, people still prefer arranged marriages. Even in cities, some families with orthodox mindset prefer arranged marriages over love marriages. In love marriages, one gets the time to know each other, spend some quality time together, one is in love and then he / she plans to get married but in arranged marriages, it is a different story all together. In an arranged marriage, one falls in love with other person only after getting married. It may sound absurd to someone who really doesn't believe in this whole concept of love after marriage but this is what used to happen earlier and even is happening now in most of the cases. There are some people who even believe that arranged cum love marriage is more successful then love marriage.

In such a situation, one should take an example of the generation preceding us. Earlier, we used to see that almost everybody had an arranged matrimony and they fell in love only after marriage. And even after twenty five to thirty years of married life they love each other. So, it's not that you have to be in love with the person before marrying him / her. First one can get married and then start liking and eventually loving that person. It all depends on the perspective. It is not essential to only marry the person one loves.

 

One can always fall in love with his / her spouse gradually. It is a fact that love doesn't come forcibly to anyone, it just comes naturally. To fall in love with someone, you need to spend time with that person, need to understand each other; need to be loyal to each other. There should be thorough commitment, trust and empathy in your relationship, and then only it can grow into true love. In case of arranged marriages, when two unknown individuals start staying together, then naturally a kind of bonding develops between them. And once some quality time has been spent with the partner, one starts understanding each other's need and becomes more committed. After that, love is bound to happen. Physical attraction or love comes before the marriage but it is true unconditional love that comes only after long relationship.

 

There are some couples who love each other immensely even after year of marriage because they have been committed to each other. One can make any relationship work, if it is given the time and effort it deserves. Love after marriage starts only when one starts thinking the way his/ her spouse thinks. To be so committed, one should be his / her mirror image. Whether it love or arranged cum love marriage, the core essence in both remains the same that is true unconditional love.

Now, with passing time, in India the concept of love cum arranged matrimonial has started gaining popularity. The basic meaning of a love cum arranged marriage is that the couple chooses each other and receives their parent's approval of their relation after a formal talk.

Parents these days are liberal enough to allow their children to choose their own life partner, but the children are also more mature now and they keep the dignity of their parents and ask for their consent before taking the decision of marrying the person of their choice. So, love - arranged marriages not only bring pleasure and contentment between the couple but also among the two families, because the entire association is based on mutual understanding and love.

 

 

>> Concept of Arranged Marriages in India

Since the time unknown, the concept of arranged marriages has been prevalent in India. Even these days, there is an overwhelming majority of Indians who have their marriages planned and executed by their parents and other respected family-members, without the assent of the bride and groom. Arranged matches or arranged marriages are made after taking into account various factors such as age, height, personal values and tastes, the backgrounds of their families (wealth, social standing) and their castes and the astrological compatibility of the prospective couples' horoscopes.

In India, the institution of marriage is considered a very significant one. Generally in arranged marriages, both the parents and the young people feel that since they were older and wiser than their progeny, they would be able to find an appropriate match for their children with more forethought than the latter. Although in India, mostly marriages are arranged, some couples are opting for love marriage in urban towns and cities. Amongst the Indians who are residing in overseas, many marriages are still arranged with the support of the parents.

Even the so-called love marriages in India usually happen with the consent of parents, although their blessing may sometimes be a little reluctant. Marriages in India are considered to be a decision of lifetime that is why divorce rate in India is extremely low. In our country, 1.1% of marriages turn into a divorce compared with over 45.8% for USA. The concept of arranged marriages can be pointed out as the reason for the same. An arranged marriage is successfully the consequence of a wide search by both the girl's family and the boy's family. They make sure for compatibility without using emotions. It, therefore, incorporates some of the features of modern computer database based matchmaking. The below given factors are normally considered in Indian marriages to search for compatibility:-

* Values and personal expectations should go with each other

* Age and height - girl should generally be younger and shorter

* Looks should be acceptable to both them

* Religion should also preferably be same and same sect

* Mother tongue and caste should also be preferably same

* Diet (veg / non-veg / alcohol / smoking) may be different only if acceptable to the other

* Education should more or less be comparable

* Profession - it should be acceptable to each other

* Financial - It is a very important factor. The boy's current and future financial situation should be always be acceptable to the family of the girl.

* Astrological signs / attributes - both of these things should be compatible, if the two families believe in it.

The parents usually talk about the expectations with their son / daughter prior to searching for the right match. These expectations should be shared with relatives and family friends who can often bring suggestions / matches. The various Indian matrimonial sites endeavour to provide all kinds of databases that can be used to find matches using same kind of attributes. Other fact is that the Hindu Dharma accords paramount importance to marriage between two people who are found compatible. After the parents of both bride and groom agree with each other, then an engagement function is fixed and after that marriage date is decided as per bride and grooms horoscope.

After that, in the name of god, both the families exchange fruits and cloths as a sign of happy acceptance. After all this has happened, an auspicious day is chosen for the wedding, which is in accordance with the religious almanac and the bride and the groom's horoscope and also, if it is moon's phase (ascending is specifically preferred by some) apart from any other logistical considerations.

In the end, the wedding is conducted in accordance with all the Vedic rites and rituals with the invited guests (considered to be the 'society') in whose presence the girl is given away in holy wedlock to the boy. This means that from the day of the wedding, he has to consider himself responsible for fulfilling her smallest of small desires to the biggest of them, to the best of his capability. On that day, he promises to be faithful to her and to worship the ground she walks on. In return, she is to treat him as her lord and master, her guide and advisor through good and bad, for all through her life. 

 

 

>> Can Love Marriage Score Over Arranged Marriage?

This argument has been raised nth number of times and no one has ever been able to win this debate. In India, arranged marriages have always enjoyed an upper hand. Parents think that it is there utmost duty to find the most suitable match for their sons or daughters by looking through matrimonial or other sources.

Though perception is changing slowly and lots of youngsters are opting for love marriages, it is still opposed in small towns and cities. The outgoing youth of India today feels that they are mature enough to take such decisions all by themselves. Moreover, they feel that the person, whom they are planning to spend their rest of life with, should be of their own choice. But looking at the number of divorces and separations in urban India, the question of whether love marriages can score over arranged marriages remains unanswered. Education and media have played an important role in popularizing the concept of love marriages in India.

Amid popular love stories like Soni Mahiwal, India always had a long tradition of arranged marriages. With the coming of the British and the subsequent introduction of British education system, more Indians got educated.

Movies have influenced the masses as well as the classes to great extent. The approach to love and marriage as depicted in the movies has inspired Indian audiences to the extent that now love marriages are not considered as a taboo. Also, education and exposure to the media, have to some extent changed the mindset of the people and now they have realized that they need not be bound by tradition and they can choose their own marital partners. And for this, they don't have to depend on parents, matchmakers, relatives, astrologers or any other form of matrimony.

This change in mindset and opinions gave rise to number of love marriages. Presently, in our country we have arranged as well as love marriages taking place. Talking about love marriages, they provide time for mutual understanding between the couples which is obviously needed for any successful relation. This way they are better adjusted in the marriage when they finally take their wedding vows. In arrange marriages, there is a pressure to conform to parental expectations like producing a male heir, taking part in family rituals and traditions, putting up with sisters-in-laws, contributing to family expenses etc. Lovers have to try hard if their parents don't agree with the relation.

That is why it is said that Love is not an easy way out! Not all love marriages have happy endings. There are times when discord arises even in love marriages. In lot of love marriage cases, after spending a happy time of marriage, the many couples are seen regretting on their decisions. They find it hard to save the marriage and at last try to break. If they them self chosen their partner and had a perfect tuning then why this unhappy end of the relation after marriage? But there are other repercussions as well especially for girls. At times, to adjust mould themselves in a new environment, girls have to take extra efforts and initiatives in order to woo their in-laws. Parents also at times don't support their children and consider them responsible for their marriage. Perhaps to avoid such a situation, now-a-days many youngsters prefer arranged marriages.

People had this notion that arranged marriages used to happen only in the east but this was not always so, arranged marriages were happening even in Victorian Europe. The best and the safest part about the arranged marriage is that parents and the family is happy and they them self arrange the marriage. There are no tears and sacrifices for their permission.

Arranged marriage is a safe bet for women as it offers more protection and security to the women. It is difficult to decide which one can score over the other and which one is ideal is a never-ending debate. Be it a love or arranged marriage, marriage is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. It needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain the relation.

To support and live with each other for life-long, it requires patience, perseverance, dedication and obviously love and care. If one is able to sustain this forever, it is definitely and ideal marriage. Love is an important aspect, whether it happens before or after marriage is not important. It should happen and then happiness will follow and that's the secret behind a successful marriage.

 

 

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