Controlling relationships can be your worst nightmare. Know the signs of such relationships, and how to best handle this environment.
Are you curious as to know why we did not come to discover what 'really' occurred after Prince Charming kissed his Princess? Why is it that this lucky pair lived happily every after? And this being the case, that is in all probability the rationality as to why it is simply a fairytale. All relationships start on an optimistic note. Everything is just wonderful and the perfect scene is set with that all too familiar honeymoon period.
However, what materializes when there is too much closeness? When you begin becoming too acquainted with your partner (after a long period), unfortunately, it is only then, that you ascertain the true features that can spell trouble. A possessive relationship oscillates between modest controlling conduct of your partner to intense rounds of ferocious controlling. Nevertheless, controlling relationships are debilitating not only for those affected by it, however close family and friends will also notice this problem. Let's determine what occurs in these kinds of relationships.
Danger signs
The dominant person, who is controlling the relationship, usually cannot exist in their world without having control of the situation. The motive to keep their partner inline is plainly inescapable. A controlling partner will keep absolute dominance on what you do, what you say, how you say it, wherever you go, and how you get there, creating a suffocating lifestyle. A control freak will insist on accessing their partner's passwords and access details to email accounts and access to social network sites like Face Book. Your whole private life will come under constant detection.
A controlling person will find ways to inflict hurt in small and persistent ways. Being on the receiving end of such behavior can be like living in jail, under constant surveillance. And if one's spouse has violent tendencies, you need to get immediate help. Many controlling relationships that involve violence can include attacks such as twisting and pulling arms, slapping and punching, hair pulling, biting and cigarette burning to leave scares.
Fast Commitments are at Risk
A manipulating personality will easily become involved in a relationship. From a controller's way of thinking, a commitment is all it takes to gain control. Be wary of new partners who profess claims of 'you're the best thing that's ever happened to me', 'you would make the ideal wife/husband', 'let's grow old together' etc. Put into reality; this is a sign that this person wants to be the boss. If this kind of behavior occurs within the first 7-8 weeks of a new relationship, this might be your best chance to get out now before an obsession starts to take place. (If it hasn't started already)
Mood Swings
In controlling relationships, a bad temper is part of this dangerous package. When you start giving into demands you do not feel comfortable with, and your partner will not take no for an answer, make no mistake, you should feel grave concern regarding this person who is invading your personal freedom.
A controlling relationship that shows no sign of improvement should only leave you with one choice. Regardless of if there is children involved or they have some sort of financial hold over you, you should seek refuge with family and friends and/or assistance from local authorities regarding what protection can be offered.
- By Matt Fuller. Matt is a featured relationship expert on WUVING.com. He's a full time online dating webmaster, a moderator for various singles chat rooms and a contributing author to Hookmeup Online - http://www.hookmeup.com.au - focusing on dating lifestyles and "Free dating sites Australia." To read more articles by this author and go to his website - Click Here! for expert advice regarding online dating and meeting new and exciting people online.
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