Dating & Romance - Sexy Strong-Willed Women Seeking Men for Marriage

Some folks say that Marriage is dead.  That's not what these gals say.  Each and every one is a strong-willed woman who will settle for nothing except a lifelong partner.  One way or another, they all believe the same thing, as Alma puts it: "I'm a strong loving woman.  I'm intensely loyal and expect the same thing from my husband when I find him!"

"My name is Maria.  I am no longer interested in just dating.  I grew up in a traditional family and I want a traditional marriage."

I am a big girl, from the top of my head to my feet, plump toes and all.  I've been told that I'm pretty.  I know that I have a lifetime of love to give a true man.  I don't want a hookup - I want a lifetime commitment to one man."

Lonely Latina Woman.

"I know that there is a real man out there.  A hot lover.  A Romantic lover.  A man who will treasure me and the family we will create."

My name is Leanne.  I'm an All-American girl from the South.  I'm a Christian with attitude, a Republican to the bone - and I'm a virgin and will be one until my wedding night. 

I will give my husband my full love forever.  I will spoil him and live for him.  And he will love me the same way - if he has other thoughts, I know how to handle a Savage Varminter bolt action.

Sexy woman chef seeking real love from hungry man.  I'm looking for a man who wants to be pleased - in the kitchen and in the bedroom.  Warning: in the kitchen I will be your slave.  In the bedroom I will be on top.  I'm a real cookin' cowgirl.

Now come on now - don't you want to be mommied at the dining table but dominated in bed?

Single Woman seeking marriage.

"When we take our vows at the Holy Alter, we will pledge our undying love before God for all time."

>>> Be An Online Dating Stud - 10 Easy Steps 

Hooking up with women from dating sites doesn't need to be difficult. In fact, when you have a good system in place it becomes an astonishingly simple procedure.

The following is an overview of the steps you'll need to take to go from random strangers to intimate lovers and become a certified online stud.

Step 1) Get in the right "mind-state" for online dating You don't need to psychoanalyze yourself, or do a bunch of "inner-work" to succeed with online dating. But it sure helps if you're in a decent mood, and it's even better when you're "high on life". To get in the best mood possible, try combining a handful of mood adjusters, you could as an example: go for a run, drink a caramel latte, put your favorite song on, and call a friend. These things will make you extra happy to be alive, and that positive emotional energy will be apparent to women online.

Step 2) Put up a non-creepy profile Your profile doesn't need to be perfect. But it absolutely cannot be perceived as creepy by women. First, get a picture of yourself with a calm smile or other acceptable expression on your face. Second, make sure you are dressed cool in the picture, that means you've got to wear a SHIRT! And third, don't mention sex, past girlfriends, Star Trek, or how much you love children. Instead tell an interesting anecdote or two that paint an interesting picture of the life you're living, and try to show some enthusiasm about it!

Step 3) Email some women When you find a woman you would like to date, read her profile and pick out something that genuinely interests you. Then make a comment about it. Don't tell her how pretty she is or how much you have in common, just make platonic conversation. The fact that you are interested in her as a woman is obvious and doesn't need to be stated via email. Acting chill will show her that you aren't a desperate horn-ball like every other guy who has emailed her this week, and it will give her something concrete to respond back to.

Step 4) Chill After you've emailed a handful of girls, take a break and do something else fun. Sitting at the computer all day is depressing and not good for your game. Don't keep checking your email, a watched pot never boils, so focus your attention elsewhere.

Step 5) Exchange Numbers When a girl writes you back, don't hesitate. Immediately ask for her number and even give her yours. As a general rule, women only respond to men they are open to dating. Don't ruin the awesomeness that is about to happen by playing it safe and beating around the bush, just go for it.

You don't need to try to be smooth about getting her number either, just say, "Hey want to get together for a drink later in the week? My number is 222-XXX-XXXX or I could give you a call."

When you play it like this, chances are very good that she'll call you or email you back her number. Giving you her number will seem like even less of a big deal because she already has yours, and bear in mind that if she is writing you she already actively wants to give you her number. Most other guys ask for numbers rather than giving theirs out. So by giving your number up front you are showing her that you're different and cooler. It shows that you think of yourself as her equal not some stalker like dude that is trying to get her number.

Step 6) Call her up and arrange a dateYou should always try to call your girl up the same day you get her number. This way you can be sure that she still remembers who you are and why she gave you her digits. Putting it off for 24 hours or more makes you look either scared, or disinterested.

When you get her on the phone, remember you don't need to entertain her or try to make her think you are the coolest guy in the world. Be calm, ask her how her day is going? What is she up to? Has she been on dates with guys she met online before? When is she free to get together? The topic of your convo isn't that important. Just focus on being calm and happy.

Pick a day that you are both free, and tell her what you're going to do. I recommend meeting up at a casual bar/restaurant. If she gives you a hard time about how busy she is, call her bluff and tell her to call you when she gets some free time.

Step 7) Show up and play it cool Get to the prearranged venue on time, dressed in clothes that make you feel confident, and in the best mood you can summon. If she's there already, smile say, "hi" and give her a hug. If she isn't there yet, sit at the bar and get a water or something. If she shows up and you're waiting by the door pacing you'll look too tense, but if you've already ordered a shot and a beer that may seem a bit weird too.

Step 8) Don't just conversate, RELATE Don't waste your mental energy focusing on the outcome or your date. Don't "try hard" to impress her one way or another, and absolutely never attempt to employ any complicated "seduction techniques".

Instead focus on HER, listen to what she says, and respond to it authentically. The better your conversation skills and sense of humor, the better you'll do here. If you are lacking these skills, this is great practice. Try to just let go and tap into the fun side of yourself that doesn't really give a &%$#!

Step 9) Invite her over After an hour or two of talking, gazing into her eyes and so forth, pick a non-threatening reason that she should come home with you. Just saying, "Wanna go back to my place" sounds too much like, "Wanna go grope each other in the dark?"

Instead, lay a foundation beforehand. You could talk about a DVD set that you just got and then invite her over to watch some of it. Maybe you just got a new houseplant you want to show her, or you've got a great view of the sunset from your roof-deck. It doesn't matter what it is, mundane things are good because they don't come off as bragging.

Step 10) Turn on the Sexy Back at your place, hold back for a few minutes to help her feel at ease. Offer her a comfortable seat, a refreshing beverage, and stay calm so she knows that you aren't a psycho. Then cozy up and give her a smooch. 
 

>>> Online Dating Tips - How To Gain Her Trust

When you're doing online dating, it's very important that the women you talk to feel that you are a good guy who they can trust, and not some sketchy weirdo. Otherwise they won't feel right about meeting up with you even if you have other attractive qualities.

So, if you want to excel at online dating you need to learn how to gain a woman's trust quickly. Today I'm going to show you a simple formula for building trust that will save you a ton of time and effort.

This technique is very effectively, so before we go on there's something I must make abundantly clear. I'm sure that YOU are already clear on this, but just in case anyone is confused... Never ever use this formula for evil, and never take advantage of a woman's trust!

Okay, Lets proceed...

The way you get a woman to trust you is by showing her your own vulnerability.

This shows her that you're a real person, and that you're going to be honest with her about who you are. It's the opposite of bragging, which as we all know comes off as very inauthentic.

So, let her in on a couple of your fears, concerns, problems or weaknesses. By doing this, not only are you being honest, but you are coming across as GENUINE.

And all people, male and female, trust in what we perceive to be genuine or AUTHENTIC.

Now obviously you don't want to go overboard telling a girl all kinds of bad stuff about yourself. Just mention small quirky things about yourself. Maybe you just put on 20 lbs. and you're feeling a little fat, or maybe you just finished grad school and you're concerned that you picked the wrong career.

Everyone has several small flaws to pick from, so it should be easy to find a couple good ones. I for example have a uni-brow that I need to trim all the time, I'm going bald, and I have bad skin, so I've got three insecurities right there.

Now what happens after you've exposed your minor vulnerability to your girl is really, really cool. Chances are she's gonna tell you that your flaw isn't a bad thing and that she has similar issues. (I can't count how many girls I've told that I wished I could grow some hair, only to have them caress my dome and tell me how sexy my bald head is)

Then you can listen and be supportive while she talks about her vulnerabilities. Talk like this bonds the two of you and quickly builds trust.

Now in order to make this formula work effectively, you need to know when and how to utilize it.

How to use: The key to telling girls about your flaws is to do it in a natural authentic way... Saying, "I have bad skin and I feel really vulnerable about it... hold me," sounds fake and contrived. Instead say, "Yeah this zit on the tip of my nose is driving me freaking crazy, They always told me I'd outgrow my acne, y'know! What's up with that?"

Don't make it sound like a sympathy plea. Let it come out naturally. In some cases you can wait until the girl discloses a vulnerability first, and then tell her that you deal with the same thing.

When to use: Avoid talking about your flaws in the body of your online dating profile. That's just too much self disclosure too soon. And remember, part of what creates the bond of trust between you and your girl is that you're sharing these vulnerabilities with her alone, not with everybody who reads your profile.

Instead, wait till you get her sending you emails, and even then, start small. For example, you could start by telling her that you're waiting to get your results from the bar exam and you're pretty sure you failed. Then later when you're on your date you can break out the big guns, like telling her how your big sisters called you bubbles because you used to fart in the bathtub.

It doesn't matter how attractive women find you, if they don't trust you they'll slam on the breaks. So be sure to use this formula to build trust and make women feel comfortable doing what they already want to do... YOU! 
 

>>> How To Get Out Of The "Friends Zone"   

When you're doing online dating, it's very important that the women you talk to feel that you are a good guy who they can trust, and not some sketchy weirdo. Otherwise they won't feel right about meeting up with you even if you have other attractive qualities.

So, if you want to excel at online dating you need to learn how to gain a woman's trust quickly. Today I'm going to show you a simple formula for building trust that will save you a ton of time and effort.

This technique is very effectively, so before we go on there's something I must make abundantly clear. I'm sure that YOU are already clear on this, but just in case anyone is confused... Never ever use this formula for evil, and never take advantage of a woman's trust!

Okay, Lets proceed...

The way you get a woman to trust you is by showing her your own vulnerability.

This shows her that you're a real person, and that you're going to be honest with her about who you are. It's the opposite of bragging, which as we all know comes off as very inauthentic.

So, let her in on a couple of your fears, concerns, problems or weaknesses. By doing this, not only are you being honest, but you are coming across as GENUINE.

And all people, male and female, trust in what we perceive to be genuine or AUTHENTIC.

Now obviously you don't want to go overboard telling a girl all kinds of bad stuff about yourself. Just mention small quirky things about yourself. Maybe you just put on 20 lbs. and you're feeling a little fat, or maybe you just finished grad school and you're concerned that you picked the wrong career.

Everyone has several small flaws to pick from, so it should be easy to find a couple good ones. I for example have a uni-brow that I need to trim all the time, I'm going bald, and I have bad skin, so I've got three insecurities right there.

Now what happens after you've exposed your minor vulnerability to your girl is really, really cool. Chances are she's gonna tell you that your flaw isn't a bad thing and that she has similar issues. (I can't count how many girls I've told that I wished I could grow some hair, only to have them caress my dome and tell me how sexy my bald head is)

Then you can listen and be supportive while she talks about her vulnerabilities. Talk like this bonds the two of you and quickly builds trust.

Now in order to make this formula work effectively, you need to know when and how to utilize it.

How to use: The key to telling girls about your flaws is to do it in a natural authentic way... Saying, "I have bad skin and I feel really vulnerable about it... hold me," sounds fake and contrived. Instead say, "Yeah this zit on the tip of my nose is driving me freaking crazy, They always told me I'd outgrow my acne, y'know! What's up with that?"

Don't make it sound like a sympathy plea. Let it come out naturally. In some cases you can wait until the girl discloses a vulnerability first, and then tell her that you deal with the same thing.

When to use: Avoid talking about your flaws in the body of your online dating profile. That's just too much self disclosure too soon. And remember, part of what creates the bond of trust between you and your girl is that you're sharing these vulnerabilities with her alone, not with everybody who reads your profile.

Instead, wait till you get her sending you emails, and even then, start small. For example, you could start by telling her that you're waiting to get your results from the bar exam and you're pretty sure you failed. Then later when you're on your date you can break out the big guns, like telling her how your big sisters called you bubbles because you used to fart in the bathtub.

It doesn't matter how attractive women find you, if they don't trust you they'll slam on the breaks. So be sure to use this formula to build trust and make women feel comfortable doing what they already want to do... YOU!

>>> Men's Dating Profile Mistakes That You Must Avoid 

Do you know how to get a ton of love from women on dating sites? It's easy, just don't make any of these awful mistakes that will completely ruin your chances:

1) No Picture. You need a picture dude! Women won't waste time on you if you don't show them what you look like upfront.

2) Bad Picture. There are a lot of things that can go wrong in a profile picture... Make sure yours is clear, that it shows your face and shoulders, that you have an appropriate expression on your face, and that your style is at least decent.

3) Strange User-name. Don't get weird here or give yourself a sexual name like "Big_DaddyP"

4) Boring Headline. Saying "Hey", "Insert Headline Here", or anything boring and generic is going to make you look boring and generic. Instead get creative and say something fun like "Guaranteed Housebroken"

5) Boring cliche content. Writing that you are "down to earth" or "an honest guy with strong work ethic" is going to put women to sleep. Check out some other guys profiles and make a point not to sound like every other Joe Schmoe on match.com

6) No captivating images. Writing a profile is like painting a picture. You've got to show the ladies what you're all about and give them an idea of what it would be like to be with you. This is done by describing yourself and your life in a pleasant descriptive way that shows off your well develop self-image.

7) No "Call To Action." Yeah if the rest of your profile is great then she might email you... But you definitely up your chances of being contacted first if you end your profile with a strong call to action. A lot of guys get weird at the ends of there profiles and start waffling around, and that leaves things on a sour note. Instead just confidently close your message so that it leaves her wanting more. Which means, you tell her what to do next as in, "...So if you'd like to see me in real life sometime... get in touch!"

>>> How to Date The Hottest Women Online 

If you're anything like me, you want to date the hottest, sexiest, best looking women possible. However, most guys are very intimidated by stunningly gorgeous women, and are completely unable to approach them. So, today, I'm going to teach you some simple guidelines for dating the most attractive 1% of women on dating sites.

Here's the thing... Dating very attractive women isn't any "harder" than it is to date any other type of women, You've just got to go about it the right way. Here's how:

1) Take her off that pedestal! Always assume that you have a can date ANY girl you want regardless of what she looks like. Your mindset is extremely important here... If she's on a dating site, she is looking for something and that something can be YOU! The more confident you are and the more you treat her like a normal person the better she is going to respond to you.

2) Act unaffected by her beauty. When you contact a super fine woman on a dating site, don't switch up your game just because she's extra hot. Of course if you are lacking game in general, you need to fix that... But assuming that your game is decent with "normal" girls, you should stand a good chance of hooking up with a real hottie. Just start a casual conversation as you would with any other girl, by mentioning something in her profile!

3) Be bold but classy. This is key with any woman, you've got to step up to the plate and be a man. Let her know right up front that you would like to hang-out. The best looking women often get less attention from guys because everybody's too intimidated by them. And the guys who do email them or approach them out in real life are either too anxious and wussyish about it or they are too sex-focused or aggressive. All these super hotties are waiting for is a guy who can step to them like a classy man.

4) Never let her know you are intimidated. Not feeling intimidated is pretty easy over the computer, but when you meet in person you may feel those old pangs of unworthiness creeping back into the picture. This is okay, just don't succumb to them, push forward and act brave no matter how you feel inside. With a little practice, you'll put these "wussy" feelings behind you forever...

>>> How to Get Women To Chase You - Instead Of The Other Way Around! 

Most men shoot themselves in the foot by pursuing women aggressively a.k.a. "chasing" them. Not only does this behavior turn a woman off, but it completely destroys any possibility that the woman will chase you.

In any relationship, at the beginning, one party is going to be more interested than the other. As a guy, it's always better for you if the girl is more interested in you than you are in her. Here's how to make sure that women chase you rather than vice-versa:

1. Go slow at first When you first start dating, or even just talking to a woman you're interested in, you want to take it really slow. Don't be all up in her business 24/7 asking her to hang-out, texting her, bringing her little presents or whatever. Instead, act casual. Don't treat her like you think she's a big deal. Act like she's just some girl you know.

2. Give her space If you meet a woman at a bar, don't suffocate her with your attention. The mistake most guys make is that when they find a girl who is willing to talk to them, they stick on her like a piece of lint from that moment on. They stay by her all night, they ignore everybody else, and they basically act like she is the focal point of their entire universe, bad, bad, bad!

Instead, talk to her for a minute and then turn to your friend or the guy next to you at the bar and start talking to them, or go take a leak, or whatever and then go back to the girl. This way she'll be thinking "hmmm? I wonder if he's going to come back?" The same thing goes when you've just started dating a woman. Keep doing the stuff you were doing before you met her, like going out with your friends... Don't try to see her everyday.

3. Date other girls When you're dating new women all the time, you send out a totally different vibe than a guy who doesn't date much. You'll seem relaxed and content, not anxious and horny like some guy who hasn't gotten laid in 10 years.

Also, a woman is way more likely to chase you if she thinks you date a lot. If she thinks you're all hers, she'll wait for you to call her. If she thinks she has competition she'll be thinking, "What is he doing right now? I hope he's not with that blonde he was talking to... Dammit I should give him a call!"

Of course you shouldn't mention the other girls you are dating, just act like it's assumed. You don't even need to be dating anyone else for this to work, just act like you are try to develop an abundance mindset towards dating.

While dating multiple girls is easier said than done, once you have three or four girls you are seeing, new ones will just seek you out and start chasing you because you are putting out this crazy stud vibe that women can't resist. 

>>> Should You "Neg" or "Dis" Women Online?  

One thing I've learned as a dating coach is that most guys have no idea how to talk to women online. You should see some of the stuff guys are sending to women in an attempt to get a date, it's pathetic.

It's particularly sad when a guy actually puts effort into crafting a witty, well worded email, but is still oblivious about how to communicate in an attractive way.

One huge mistake guys make is thinking that they need to use some sort of "online seduction tactics", in order to attract women and get dates.

If you've read any of my stuff, you know I'm not a big fan of these convoluted routines. Today, I wanted to talk to you about one of these tactics that can really screw you up big-time, online or off. It's called using "negs".

Using negs is when you say something negative i.e. insulting to a girl, as a means of attracting her.

Common examples are asking her if she shops at the Salvation Army or saying, "Hey, I love your fake-tan, you are so ORANGE!"

A host of so-called "dating experts" have been promoting different forms of this technique for YEARS. And they have many colorful explanations for why negs work. The basic idea behind this method is that your "neg" is totally different from what all the other guys are saying.

Your "neg" knocks the girl off balance, and makes her wonder, "who is this guy, he must be really confident to talk that way to me."

Wow, what a concept... barf.

Yes, "negs" may work better than sputtering gibberish, but that's about it. Negs, are just another stupid distraction that keep guys from focusing on the important stuff, like relating authentically.

There are so so so many much better ways to relate to women than to take weird little potshots at their looks. I can't believe that so many guys are still being duped into believing that this is an effective way to talk to women.

Crazier still, now guys are trying to use negs online. In fact, these "be a cocky guy online" strategies are now widely popular. Guys think the best way to pull girls on the internet is by busting on them with negative jokes in emails. And it's just so wrong...

I'm forced to call Shenanigans!

Here's the truth about negs:

Negs are a desperate attempt for attention by guys who don't know the real way to attract women.

If you know how to communicate with women, you don't need negs. If you have the positive masculine attitude that women are attracted to, you don't need negs,

Any guy who is considering using "negs" or any other so-called "seduction tactic", would be a lot better off, doing a little reflection... Why do you think you need "negs"? What is at the root of your lack of confidence with women? Don't you deserve the attention of hot women, without needing to resort to giving backhanded compliments?

If you're really motivated to get better with women, sooner or later you will learn for yourself that "negs" and similar seduction tactics are not the way to go.

I never use them, and none of the guys I know who are great with women every use them.

Yeah sure, we tease women sometimes. When I'm dating a girl, I'll say all kinds of crazy things to her that she's never heard before. I'll tease the hell out of her, and talk so sexy that she'll turn beet red...

But don't LEAD with that stuff! Not in an email!

Save that until she's comfortable with you, so she doesn't think you are a socially maladjusted creep. In the email, keep it light!

"Hey what's up... (mention something from her profile, and put your own little spin on it)... anyways, let's get a drink!" That's how you talk to girls online effectively. Quit trying to be funny, and cocky, and outrageous with your fancy "Pick-Up Artist" tactics.

Don't try so hard, keep it light and smooth, that's what girls are looking for.

>>> How to Pick-Up Women at Bars and Clubs 

If you go to a popular bar or club on a Friday or Saturday night its going to be packed full of 18-35 year old women. Most of them will be single, many will be good-looking, and they will be in all states of drunkenness.

Even better, a decent percentage of these girls will be open to going home with you if you know what you are doing!

So... that's what I'm going to teach you. Here are 5 big things you can do to be more successful with bringing home women from bars and clubs...

1) DON'T PUT OUT A NEEDY VIBE If you want to get better at meeting women at bars/clubs it's important to enjoy going out, without worrying about trying to bring somebody home. Obviously that's a major objective of yours, or you wouldn't be reading this article. But, in order to reach this goal, you need to back off it for a minute and get your understanding straight.

So many guys focus all their energy on picking up women when they go out, that they forget to have a good time. They think that they NEED to put all this effort into picking up women, and this is pretty much the definition of being a desperate dude.

Look, every guy wants to sleep with attractive women. Every guy would like to be able to bring home ladies he meets at bars. But not all guys are NEEDY for it. Women can sense if you're needy for sex/female validation, and it skeeves them out.

The guys who attract lots of women aren't needy for them, because they already have them. They have options, so when they do go out they aren't starving for female attention. This is the mind-set you need to develop!

This lack of neediness is what can give you the upper hand with women, because when you aren't needy, you care about the interaction less than the girl does. You can say whatever you want, and not care what any woman thinks of you. This allows you to appear very confident, secure, and authentic.

So don't act needy, don't think of yourself as needy. Go out for purposes other than picking up women. These could include wanting to:

-Spend quality time with friends.

-Hear bands/djs/music you like.

-Have a few drinks and get a buzz going.

-Get dinner/happy hour/bar food you enjoy.

-Just get out of the house for a couple hours, and see a new environment.

Yes you will see hot women around you, but don't sweat them, just enjoy the moment. This will let them notice you and the non-needy vibe you are putting out. I'll explain how to meet them without sweating them in a sec.

2) LOOK SHARP I cannot emphasize enough the importance of dressing well, and having your look together. In a bar/club environment, women will flirt with you if you are looking good... they will. Guys who talk about, "women don't approach men in clubs", obviously aren't looking good when they go out. They might think they are, but their poor results speak for themselves.

You won't believe how much female attention you will get just by tweaking your look a little. This doesn't mean dressing up like some clown pick-up artist, wearing fedoras and goggles... And you don't need to classical "good-looks" by any stretch of the imagination. You just gotta have a fresh style, be well groomed, and sort out any body-language issues you may have.

3) GO OUT WITH GUYS WHO ARE GOOD WITH WOMEN It's fine to go hangout with all kinds of people. I hang out with old people, young people, women, married guys, guys who suck with women etc... All kinds of people, it's important to diversify. However, when you are actively trying to pick-up women out at 21+ establishments it pays to go with a buddy or two who will help you in your quest.

Women almost always go out in groups or 2,3 or 4. So you should go out with at least one friend if not 2 or 3. More than that and the dynamics get complicated.

You want these to be guys you like, and can have fun with. Talk to your buddies, have fun, make jokes, check out all the sexy women. Keep a positive vibe going. Then when you see some girls you like, approach them together and help each other out. Buddies can help you in a variety of ways...

- They make you look cool, because you have cool friends.

- They help you get a good vibe going and keep it going.

- They can talk to the other girls so they don't cock-block you.

- They give you somebody else to talk to. Instead of just talking back and forth with the girl, ignore her for a minute and just talk to your boy, let her watch you and see you interact with others.

- They can assist with bringing the girls back home.

A lot of times girls will be more open to leaving the bar/club if it's you, your boy, her and her girl, instead of just you and her. They feel safer, because it's not like you are just going home to hook-up right away. You are going home to party more, have more drinks as a group, all go in the hot-tub together or whatever. If you don't know any guys who are good with women, don't despair. You can go out with other guys so long as they don't sabotage your efforts. They can help you just to a lesser degree.

You should also consider being more social in general so you can make friends with more guys who are good with women. Hangout with people you usually don't, guys from work, school, friends of friends, etc... Some people are better at making friends than others, but just like getter better with women learning to make friends is a learnable skill.

4) DON'T DO "COLD APPROACHES", OR USE PUA ROUTINES ETC... So called "PUAS" (pick-up artists) recommend all sorts of special tactics for picking up girls at bars and clubs, and most of these methods are pure bull-crap developed out of despair, don't believe the hype! These methods are PROOF that their creators don't have clue about women or how attraction works. Sure some of these methods work... some of the time. But they are NOT necessary, they mostly just confuse guys, and cause way more harm than good. If you've been incorporating any of these PUA techniques into your "game", drop them ASAP, they're part of the problem.

Instead, say something original... like "hi", or "hey... how are you doing?", "Do you mind if we join you?", "Where do I know you from?" It's not about the specific words you use. Any woman who is being honest will back me up on this, It's about who you are, who she perceives you to be.

Also, don't just approach any and every woman that you wouldn't mind having a roll in the hay with. This goes back to #1 not putting out a needy vibe. I particularly recommend only approaching women that are giving you some type of "GO" sign.

This can range from, looking at you, looking at you repeatedly, looking at you and smiling, looking and smiling repeatedly, brushing against you, or talking to you. If a woman does any of these things to you when you are out at a bar/club, go for it. Walking up to women who haven't noticed you yet and then trying to hook them into an interaction with you is just not the most productive way to go about things.

Again, if you go out and no women look at you, smile at you or talk to you, it's time to look at the other things that you are doing... Are you looking sharp? Are you with guys who are good with women? Are you putting out a needy vibe?

5) GO TO PLACES THAT CATER TO YOUR DEMOGRAPHIC There are all different types of bars and clubs. They each have their own different kinds of vibes and different kinds of women that like to hang-out there.You are going to meet different girls at loud "spring break" types of clubs than at classy lounges, neighborhood pubs, or the bar at Chili's.

Now I like all types of women... but there are some things I am definitely not looking for. So this means I'm not going to be looking at the divorcee bars, or rowdy biker type watering holes. I might go to those places for fun, and I could possibly find someone I'd like there, but those places don't typically cater to the demographic I'm interested in.

It also helps to be aware of what type of women are going to be feeling you. If you are an older guy in a fancy suit they might not be digging your style at the young scenester bar. The women there are more interested in the metro sexual guys with beards and scarves.

...So to recap. There are lots of attractive women at bars that want to hook up with you. Just make sure you:

-Don't act needy. Relax, and focus on having fun with your friends.

-Look sharp.

-Go with guys who are good with women.

-Wait until women show interest, then keep your approach simple and real.

-Go to bars that cater to women in you demographic.

And you should do just fine.

Also... and this is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT: Only get a woman's number in a bar as a last resort, because she has to go with her friends or whatever. Girls from bars/clubs are much more likely to flake on you than girls you meet under other circumstances.

If you meet a girl you like at a bar try to keep the interaction going. If you have a buddy and you are talking to a couple girls, make sure to invite them to come over and keep the party going at your place. This is the exact dynamic most girls who go out to the bar are looking for! 

>>> Attracting Women Online -- Even If You're Short, Ugly, Or Flat Broke!  

Do you have floppy man-boobs? Or maybe you've got a bald head that's covered with liver spots. Well, whatever "flaws" you may think you have, you don't need to let them stop you from dating the women you really want.

Allow me to explain this awesome reality to you.

Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE has some sort of flaw that they can potentially feel very insecure about, but these flaws themselves aren't really the problem standing between you and the women of your dreams. It's how you deal with your perceived flaws that matters.

There are 3 basic ways that guys behave as a result of their flaws:

1) Allowing your flaws to limit your life. This is when you accept defeat, and say, "I'm too (fill in the blank) to date the women I want, so I won't even bother trying." If you do this, you won't even get around to setting up a good dating profile or writing emails to the hottest girls, because you are already assuming defeat.

2) Trying to eliminate your flaws. Putting effort into correcting whatever you perceive to be wrong with you can be good in some cases. For instance, if you think you are fat, then it might not be such a bad idea to do some cardio and cut out the soda.

However, if you think you look too old, doing something drastic like getting plastic surgery might not be in your best interest. Also, there are some perceived flaws that cannot be remedied. If you think you're too short, you can't get shin-implants to make yourself six foot two!

A lot of guys who use online dating are also into self-improvement. Online dating is after all a great way to make positive changes in your dating life. The problem is that just as most men lack a clear road-map for success with online dating, they also lack a clear strategy for fixing their flaws. They put all this effort into losing weight, putting on muscle, making more money etc... and they never figure out how to do it.

Worse still, even if they are successful at eliminating a perceived flaw, this doesn't guarantee that they will suddenly be able to attract women.

3) Being OK with your flaws. This one's the big winner, being "cool" with your flawed self shows women that you are the pick of the litter, because it shows that you have the confident, masculine attitude they ADORE.

The truth is that most women don't really care if you are short, fat, broke or whatever else. If you know how to relate to them authentically, and you've got the right attitude they aren't going to care about anything else.

While some women might say that they want a guy with money or a guy over six feet tall, when a secure masculine man comes along, those logical ideas about who she wants to date go out the window. Women simply aren't hung up on your flaws the way that you think they are.

Once you realize this, it's easy to be okay with your flaws. After all, being short or whatever isn't the real issue is it? If you could be short and still date a whole squad of hot cheerleaders, would you still feel bad about your height?

All you need to do is attract one hot girl, and then you realize, "Hey, women don't care that I'm (fill in the blank)" and you can move on and start living up to your potential.

One of the great things about Online Dating is that most of the other guys on dating sites are extremely insecure. In other words, the competition is WEAK. By creating a profile and writing emails that cast you in a secure self-accepting light you can position yourself for massive success. 

>>> Getting Women To Meet You Offline - Before Marriage Comes the First Date 

They call it "online dating" but the whole point is to get girls to meet you offline, out in the real world, and to do it quick. I'm always shocked when guys tell me about emailing chicks back and forth for literally weeks or even months without actually meeting up with them! It's bananas.

If that's what you're looking for, fine, go ahead and keep emailing. But I've got a feeling you'd prefer to hangout with a girl in real life.

So, here's the boiled down version of how to turn emails into dates, in 2 easy steps...

1) Realize that she wants to date you and respond accordingly When a woman writes to you on a dating site, it's because she wants to date you. The only reason emails don't turn into dates is if you personally screw 'em up. So when you get an email, think to yourself, "okay, here's another girl that wants to date me" and then send her an email based on that belief.

Don't chit chat, don't tell her your life story, don't ask her a bunch of probing questions. You are a man whose got things going on, you need to be handling your business, not asking some chick what kind of music she likes.

You should say something more than "can I call you?" But for Pete's sake, keep it brief. Respond to whatever she said in her email to you. It doesn't matter what you say exactly, just make a random comment that is somewhat interesting. If she says she just got back from the Bahamas, tell her about when your sailboat was surrounded by sharks one time, and then on a separate line at the bottom of your email write, "What's your number? We should meet up this weekend if you are free."

If she says she wants to email more first, give her a chance. However, once she's sent you 4 emails and not had the courtesy to provide you with her number feel free to tell her, "I'm not really a big e-mailer" and then give her yours.

2) Call her up and ask her out When you get the digits, call her up right away (so long as it's a reasonable hour.) It's important to have positive, calm energy when you talk to her. If she gets a nervous, or depressed vibe she 's going to wonder if you are a creep.

So, do what you've got to do to get yourself into a good mood. Go play Frisbee with a friend, eat an ice-cream sundae, whatever it takes.

When you get her on the phone, act casual, don't try to get cute or use some bogus seduction routine. Just say, "Hey, this is Jake" and then let her talk. Don't try to tell her a funny story. Say normal low-key things like, "How are you?" and "What are you up to today?"

If she asks you what you are doing, you might say, "I don't know what I'm doing for dinner, I defrosted some salmon, but I don't really feel like cooking." If she tells you something shocking say, "I can't believe it either, that's nuts." If her girlfriend got her an awesome gift say, "My friends suck, how come nobody got me that for my birthday!" and so forth. Don't try to impress, don't try to be that cocky flirty guy... just be chill.

Shoot the bull for about five minutes and then ask her when she is free this week. When you find a night that works for both of you say, "Okay, cool so I'll meet you at (wherever YOU pick) at 7:00... okay, sounds good I'll see you then!"

Then, go meet her at the prearranged time and place. It's just that easy

>>> Online Dating -- How To Attract Younger Women 

These days, there are a growing number of very young women turning to the internet to find men. If you know what you're doing, you can line up a dates with women in their late teens (18+) and early twenties, even if you're 30, 40, or even 55 years old... Lucky you!

However, there are some major differences between attracting a younger woman and attracting girls your own age that you should keep in mind...

1) Don't make a big deal out of your age difference.

Don't mention your age difference unless the girl brings it up. Don't mention it in email, don't mention it on the phone, don't mention it in bed. Don't mention it period! There is no good reason to call her attention to the fact that when she was in kindergarten you were going to USC. There are a million better things to talk about that will make her feel more positive emotions about you.

If she does bring it up, pay attention to her so she doesn't think that it's an issue you are trying to blow off. Just agree with her, say, "Yeah I know I'm a bit older, I hope that's not a problem for you..." Don't frame it as your problem, like there is something wrong with you.

Most young women aren't actively looking to date guys 10+ years older than them, just like they aren't actively looking to date ugly guys or flat broke guys. But they WILL usually be able to deal with a guy's old age, or lack of good looks or what have you, if he's doing everything else right... So don't look at your age as a problem and she won't either.

2) Don't be too Old-Mannish

So you're getting a little long in the tooth, fine. That doesn't mean you need to start wearing pleated khakis and drinking ensure. Age really is just a number. I know 26 year old guys who act and think way older (in a bad way) than guys in their 40s. And all women, regardless of their age would rather date the fun, young thinking, older guys.

If your evenings consist of clipping coupons and drinking prune juice, then you gotta get out of your rocking chair and get that blood flowing. Hit the gym and get those droopy pecs back into shape, take a class, join a coed sports team, and most importantly hang around with younger thinking people!

3) Don't try to act overly young.

On the flip-side, if you are 50+ and dressing like a Beastie Boy circa 1987, you're gonna have a problem. It's all well and good to be young at heart, but don't make it look like you are trying hard, or trying to relive your youth. Instead, just be a cool older guy who is secure with himself.

You don't need to be up on all the pop culture stuff that a 22 year old kid is to show a woman that you are still "hip." You've got a lot of things to offer a woman that most young guys just can't provide. Things like maturity, stability, experience with life, and experience with women, just to name a few.

4) Use the same basic approach online as you would with an older girl.

You don't need to use a new, unique method for approaching a younger girl. Just send her a short email where you mention something from her profile and say something interesting about it. She'll look at your profile and if she likes what she sees, she'll write you back. The important thing is having a picture and profile that make you look like a positive, interesting, masculine guy, who isn't old-mannish or trying to be too young.

So, don't talk about your career, your kids, your gout or anything else that's gonna raise a grey flag.

For your picture... Don't post a misleading picture from when you were younger, that's just depressing. Instead, get a youthful pic of yourself right now, have some coffee, get a current haircut, put on a cool shirt and smile! Click, there you go, put that up on match.com and start talking to some co-eds!

==>> Jake Vandenhoff is a dating coach and author specializing in self-development. His programs help men build self-esteem and transform their love lives. Jake's first book "Online Dating Playbook" offers men a step by step guide for attracting women online. Learn how to attract hot young women online and off by employing simple psychological principles at: http://www.jakevandenhoff.com/...  A good profile pretty much guarantees you a stead stream of winks, emails, phone numbers and dates. If you want a profile that gets results, I invite you to check out my Online Dating Playbook and claim your FREE Online Dating Secrets E-course...

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