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>> TAKE TWO MAGIC STEPS TO A MAGIC RELATIONSHIP by Eileen Edwards
Have you heard the story about the Mexican, his dog and the cactus? It goes like this, there was a British tourist driving through the Mexican desert when he saw a Mexican sitting in the shade of a cactus with his dog. The dog was howling piteously. Being a caring sort of person the tourist stopped and asked the Mexican "what's the matter with your dog?" "He is sitting on a cactus," replied the Mexican. "Why doesn't he move?" asked the tourist. " He will" replied the Mexican " it just doesn't hurt enough yet."
If this brings a smile to your lips maybe its a smile of recognition. Many women put up with and underestimate the pain of not having a life partner. Or being in a relationship that never lives up to its true potential. The trouble with this response is that they stay in pain and don't resolve the situation. There are many questions.
The good news is that there is an answer and its just two short steps away. First make a commitment to change. I still remember the evening I did this although its decades ago. My thought process went something like this-Eileen, you are not a stupid woman you are successful at work and have good friendships with people of both sexes. How come you are such a loser in relationships? I looked into my future and didn't like what a saw. In my mid-twenties with a divorce and a broken engagement behind me it looked bleak. I saw the years stretching ahead with one failed relationship after another. So what was I doing wrong.
Nothing, I was pretty much going about my relationships in the way everyone else I knew did. That was the problem. Despite having success models for many things our society has none for success in personal relationships. I knew that I had to find or create my own success model otherwise I was stuck with my current problems. At that moment I made a commitment to myself and my future. It changed my entire life.
I decided that I would have a happy, joyous, successful relationship whatever it took. I was willing to invest time, energy, money to move myself away from the pain of my failed relationships to where I wanted to be.At that point I was just one step from success.
Is it hurting enough for you yet to move away from pain and towards pleasure? This little exercise will help you to find out. Choose a time when you are alone and will be undisturbed for at least twenty minutes. Sit in a comfortable chair and close your eyes. Picture your future, what will your life be like in five years from now if you don't change what you are currently doing? Now ask yourself this question supposing I make a commitment to change and decide to find a way to have a wonderful relationship with my ideal partner what will my life be like in five years time? Now picture your future ten years ahead, you still haven't changed the way you handle relationships? Where are you? Who is around you? How is your time spent? What's happening in your life? Now picture the future ten years on you've made the commitment. You've invested the time; energy and money in creating a future relationship that's all you want it to be. How does it feel to be a happy woman living in her ideal relationship knowing that you are accepted, cared for and loved?
Meeting the wonderful man with whom I now share my life was like coming home after a long abscence. I often say that the day we met was one of the best days of my life. However it could never have happened if I hadn't made my total commitment to finding or creating a success model for my relationships.
What's more it wasn't just my relationship that changed almost every area of my life has benefited. I've enjoyed improved health, career success at a level previously unknown to name just two benefits. No longer held back by the millstone of disappointing relationships my life took off in new and promising directions.
My second and final step to having a great relationship was finding a mentor. The ideal mentor in any situation is someone who has been where you are and achieved what you are aiming at. My mentor consisted of the many psychology books I read and courses I undertook to understand the human mind and the subjects of love and relationships. I wasn't fortunate enough to have a living mentor available.
So there you have it the two magic steps that took me and can take you from relationship disaster to relationship success. First I made a firm commitment to invest in myself and to do whatever it took to enjoy and benefit from a successful relationship. Then I found my mentor. Believing that I was worth a relationship that would bring joy into my life every day allowed me to take these steps. You are worth a joyous relationship too.
Its particularly interesting to see how Sir Alan uses his business knowledge together with his gut instinct to choose his apprentice. Much of the choosing involves eliminating would be candidates who he does not consider right for the job.
That reminds me of a technique called the "dating funnel" which I formulated as an effective means of choosing a life partner. Its called the dating funnel because it works on the principle of a funnel. The wide end at the top represents your potential partners. Don't believe the scarcity myth. There are lots of men out there who could be compatible with you as a life partner.
By dating you find out who you get along with, whose company you enjoy and who has similar views to you about the lifestyle that he would like to live in the future. In other words you find out whose needs and attitudes best dovetail with yours. In looking for the man with whom you will share your future you will meet men who may be a great partner for someone else but not you. You'll simply say this honestly but tactfully allowing you both to continue the search for your ideal partner.
This stage is represented by the narrowing of the funnel.Eventually you reach the narrowest part of the funnel, which represents the point at which you find your one ideal man. In your search you will meet some types of men who are better avoided. This being so it's important that you are able to recognise them.
They fall roughly into six categories as explained below. The violent aggressive man . Violent men generally have a short fuse. Tend to have a high opinion of themselves. They may see slights were none are intended. They always have to be "right" even over the smallest of issues that most of us would not concern ourselves too much about. He may be fine in his behaviour towards you at this stage. However this won't last. You can get a preview of how he is likely to behave towards you in the future by observing his dealings with taxi drivers,waiters etc. My friend we will call her Gail was dating a man for eighteen months with whom she only ate out twice. Both occasions ended in him practically having fistfights with waiters, which only her intervention prevented. When their relationship ended I was not surprised to hear that this was due to him becoming violent towards her.
The addict The most important thing in an addict's life is his addiction be it drink, drugs or gambling. Thoughts of the addiction are present at some level of mind during every waking moment. This person's life revolves around and is dominated by his addiction. He doesn't have space in his life for a relationship so for practical purposes he is unavailable. If a man likes a drink or a bet of course this does not necessarly mean that he is addicted. However someone who can't get through a day without a specific substance or a particular activity is likely to be addicted.
The bottomless pit-This man always has and seems to attract problems. He handles money badly, loses jobs or quits after a few weeks, seems unable to settle and get on with life. He constantly needs your help often in the form of small or large cash loans or your negotiating skills to get him out of his current usually self inflicted set of problems. He is not inclined to take responsibility for himself and generally finds someone or something outside himself to blame as the cause of his problems. You'll soon feel more like his Mother than his lover if you get involved with this man. However much help you give he is going to need more. If you don't recognise this man within your first couple of dates you certainly will within your first few weeks together.
The chronically indecisive-This man has difficulty in making the smallest of decisions such as what clothes to wear, what to eat for lunch or which route to take to work. Being in a relationship with a chronically indecisive man is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, imagine trying to make joint decisions with this man.Secondly, a man who has difficulty in making decisions generally will also be indecisive about his relationships.
The nail biter-Nail biting is a normal and not uncommon behaviour in children. This may in adults be a sign of inwardly directed aggression or simply a negative habit. The person who is directing his aggression inwards has a problem. This does not apply to all nail biters. However its something that you need to be aware of as passive/aggressive behaviour is difficult to live with.
Men who already have a partner-I don't mean by this someone who is separated and in the process of divorcing. It's the ones with current partners to whom I am referring. Someone who already has a life partner can't be looking for one or if he is he doing things in the wrong order. He needs to first end his current relationship if he can't mend it, and then look for a new partner. Men in this situation often choose to socialise a long distance from their homes. This in itself is not evidence that he is attached. However if he also rarely contacts you, you meet only occasionally and have little or no means of contacting him he probably is.
The above does not imply that we females are perfect. Or that the men mentioned in the above categories may not change particularly if they seek professional help. My aim here is to point out the significance of certain behaviours and what they may tell us regarding the future of a relationship.
>> How to lose your partner without meaning to by Eileen Edwards
Jealousy is a negative emotion that damages many otherwise good relationships. Excessive jealousy arises because of one of two unattractive assumptions. These are that your partner can't be trusted or that you are not sufficiently attractive to your partner to hold their interest.
Most jealousy is irrational based on fear of losing the loved one. Ironically it's this fear and the way that it makes people act, which is most likely to bring the feared loss about. Anyone who constantly accuses their partner of misbehaving, expects them to account for their time, pries into their mail, email or telephone communications is behaving unreasonably.
They are probably acting out of fear or at least lack of confidence but that makes their behaviour no less distressing to the person experiencing it.
If either you or your partner is excessively jealous this can only damage your relationship, cause you both misery. In some instances it will it make continuing the relationship impossible.
So how can you tackle this source of harm to your relationship? Firstly by making this decision, if your partner has given you no grounds for suspicion that's probably because there aren't any. In other words they are not misbehaving and you have every reason to trust them.
If you feel that your partner has given you grounds for suspicion then you will need to look at those grounds reasonably. Questions I often ask to people who consult me about this problem are "when"? "Where"? and "why"? do you think that your partner might be being unfaithful?
It's surprising that the people who suffer from excessive jealousy often have partners who are rarely out of their sight. Surely a partner who wanted to be unfaithful would create opportunities to be away from them. However the fact that your partner may work long or irregular hours or travel on business does not mean that they are being unfaithful. The fact that someone may have an opportunity to behave in a particular way doesn't mean that they will or even have any desire to.
These are some of the most common answers that I receive to the question "why, do you think that your partner is being unfaithful"? He's started to come home from work late, lost interest in sex, come home smelling of perfume in the case of a man, s/he has started to lie about where they are spending their time when not at home, I just feel that s/he is having an affair.
When we look at these behaviours reasonably most have innocent explanations. Staying late at work for example could simply mean that s/he is trying to catch up on a backlog of work or avoid driving home in the rush hour. Loss of interest in sex could be as a result of tiredness, depression, hormonal changes, health problems or a side effect of prescribed medication.
The fact that your partner lies about where s/he is spending time when not with you could have a number of explanations some innocent, some less so. Your partner could be lying to cover up an addiction to drink, drugs or gambling. Wouldn't you want to help them if this were the case? Or they could be working extra hours in order to give you a special gift or take you on a wonderful holiday.
"Why" is a very important question? Why did you think that your partner was having an affair when there were so many other possible explanations for their changed behaviour? The chances are that the answer is in your past, did one of your parents cheat on the other? Have you had this negative experience in a past relationship? If so its important to realise that what happened is in the past. I understand that it was painful but dwelling on it is only likely to damage your current relationship. It's really important to let go of this negativity so that it doesn't hurt you and the person that you love. Invest in professional help if necessary. It's worth making the effort.
So far I have addressed this article to the person suffering the torments of their own suspicious mind. Now I want to turn from the perspective of the accuser to the accused. To suffer the torments of your partner's suspicious mind can be hell. As hard as you try to reason with them it seems to fall on deaf ears.
Realising why they are behaving in this illogical fashion may help. Strange as it sounds they are acting out of love (yes, I know that a jealous persons behaviour can seem anything but loving) and fear the fear that you will leave them. Reassurance may help. Try to explain that they are loved and you are not involved with or seeking to be involved with someone else. Try also raising the questions posed above. "Why do you think that I would want to have an affair with someone else"? "What makes you think that I am having an affair"? "When do you think that I spend time with this man or woman"? In answering these questions the accuser will probably reveal his/her need for you as their partner and fear that you might leave. This will make discussion easier as it is getting closer to the true source of the problem. That being not the returning home from work later or seeming to have less interest in sex; these are just the happenings that have triggered insecurity in the accuser.
It might help to share with your partner the everyday reason as to why you are returning from work later or for any other change in your behaviour. Keeping your jealous partner informed would ease their insecurities.
In the same vein if you have a jealousy problem just imagine how irritating it would feel to have your partner constantly questioning how you spend your time when not in their company People tormenting themselves and their partners with jealousy need to learn trust. Your partner is not the parent or past partner who behaved badly in your eyes. Your jealous behaviour is the greatest threat to your relationship not other people who may find your partner attractive.Your partner has chosen you.
Remember the qualities that caused them to choose you and continue to display those qualities. If you are on the receiving end of displays of jealousy try to remember that your accuser is suffering too. It's hard to be sympathetic to someone who is behaving in this fashion. However it's a joint problem so you need to solve it together. Your partner must have some good and loving qualities or you would not be remaining in the relationship. Perhaps with patience and reassurance you can talk things through and solve your problem. It's unlikely to happen overnight. However reassurance could help your partner to relax leading to less jealous displays leading to a better relationship. Or you may need to seek professional help.
This article deals with the subject of irrational jealousy. The situation where life partners are actually having affairs is beyond its scope.
Finally, how to tell if something belongs to you? Let it go, if it comes back to you its yours, if it doesn't it isn't. This applies to people too.
>> IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU? KNOW IN MINUTES - NOT MONTHS by Eileen Edwards
Psychologist's talk about a technique called thin slicing. This technique allows the observer to draw conclusions about the subject's behaviour in a variety of situations by observing them for a short time in a more limited situation.
For example a lot of large companies such as airlines and banks invite potential employees to their premises for a day. The potential employees are then observed as they take part in a number of group exercises. This allows them to be assessed for various character traits.
You can do something similar when you go on a date. A date contains three elements that are present in long-term relationships. Advertising the relationship to the world-also known to psychologist's as tie signs, eating or drinking together, reaching an agreement about the future.
People on a date often hold hands or have their arms around each other's waists or shoulders. People out on a date normally touch each other more than in other social situations. There is also a lot of eye contact. People who are on a date, out together socially or in family groups stand or sit closer together than strangers. The term tie signs is used by psychologists because holding hands, sitting close together etc show that people are together not just occupying the same space at the same time.
On most dates some elements of eating or drinking together will take place. The only two human behaviours that are not totally under conscious control are eating and sex. His attitude to food could give you useful clues on his attitude to sex as explained later.
A restaurant is the best place for a first date as it gives you an opportunity to talk with and observe your date. Failing this a Tapa's bar or a wine bar serving snacks could be a good alternative Places to avoid are anywhere noisy or crowded where it will be difficult for you to talk with and observe your date.
So what can you learn about a man on a date? You can gain three important pieces of information, his attitude to people, to money and to sex. Gaining this information in a few hours from a relative stranger might sound like a tall order. However it's perfectly possible when you keep your eyes open and use the insights of psychology.
At the start of your date does arrive on time appropriately dressed for the occasion? To keep you waiting or arrive looking untidy is clearly a negative sign as it shows lack of respect for you and people in general.
During the date don't focus on how he behaves towards you but on how he behaves towards others, people who are not important to him. He will obviously be pleasant to you, as he wants to create a good impression. If he isn't he has definitely disqualified himself from becoming your future life partner. The way he behaves towards the waiter or taxi driver shows the way he really feels about people and the way he is likely to treat you in future if you do become his life partner.
When it comes to ordering food ask him to recommend something for you. Of course you can choose for yourself but asking him to recommend something will give you an insight into his character. Does he say have whatever you like? Or suggest the most expensive thing on the menu? If so he is saying" I want you to have a good time, you mean more to me than money?Choosing the cheapest thing on the menu is not a good sign. If he seems very indecisive its important to be aware that people who are indecisive over small things are indecisive over big ones too like choosing a life partner.
Eating and sex are the two human activities, which are not totally under conscious control. A sloppy eater is likely to be sloppy in the bedroom. If your date has very precise requirements when it comes to food such as he can only eat his soup at a certain temperature. He would probably also have very particular requirements when it comes to sex.
At the end of the meal observe how he deals with paying the bill. Of course you don't always expect him to pay when you are out together. Allowing him to do so on this occasion can provide you with some useful information.
Does he check that the amount is correct then pay leaving a reasonable but not excessive tip? Or barely glance at the bill and leave an extravagant tip. Or analyse every item on it before paying. The man who checks, pays and leaves a reasonable tip has a balanced attitude towards money the other two don't.
Finally at the end of the evening you'll make an agreement about the future such as to meet again or be in touch by phone or email. Future planning and negotiation are something that life partners engage in. You are doing that here in a small way.
Hopefully you will have had a great date and want to see him again. If not be honest but tactful about it Either way you are both winners. You'll know if he is life partner materiel as far as you are concerned. If not you are both free in hours to part on good terms and continue your individual searches for a partner.
>> FIVE SIMPLE STEPS TO FINDING A LIFE PARTNER by Eileen Edwards
"Of course I want a life partner you may be saying why else would I read this?" Good question. Our society considers it important for women to be in a relationship. There is still a perception in many quarters that a woman without a relationship is unhappy. Our friends and relatives want us to be happy and fulfilled and so encourage us to find a life partner. The media also exerts pressure on women to be part of a couple. Many women have mixed feelings about this, which often shows up in them selecting unavailable partners.
This is particularly true where the woman concerned has a history of choosing unavailable men. We all have a right to choose a partner or not choose one. We also have a right to decide when we will choose our life partner. If you are enjoying life as a single and currently have no desire to find a life partner please continue to enjoy your life as a single. Only you can decide when and if to choose a life partner. It's not a decision to be made in order to please others or because you feel under pressure. Making a decision under these circumstances wouldn't be right for you or any partner that you choose.
Step 2. Define your life partner.
Whether you want a new pair of shoes, jacket, home or life partner you can't have it until you define it. If you have any doubts about this imagine the following. You are at the Railway Station and ask for "a ticket " "a ticket to where?" would be the response. "Somewhere nice" you might say or " somewhere where I will be happy". Its clear what type of response you would receive. It would be along these lines " madam, until I know exactly where you want to go I can't provide you with a ticket" It's exactly the same with a life partner we have to have a clear picture of him before we can find him. "What do I mean by a clear picture?" you may be asking. You need to know what kind of man you want to share your life with and what kind of life you want the two of you to share. Your answer to those two questions will be as individual as you are.
For example I am an animal lover and would not have chosen a partner who disliked or was indifferent to animals. Here are some headings to help you identify your ideal man. His looks, height, build, hair colour, eye colour etc? His personality outgoing, quiet, demonstrative, sporty whatever appeals to you? His lifestyle, what kind of work he does, home he lives in, car he drives, how he spends his spare time? Of course finding a life partner isn't like ordering a take away pizza you may not get all that you desire. The important thing is to know on what you will and will not compromise. For example you might think "I can live with some untidiness but not a man who can't get on with my parents" Or " I'll watch football every Saturday for the right man but he has to be someone who takes my opinions seriously". It is also important to visualise your shared future, the type of life that you would live together.
Step 3. Get pro-active.
It's only in fairy stories that the handsome prince beats a path to our door. In reality we have to make an effort to find him. This means getting out and about and being in situations where you will meet males. This may seem obvious. Many women who don't have time to socialise due to work or domestic responsibilities have problems in finding a life partner. If you are in this situation there is a technique' which is perfect for you. Its called "random and specific search". Even if you have lots of time to socialise I would still recommend that you use it. Most women only look out for their ideal man when they are in social situations. In reality attractive available men are around all the time. Just like you they travel to work on the train, walk their dog, go to the supermarket, attend evening classes, take their Mother out to dinner, they may even use a unisex hairdresser.
I am not suggesting that you give your home number to every attractive man you exchange a few words with in the park or supermarket. Begin by being aware that attractive available men some of whom you would certainly like to know better surround you. Situations with an ongoing element are particularly useful for example evening classes or interest groups. These will allow you to meet, talk with and observe the behaviour of potential partners in a number of situations. I've just described the random element of random and specific search. The specific element is fairly self-explanatory. For example my friend's elder sister was happily married to a Greek man. She wanted to follow in her footsteps and visited Greece as often as her budget would allow, ate in Greek restaurants and learnt Greek dance.
Step 4. Qualify potential partners
When you apply to work for a company you go through a qualification process. That process normally begins with completing an application form and/or submitting your CV. If you are successful at this stage you then attend one or more interviews before being hired for a trial period. In choosing someone to do work on your home or garden you would probably ask friends and neighbours if there was someone that they could recommend. You might enquire about what trade associations your prospective gardener or builder belonged to.
Or ask to see some work that they had already completed. Most women do more research to find a good gardener or builder than a Life Partner. In seeking a life partner you are offering and applying for the most important position possible. So it's important to go through a qualifying process rather like that mentioned above. Not doing so means that you could waste months or even years with someone who never makes the commitment to being your partner. Dates are a little like life partner interviews although of course much more fun.
Using the insights of psychology it's simple to know quickly, within one or two dates if a particular man is life partner materiel as far as you are concerned. Top tip don't observe how he treats you on dates but how he treats others. Any man on a date with you will be out to impress you so he will obviously be pleasant to you. If he isn't he has immediately disqualified himself as your future life partner. Observe how he treats your waitress or taxi driver; someone who isn't important to him and you will see his true personality.
Step 5. Overcome obstacles These come in two forms. If he is attrcative to you he will be attractive to other women. You can't stop this and in a way you wouldn't want to. After all they are complimenting you on your choice. Using the insights of psychology can give a number of ways to ensure he chooses you. Space only permits me to share one tip here. It's this- recognise his individuality. Modern society can make us feel like numbers rather than the unique individuals which we are.
It's important to let him see that to you he is a unique and very special individual. Secondly, most women reading this will probably have had some negative relationship experiences in the past. Psychologists know that our perspective is greatly influenced by our past experiences. We expect the things that happened in the past to happen again. Yet there is no logical reason why they should. Your new man isn't the one who cheated on you in the past, never showed up on time or saw you as a source of free meals and financial handouts. So you are both starting out with a clean slate in this relationship So now you are ready to walk the five steps to relationship success. Don't just think about it. Do it, you'll be glad that you did.
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--Hooters Buffalo Chicken Wings--
> Chicken Wings
10 chicken wing pieces
Vegetable oil (for frying)
1/4 cup butter
1/4 teaspoon ground pepper
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/4 teaspoon paprika
1/3 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1/4 teaspoon salt
> Hooter's Chicken Wing Hot Sauce
1 1/2 cup Butter (softened)
1/2 cup Tabasco Sauce
2 tablespoons Tabasco Sauce
3 tablespoons Brown Sugar
3/4 teaspoon Paprika
3/4 teaspoon Salt
1 tablespoon Balsamic Vinegar
3/8 teaspoon Cayenne Pepper
2 tablespoons Chili Sauce
> On the side:
Hooters Ranch Dressing or Bleu Cheese Dressing...
Celery sticks
> Preparation:
Heat oil in a deep fryer to 375 degrees F. You want just enough oil to cover the wings entirely - an inch or so deep at least.
Combine the butter, hot sauce, ground pepper and garlic powder in a small saucepan over low heat. Heat until the butter is melted and the ingredients well-blended.
Combine the flour, paprika, cayenne pepper and salt in a small bowl.
If the wings are frozen, be sure to defrost and dry them. Put the wings into a large bowl and sprinkle the flour mixture over them, coating each wing evenly. Put the wings in the refrigerator for 60 to 90 minutes. (This will help the breading to stick to the wings when fried.)
Put all the wings into the hot oil and fry them for 10 to 15 minutes or until some parts of the wings begin to turn dark brown.
Remove the wings from the oil to a paper towel to drain. But don't let them sit too long, because you want to serve the wings hot.
Quickly put the wings into a large bowl. Add the hot sauce and stir, coating all of the wings evenly. You could also use a large plastic container with a lid for this. Put all the wings inside the container, add the sauce, put on the lid, then shake. Serve with bleu cheese dressing and celery sticks on the side.
--Hooters Ranch Dressing--
1 cup mayonnaise
3/4 cup buttermilk
1/4 cup sour cream
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon black pepper
1/4 teaspoon onion powder
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
1/8 teaspoon dried thyme 1 tbsp finely chopped parsley
Combine all ingredients in a bowl and whisk until completely mixed. Cover and refrigerate for 2 hours before serving.
--Hooters Bleu Cheese Dressing--
1 cup regular mayonnaise
1 cup sour cream
6 oz blue cheese
1 Tablespoon apple cider or wine vinegar
1/ 2 teaspoon pepper (optional) 2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce (optional)
1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
Crumble the blue cheese, and mix it all together.
Or try...
--Hooters Buffalo Shrimp--
> Buffalo Shrimp Sauce:
1/4 cup hot sauce
1/4 cup butter
1/8 teaspoon paprika
1 dash black pepper
1 dash garlic powder
Combine in a small saucepan over medium heat until butter is mixed through. Cover, and keep warm over low heat.
> Shrimp
12 uncooked large shrimp, peeled and deveined
1 egg, beaten
1/2 cup milk
1 cup all-purpose flour
Combine egg and milk in a small bowl. Place flour in a large zip-type bag. Coat six of the shrimp with egg mixture, then toss them in the bag of flour and shake well to coat.
Leave these shrimp in the bag, and repeat the process with the remaining shrimp. Make sure they are all well coated with flour. Refrigerate about 5 minutes while the deep fryer heats up to 375 F.
Deep fry for 8 to 10 minutes, until shrimp tails are dark brown. Remove, drain, and toss gently with Buffalo Sauce.
--Hooters Buffalo Chicken Sandwich--
boneless chicken breast
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
1 tsp paprika
1 tsp pepper
milk
1/4 cup hot sauce
2 tbsp butter
1/4 cup olive oil
fresh bread roll
leaf lettuce
onion
sliced tomato
bleu cheese dressing
Put boneless chicken breast to a plate. In a small bowl, add all-purpose flour, paprika, and pepper.
Mix them well. Pour milk in another bowl. Dip chicken in milk. Coat chicken in flour mix. Repeat the process.
Put coated chicken on a plate. Cover it, chill for half an hour. Medium heat the saucepan. Add hot sauce, and butter to the pan. Bring them to boil, stir. Set the pan aside.
Medium heat a pan. Add olive oil to the pan. Add coated chicken. Cook for 8 minutes, turning once.
Slice bread roll in half. Oven toast the halves. In a small bowl, coat chicken with sauce.
On a plate, arrange bread half in the bottom, then chicken, leaf lettuce, onion, tomato, bleu cheese dressing, and the other half of bread roll on the top.
Dig In and Enjoy!
A Graduate of the Holland College Culinary Course, Brian Alan Burhoe has cooked in Atlantic Coast restaurants for over 30 years. He is a member of the Canadian Culinary Federation. Brian's articles reflect his interests in food service, dreamstudy, imaginative literature and our best friends -- our dogs.
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- Seafood items on Hooters' year-round menu include New England Clam Chowder, Steamed Shrimp, Steamed Clams, Oysters, Oyster Roast and Big Fish Sandwich.
- Seasonal Seafood items on the menu include a Blackened Mahi Sandwich, served on a ciabatta roll; Daytona Shrimp, Buffalo shrimp smothered in Daytona Sauce and finished off on the grill; and Grouper Bites, genuine grouper dusted in corn flake breading and served in bite-sized pieces with tarter sauce.
- Hooters Football Season menu includes two shared appetizer options of Loaded Chips and a "Hootertizer" Combo as well as two sandwiches, a Prime Rib Sandwich and Strip Cheese Sandwich which are both served with fries. The menu also features a build-your-own Bloody Mary.
- The Prime Rib Sandwich is a juicy slice of prime rib served on a hoagie bun with a side of horseradish sauce and curly fries.
- Newest items on the menu include crab cakes which are served as either an appetizer or as a platter with homemade slaw and fries, a split rib platter and mini burgers.
But Hooters most popular item for the guys remains their world famous Buffalo Chicken Wings & Hot Sauce!
>>> Seek Lasting Love With a Mature Dating Relationship
For a long time, people of all walks of life have been participating in immature, shallow dating relationships that never lasted for any length of time. Over time, people have come to realize that the so-called freewheeling casual style of dating has no long term satisfaction for those who seek lasting love.
If you are seeking a more mature dating relationship, consider a few things first. Take a moment to meditate about your recent dating experiences. What went wrong? What could you have done so things worked out differently? What do you need to improve within yourself? Ask yourself the tough questions you don't usually like to face.
Introspect
It isn't easy to get into a mature dating relationship. However, the rewards it brings are well worth it. The fruits of a mature dating relationship are faithfulness, commitment, love, depth and great fulfillment. Introspect and analyze your past relationships until you've taken an honest inventory of yourself. Talk to someone you trust and ask them to hold you accountable to change.
Make a list of what you want in a relationship
When your reality check is complete, list down the top qualities you want in a long term, mature dating relationship. Mention the physical traits, personality traits and even religious or personal convictions that appeal to you in a partner. Then, see if you have any or all the traits that you desire in a partner. Be realistic if you don't have the traits, then you cant expect too much out of another person.
Search for your ideal mate online
The internet is a treasure trove of people just waiting to be found. Use a good online matchmaker to find a perfect fit for you. Once you know that you want a mature relationship, you don't have to waste your time on regular dating sites. Online matchmakers help people who are looking for long term commitment and keep only such people in their database. You are bound to find a person who reflects your interests and values.
Make a commitment
When you find that special one, make a commitment to see it through good and bad. When your ultimate goal is marriage, your dating experience with your chosen one is a period of growth and development, not just a casual phase. Please know that marriage can add pressure to your relationship. Any issues you've faced while dating wont go away. Keep the communication lines open and work through your issues to make your mature dating relationship a strong one.
>>> Matchmakers Can Help You Find the True Meaning of Love
Dating is as old as time but still many of us haven't got it right. We all have different perspectives on what love means. Love is emotional but its essence isn't an emotion. When two lives are joined and reality settles in, people in love have to face many realistic truths about themselves and their lives. Love lasts for a lifetime while romance lasts only just a night.
Love is popularly defined by a list of characteristics, such as patience, kindness, graciousness, humility, politeness and sacrifice. Love is not angered when provoked love waits till the storm blows over to soothe the seas again. Real love forgives it does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres.
Today, most dating relationships are the exact opposite of loves true definition. Once you understand the true meaning of love, you will put the effort it takes to build and maintain a relationship that can sustain true love.
What kills love? Selfishness and self-centeredness always destroys love. Though we all basically start out being well-intended and good hearted, we all possess a strong strand of selfishness in our hearts. Everyone wants their own way. When personal desires are allowed to get in the way of love, love suffers and is destroyed.
If you introspect wisely, you will realize that every fight in every relationship you've had, romantic or otherwise, has its basis in some form of selfishness or the other. Arguments would not escalate enough to break a relationship unless propelled by impure intentions, or guilt, or selfishness.
Keeping a record of wrongs is also a sure way to kill love. Harboring bitterness and un-forgiveness in your heart is a sure fire way to disaster. Love and forgiveness form the core aspects of real love. Real love seeks to quickly forgive the other and tries to bring back the peace and harmony. When people in a romantic relationship keep an ongoing record of wrongs, it kills true love and allows the darkness of selfishness to take root. When you give grace, you give grace in return. That's a golden rule to remember in a love relationship.
If you're serious about searching for real love, do the right thing and search online for a matchmaker. An online matchmaking service is not the same as a regular dating website. A matchmaker evaluates your needs and finds you an exact match so that you can start your relationship on the correct note.
==>> Lizzy B is an experienced writer on the dating industry. She has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Lizzy's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, relationships, and matchmaking services. Lizzy's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities. WUVING.com recommends Lizzy as a Top Relationship Expert. To see more, Click Here...
>>> Dating Advice For Gays
Dating in itself is fun and pleasurable and very popular among the young single men and women looking for the perfect soul mate. Gay dating is very prevalent these days breaking the norms of the society. Gays have made a separate community with its unique identity.
But not all dates land up to be your better half. Some may turn great friends and some can end on a very bad note. Therefore to date your gay partner one must know what exactly he is looking for. A date maybe the following:-
* Catching up over a cup of coffee which means getting to know the person better without the thought of settling down
* Meeting for a romantic dinner with marvellous surprises in store for your partner would mean obvious intentions of hooking up
There are several pointers that should be kept in mind while selecting a date as well as how to be the "perfect date" for your date such as
* How to find a date? Online gay dating websites gives you variety of choices and lets you chat through internet before you actually meet them. Sometimes your friends help you in setting up a date with someone who you think is interesting and possibly share a happy relationship with.
* Type of person is of utmost priority. Gelling well with your date is nothing like it. Try to find out what he likes his interests and hobbies which could be a good way to strike a conversation. Positive vibes are very important in any relationship.
* The body language is very crucial in making an impression on your date. Guys always prefer a confident and sensible partner. Greet your partner in a loving way. Show gestures that make your partner feel wanted. Don't go overboard by talking just about you. Make sure that your date is also participating in the discussion and showing lot of interest in you.
* The gay community is usually very small and pretty much a taboo in society. Therefore one should be careful of not becoming the talk of the town which spreads like wild fire. Gay men usually date gay men which solves the problem of rumours and gossip.
* Remember slow and steady wins the race. Try to gauge your date's overall behaviour which should compliment yours. Rushing into a relationship too fast could mean a faster ending too. If one meeting is not enough, keep meeting the person until you are sure of what you want.
* Now comes the most important part of the date and usually a difficult one. What should one wear on the date? The answer is simple and safe by wearing that brings comfort to you. Choose something that's basic yet trendy. But make sure you carry yourself with poise or else you can end up looking like a fool. Look tidy and hygienic.
* Last but not the least- Have a safe date in every sense of the word.
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>>> MOST COMMON MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WHEN MEN DON'T CALL
After all, you’ve caught a great catch. You think about how handsome he is. You remember how great it feels to be in his arms. You even start thinking what it will be like to marry this man, have children with him and a wonderful house with a picket fence. Remember that feeling?
If you’ve ever been in love, and I am sure you have, you know what I am talking about. But then you don’t hear from him again. He doesn’t call. What happened? You start worrying. Perhaps something happened to him. And you melt your cell phone in your hands thinking should you call him or not? If you find yourself in this situation, there are things that you should do and things that you shouldn’t do. First of all, think about how the date ended.
Dating and relationships can be complicated. There are so many questions. It is especially difficult to find all the answers in the beginning of a relationship, when nothing is clear and the woman is not sure how to handle a situation with a man she is dating. One of the most commonly asked question women ponder is whether they should call the men they are dating, how to handle telephone calls to and from a man, and what is the calling protocol for calling men in a dating relationship.When you meet a man via traditional channels, you can pretty much say with assurance that after the first date he’ll call you unless some sort of disaster happens on your first date. But when you meet a man on a dating site, chances are the first in-person impression will be made when you actually meet on a date. So how do I know if he will call me? The answer could be simple: Don’t call him and you will find out.
For many women men are mysterious. But in reality men are easy to understand. Men are simple. And if you don’t understand what to do when your boyfriend or a man you have been dating stops calling you, responding to your phone calls, text messages, and e-mails, there are many resources that can explain to you why a man would suddenly stop calling a woman in dating and what to do to get him to call you.
About the Author: Elaine is the author of "Why Did He Stop Calling" and offers a free Report called MOST COMMON MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE WHEN MEN DON'T CALL!
>>> FUTURE: THE ESSENCE OF MODERN DATING
FUTURE is an interesting but very overlooked dating and relating concept.
Future is the essence of a relationship. It is the "why" in "Why we have a relationship."
If we didn't care about future, our dating and love life would be different.
We would simply wake up in the morning, go about our life and randomly hook up with someone for some romantic pleasure, then go our merry ways respectively.
While there are a few people who do live their lives this way, most of us care about future. We want to hook up with someone romantically that we can also hook up with in the future over and over again.
Most of us are concerned with future, and yes, it is the driving force behind the concept of a relationship, yet it is seldom talked about and there is little education on this topic with respect to dating and relationships.
So let's break the mold and start addressing it. Because understanding and creating "future" makes meeting women, picking up women, attracting women, and relating to women much less dificult.
All of these activities start, survive and end on the concept of future. But it is key to remember that it is not just future alone, it is "future" mixed with acceptable activity in the future. And all the other techniques I have talked to you about - such as gradients - need also be applied to future.
Even though you could walk up to a strange women and say "Do you want to go to my place in 10 minutes and have sex?' And even though that would be creating a future, it would not be (most often) creating acceptable activity in the future.
Seduction is the art of using "future" and gradients to create acceptable future activity leading to a goal. So asking a girl out to dinner, having great conversation, some hand holding at the movie, back to your place for a nightcap, some kissing..well this will lead to the same place but will work much more often and with more women than the other technique.
But the other techniques - do you want to go to my place and have sex - IS creating future and will actually work a small percentage of times (1 out of 100 -1000). And the guy who did that would be more successful than the guy who talks to women, creates no future, then just walks away.
So let's start with talking about how future can be applied to "meeting" women and even "picking up" women.
If you don't have "creating a future" as a target in mind when you begin this kind of activity in can be a mistake. You can randomly talk to a women, establish no future, then just walk away when the conversation is over. This would be a mistake and you would leave with some sort of odd feeling of "I wonder if I should have said..I wonder if I should have asked her."
When you are trying to meet or "pick up' women, make your job easier. Have some attention on future and a goal to walk away with an agreement to contact each other again in the future for some reason.
The most obvious way to establish future is to ask a girl out on a date. But when it comes to strangers walking down the street, well it might work on "not-so-hot-chicks" but definitely does not work on " really hot chicks" as they get asked out about 15 times a day every day. They also get tired of guys just being interested in them for their body.
So with hot girls the goal is to establish future without seeming like you are only interested in their body. Best way to do this is to engage them in some sort of conversation, find an area of mutual interest, then find something they are really interested in that you know, and say you will email them or call them with some information on it.
Since you are not focusing on how "hot" and sexy they are, they will most always accept and/or return your call or email.
Probably the hardest task of all is to stop some hot chick walking the opposite way from you dead in her tracks, engage her in a conversation, and establish some future with her. To do it you have to do it gradiently - one step at a time. Like stop her and ask her for the time or directions, then notice something interesting about her. Like "where did you get that watch.my sister's been looking for one just like it. do you mine if I write this down.hey you know another good place is... " or "Wow, that's a neat cell phone. Do you like it? Mines a piece of junk..so's my service..what service do you have..etc.
The point is always to end this gradient conversation with you having some information - name of a store, etc - that she would really be interested in that you can't remember right now, but that you can get from your sister, or you have it written at home, etc...which gives you a good reason to call her in the future to give her the information..now of course she knows you are really calling because you are interested in her, but if you do it this way, she won't feel like a piece of meat, she'll think you have some class, and she'll answer the phone, or call you back when you leave a message.
Another way to apply "future" to "meeting" and "picking up" women, is to make it easier on yourself to begin with. As I said, the situation above is one of the hardest to tackle successfully. But the easiest thing to do is to try to meet or pick up women in situations with "future" built in.
For example, going to the mall, and checking out all the women who work there gives you a "future" advantage. They work there. They'll be there again tomorrow, next week, etc. So here you don't have to stop her dead in her tracks and have this insanely clever conversation.
When a girl works somewhere and you know how to see her again, a simple smile or flirt will do. You can have a conversation without pushing it all the way to asking for a phone number.
The fact that you can smile, or flirt, or have a simple conversation and come back multiple times without taking it all the way, means to a woman that you are checking her out, that you have standards, that her personality is just as important as her looks. You won't even make a move until you thoroughly check out her personality. Women like that. Makes you romantic, mysterious. They'll start wondering - will he, or won't he.
Situations with built in future give you the advantage over the street and clubs and other random places where you may never see the person again.
You need to know how to handle both situations to be successful however. You never know when or where you might meet "Miss Right."
When you focus is on picking up women in a club or a bar for an immediate future like a one-night-stand, you need to plan out intermediate future goals to achieve your purpose.
When you walk up to a girl in a club or bar you should have something like this in mind for the future: She will pair off with you exclusively, then want to go somewhere else with you, then want to make out with you, go home with you, etc.
So you simply have these points in mind and watch what is going on and know when to take it to the next level. So when she pairs off with you exclusively (the first good sign of interest), take it to the next level. Say let's go to the back room (where you can make out) it's more cozy. Or say let's go to the club down the street - better music. Or do you want to get something to eat? (Which can be a prelude to making out in the car.) Or saying let's go to my place for a night cap..get the picture?
If you don't have these future activity points thought out and in mind before the approach you might blow what otherwise could be a very lovely evening.
Future continues to play a role in relationships as relationships develop. On a first date, I always look to see if a woman tries to establish future with me. If she does, then I know she likes me. I also try to establish a little bit of subtle future with her, or better yet try to get her to establish future with me as the date progresses.
Rather than asking a girl if you can go out again at the end of a date (and missing all the clues the whole time) it is better to get her signals and give your own throughout the date.
And it is MUCH better to mix your future with a common interest, rather than having everything focus on just going our with her again. Everyone wants future, but no one wants future with some obsessive, clingy person.
So if the conversation, for example, gets around to a mutual interest, like say Bruce Willis movies, and there is a new Bruce Willis movie coming out next week, that is the time to say "Hey, you want to catch the movie together. It would be fun seeing the movie with someone who likes him as much as I do."
The biggest thing about establishing future is doing it right. Guys know they have to establish future with a girl. But telling some stranger she is hot, and asking her out on a date doesn't work most of the time (it does work some of the time depending on the girl) and especially doesn't work with hot girls. Because it gives the girl the impression (rightfully so) that the guy is only interested in sex.
So when the purpose of establishing future is obviously sex - most girls don't like it. When the purpose of establishing future is to obviously check her out because you might like her if she has a nice personality and common interests - most girls love it. That's what girls do. That is what they understand. You'll score big if you do it this way.
So that is the theme in those first few dates leading up to getting intimate. Once you are intimate, the future factor changes. And the emphasis in the second stage of dating (post intimacy) is establishing just how much future and what quality future do you want to have with this person. - Daily future, twice a week future, once a week future, etc. Lovers future, boyfriend/girlfriend future, no commitment future, marriage future.
The kind of future at this stage that no one usually wants is the clingy "I just want to be with you" future with no other interests or commonality defined.
Now if you want to have a good relationship it is important to be honest with yourself and your partner at this stage and really define for them the kind of future you really want, and get them to define for you the kinds of future they really want. If you fail to do that early on, you can fall into an undefined relationship that is too comfortable to leave, but not comfortable enough to marry.
Not where you want to be..where you want to be is to clearly define for your partner what kind of future you are looking to create and have them clearly define for you what kind of future they are looking to create. If your futures meet, you stand a better chance of making it in the future. If you are not creating the same future, then better to move on while you can, or redefine the relationship as lovers, or friends or some such relationship that has no romantic future that is just enjoying the present for however long it lasts.
Now when you finally take the plunge and you are boyfriend/girlfriend, living together, married, or even in a non-traditional relationship such as lovers or friends with privileges, etc. you must sill create future. Again the quality of the future create will shift.
Once you have committed to a relationship and the future is no longer mysterious and the conversation and create is no longer centered around "will we get married?" etc., you still can't take a person for granted. Just because they said they will be there forever and ever amen, doesn't mean they will -even though they meant it when they said it.
About the only mistake you can make, once committed, is to take someone for granted and to stop creating future with and for them. So all that stuff you did to create future with and for her to get her, is all the stuff you still must continue doing to keep her in the future.
If you keep that attitude, you will have a successful relationship.
Perhaps the topic of "future" activities together might change. Perhaps now it is talk about future children, future career, future houses, boats and cars. Or future grandchildren, future retirement, future travel, etc. But still the little future things that got you started should not stop. So "hey - new Bruce Willis film out tomorrow" should still be there. (or if not Bruce, then your new mutual acting hero.)
The point is keep putting future there the rest of your life. No mater how many years you've been married or lovers or whatever. Keep putting it there. Don't take things for granted, don't get patterned in the past, don't get stale. Keep creating the future and putting it there with and for your partner.
Yes, you now know that this girl WILL have sex with you. But that doesn't mean you cut to the chase. Seduce her, treat her like you would treat a first, second or third date. Take her down a path of futures. A little hugging, a dinner, cuddle while you watch TV, a little kissing and then..The future will be more enjoyable for the both of you.
And just like the guy walking down the street, or shopping for "girls" in the mall, you'll stand a better chance of survival.
Finally, when you are continually creating future in a relationship, it gives you a source of feedback from your partner about their changes over time. When you put something out there for the future that she use to enjoy and she says no, that means she is changing or she wants something different, so you learn about your partner, and you change with her and create new things (or if she doesn't go in a direction you want to go then you talk about it and if it's the right thing you go your separate ways).
Just like you assess the girl on the first date to find out if she is the girl for you and how to create a relationship with her, you continually assess your girlfriend or wife of many years by continually putting future out there for her to react to - so you can find out if she is still the girl for you and to know how to create an even better relationship with her.
About the Author: L Rx is the author of the best selling DATING TO RELATING -- FROM A TO Z
