Weight is not an issue when it comes to what most guys want. In fact curves are and should be a bonus feature on a girl.
My Italian husband has always said that American women are too thin. He says that European women have some real women curves to them and that's what represents a woman to him and I have to say I agree.
We strive for a stick like figure thinking that's what guys want to see but while doing that we take away our womanly features that make us different from men. You'll find that most real men like to look at a womanly figure, unlike in the movies, and we should be proud of our curves that make us sexy and different from men.
So if it's not the curves holding you back then what is it?
I went on a cruise a while ago and one of our stops was on an Island full of curvy women. The difference between them and us is that their weight wasn't an issue. They viewed themselves as beautiful women and didn't hide their bodies. It was one of the most beautiful things I had ever seen considering I had spent all my life watching TV and movies with anorexic stars, looking at magazines and ads that had been airbrushed to the nines, and listening to my friends and peers obsessing over their weight.
And these women had men. Good looking and nice men that loved their bodies and them.
So right there I learned that there's a bit of baggage, called low self confidence, that comes with our perception of weight, and that baggage is what others are seeing and what's making us ugly, not our weight.
That's right; it's not only how you view yourself but also how you think others are viewing you that makes you less attractive. This means that you think others are seeing the bad qualities you are seeing in yourself, even though they are probably not, and you are the only one causing the problem with the way others see you by showing them your low self esteem.
It all boils down to self confidence in yourself and has nothing to do with your weight at all. Low self confidence is not an attractive quality that men, or anyone, is drawn to.
Women like this tend to hold back their real selves. They stay in the background as to not draw much attention to themselves because they don't think that the deserve it or they think that other people will only see them for their weight and when they do talk to other people they make it known that they have very little self confidence whether it be through words, jokes, or actions.
By the way if you think you are fooling the world with jokes you are dead wrong. People can see right through that.
So if a man has his choice between picking the woman in the background who is scared to let loose and be real or the woman in front of his face sending out a beam of confidence and happiness who do you think he is going to choose? Of course he will choose the woman who is happy, confident, funny, and has all those other positive traits that makes her sexy.
If you want to attract men then work on this area of your life. Affirm to yourself in the mirror every day about how beautiful you are and how you radiate the energy of a sexy woman. Improve your outlook on yourself and how you view beauty. Do this and men will see that sexiness that you see and find you irresistible.
Bellaisa is an advocate for happy and stable relationships with yourself and with others and she is the owner of The Relationship Circle. For more information and advice on how to find love or fix a relationship issue visit http://relationship-circle.com and begin a happier and more fulfilling love life. Love can be complicated and stressful if you let it be. Visit The Relationship Circle for information, resources, and articles on everything to do with relationships. Including friends, family, and lovers.
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