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>> Threesome Sex - Rules of Engagement. 

Threesome sex will become an eye-opening, beautiful new reality for you when you decide to expand the borders of your current relationship. If you are a woman, you may decide to embrace your female bi-curious side.

You also may want to evolve from monogamy into the new and exciting world of open relationships. You may simply be attracted to a single beautiful stranger and want to share this experience with your current partner.

In some cases, you will be on your way to discover something you actually already wanted to do for a LONG TIME but were scared to admit even to yourself.

This was my case. I was into polyamory since my teenage years but I was so heavily socially conditioned that I did not dare to admit this even to myself until my late twenties.

I did not fit into the mainstream monogamy paradigm at all and consequently all my long-term relationships based on committed monogamy failed on by one. It took me quite a few years to dismiss the old paradigm and build a new one from scratch.

Threesome sex (or even foursome or fivesome if you wish so) will eventually become your reality and hugely increase the vitality and strength of your current relationship. In addition, your partner's bi-curiosity will be satisfied.

Nevertheless, for a couple (both female-female and male-female) there are some important challenges that arise after you decide to go and try threesome sex. There are few dangerous underwater stones to avoid. Unless you take care of them - they may cost you your relationship.

I am serious. Read carefully. Follow these rules and relationship advice.

Discovering this stuff took me and my (girl)friends quite some years and a few broken relationships. Take advantage of someone else's experiences and avoid those nasty pitfalls.

THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE ON YOUR WAY TO THREESOME SEX

Most challenging for you both will be the emotional challenge your woman is going through during the whole experience. Her biggest worry will be, "Will my partner stay with me after he tried another woman?"

Her next question will become, "Is s(he) doing it FOR ME and OUR RELATIONSHIP? Or is it just for his (her) own pleasures and may be s(he) is even using me as a bait?"

Read rules on sexuality on my website. They will set up a solid healthy ground for any kind of sexual experience.

Properly applied they will help you immensely. Don't just read - execute them.

RULE 1. COMMUNICATE!

Communicate beforehand! Discuss what is appropriate and what is not appropriate for your woman during the threesome sex. Listen carefully what she has to say. Share your own fears and desires.

My take on it (and remember - I am in a polyamorous relationship) looks like this: we are bringing in a new, interesting, and cool girl for friendship and sex. Threesome is just another way to connect with a new person. If my girl and I are going to like this new woman then she may become our new partner and a good friend. If not - we let chips fall where they may.

For a woman in a committed monogamous relationship it will be very important to know that threesome sex will not take place often. She might be scared of the thought that threesome sex may replace your usual one-on-one intimacy. It is your job to ensure her that this is not going to be the case and to keep this promise. (Unless one day you both discuss and agree otherwise.)

Your woman may also want to ensure that you are not going to have sex with others unless she is participating. Whatever the case may be - make honest agreements, set up the rules, and follow them.

Be careful with doing things during the threesome sex that you never did before with your current partner. It may cause her to feel like you somehow cannot express yourself with her sexually one-on-one.

RULE 2. DIVIDE YOUR ATTENTION 80-20

This is 80% - 20% rule. During the intercourse, you will give 80% of your attention to your current partner and only 20% to a new girl.

This is a very important principle for you to understand whether you are a man or a female (leading) partner in a lesbian relationship.

If during the threesome sex, you are going to give biggest part of your attention to a new girl then your partner will get jealous, offended, and might get an idea that she is not good enough for you anymore.

Realize it. Stay aware of this ALL THE TIME.

Do not just jump on a new girl however strong the chemistry between two of you may be. It will hurt your current partner. Put yourself in her shoes for a second. Feel how it feels like. Are you getting the idea now?

See, you are in the beginning of a wonderful journey; you are starting to expand your horizon. This is just a step stone into a new life. Begin it carefully. Mind your step.

What if your woman gets too busy with a new girl and forgets you? If you mind - you can express it softly after the threesome sex is over and another girl is gone. In my experience, it rather was ME in the past who sometimes forgot to pay most of my attention to my woman.

Though I understand that it is not easy at all to give all your attention to your current partner while there is a new woman right next to you (hot, interesting, open, and sexy) - you still have to stay conscious and aware of the facts as I tell you.

At some point, your woman may direct you towards the new girl. Do it but still remember to come back after a few minutes. Otherwise, your partner might begin to feel abandoned.

Note: Alcohol may increase your partner's emotional sensitivity and make things look more dramatic. It is therefore better to stay reasonably sober during your threesome sex experience.

How long will you keep this 80-20 rule? After a while, 80-20 will become 70-30 or even 50-50. I would not suggest giving your partner LESS then half of your attention. With a time, you will get an intuitive understanding of the threesome sex dynamics.

Stay conscious of this rule. If you break it, you introduce a split into your relationship. Remember, all happens for your woman's pleasure.

You are not going to hurt her, right? In the past, I made this mistake a couple of times myself even though I thought I was very conscious of my girl. We had a discussion afterwards and our quest for new threesomes was delayed for a while.

On the other hand, you may let your women and a new girl to play with each other as much as possible. Take a position of a leader but stay sort of above the scene.

Following this rule is sometimes not easy but the difference between following and NOT following these rules is a difference between HAVING and NOT HAVING a relationship after the threesome sex is over.

RULE 3. DIVIDE YOUR ATTENTION 50-50 AFTER THREESOME SEX IS OVER

You just established an intimate bond with a new woman. After the sex is over be social and give her your warmth, attention, and acceptance. You are now in a small social group of three.

When threesome sex is over your women wants to be social, share experiences and communicate with you and another woman. Participate in it and divide your attention equally now.

If you are too closed and talk mostly with your woman or just shut up - both women may assume that you did not enjoy what happened or even worse - new girl might think that you did it just for your own selfish needs and now you are just waiting for her to leave. Even if you are sleepy and tired - stay social and nice. Divide your attention equally and make sure everybody is enjoying the afterglow.

RULE 4. YOUR RELATIONSHIP ONLY GETS BETTER

Threesome sex happens for you both and is meant to strengthen and expand your relationship. Do your best to convey this idea to your partner. Be honest and congruent with it.

You are bringing the third person only to enhance and to enrich the relationship between two of you. This whole threesome sex thing is done for your own and for your partner's further growth and development.

Don't just read this. Apply these rules and enjoy the results. The world has many more beautiful, sensual, and thrilling experiences for you. Stay open. Keep exploring. 

>> Female Sexuality - Foreplay Tips. 

These foreplay tips will give you direct advantage over thousands of other lovers. When applied, they will immediately put you in the eyes of any woman into that special category of lovers who are worth keeping for a LOOOONG time.

Most people are so wrapped up in their own egoist pursuits that they take it along into the bedroom too. Trying to steal some pleasure from another and enjoy it without giving much back has become "normal" behavior for many men and women.

However, if you want to keep your partner and yourself satisfied - you have to learn other rules. Here are some priceless basics.

TIP #1: MAKE YOUR FOREPLAY LOOOONG

This is one of those "magic" ingredients that keep your relationship/s alive for years to come. You will feel sexual tension rising long before you enter the bedroom. Long foreplay equals ATTENTION as well as many other good things in her eyes.

This is exactly what so many couples are missing these days. Life imposes rhythms on us and those rhythms are often too fast. People feel like they need to rush through the day. There are so many things to be done.

Planning is tight; checklists are waiting; action guides pressing... Rush, rush, rush...

Stop. Take a deep breath. Think of you lover. Your intimate life deserves better.

It is an island where other rules are valid. Where you take time to meet your intimate partner again and again. Where every encounter means exciting discoveries and re-discoveries of some known and forgotten pleasures. Take your time... Release yourself.

TIP #2: TEASE

Do not give her things she wants straight away. Let her wait a bit for her favorite kiss, touch, penetration. There is so much anticipation built in those 4-5 minutes of delayed pleasure.

It will feel so much more intense and vivid.

Don't go for her favorite deep-tongue kissing right from the start (like you always used to do).

Pull back, give her gentle lips-to-lips kiss, and pay attention... to her neck. Then come back to her lips and tease her with tip of your tongue for a few seconds. Pull back; kiss her arms and only THEN come back with passionate french style tornado.

See how wild she will become. Feel the tension. Dive in it. Flow. Be ravished by the way she enjoys your actions.

TIP #3: USE SENSUAL TOUCHING

Learn to touch her so that she gets excited even when you brush your palm along most non-erogenous parts of her body.

It is one of the most important skills that make her distinguish between a masterful lover and an amateur. What category do you want to belong to? Right. I thought so.

Once you will master this art - you will often hear women say very interesting thing about you. You may hear months later that she decided to go with you that very first evening only because you put your arm on hers in "such a special way... like no-one ever did before".

You may also hear right away, while being in bed and touching her naked arms, "Please do it again, I enjoy it sooooo much". There will be many, many variations to the above phrases. Invest tiny portion of your time in learning and rip those amazing results for years to come.

==>> Alex May is the editor of http://www.dating-sexuality-relationship-advice.com/ - the unconventional guide for people who want to explore their love and sex life to the fullest. More about foreplay fundamentals is at http://www.dating-sexuality-relationship-advice.com/foreplay.html - Alex May, international coach in the area of sexuality, dating and relationships, has been involved in life coaching and social dynamics trainings since 1999. His experience with teaching people various aspects of human sexuality goes back to 1989. Alex May believes that dating, sexuality and relationships are one undivided whole. He also believes that in modern world where everything is evolving and changing it will be also extremely important to bring some major adjustments into our current relationship models. Alex May runs website helping people to become more aware and to be able to have passionate, sexually charged, and beautiful relationships many years after their marriages.

>> 5 Typical things women say to men and what they ACTUALLY mean. 

I often say that women give the best pick up advice to men. As long as you don't listen to what they tell you to do. Women give their advice through their reactions. They also give their advice to you through what they say, you just have to know how to translate it.

So today in part one of my 3 part series on "Speaking Womanese" we're going to look at some typical things women say when meeting new men, and what they actually mean.

1. " I have a boyfriend".

This particular phrase can mean a variety of things based on when and how it is brought up in the conversation. The first realization you have to make about girls telling you they have boyfriends, is that it's not always true. Often times the girl will say she has a boyfriend just to avoid having to be rude or waste her time entertaining a guy she's not interested in all night. Women will also say things like "we're lesbians" or "we're together" to get rid of you in a socially acceptable way.

If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend REALLY early on in the conversation (like in the first 3 minutes or less) she really means "I'm not interested in you romantically". Women hate social awkwardness, so if she's really not into the conversation and she can tell you're hitting on her, saying she has a boyfriend is a nice friendly way out of the discomfort.

If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend when you are trying to escalate the interaction(by getting a phone number or trying to get her to leave with you) it generally means one of two things. Either she has let the interaction go further than she intended and she wants to let you know you don't have a chance. Or she is trying to let you know that this may be a one time thing.

If a woman casually mentions a boyfriend by saying something like "my boyfriend and I" or "we like to.." then she is generally just letting you know the situation but may still be open to escalating the interaction. At which point it becomes an issue of morality outside the scope of this newsletter ☺

2. "We're not having sex tonight!"

If a woman tells you she's not going to have sex with you, she's already thinking about it. Women throw up the "we're not having sex tonight." objection because they realize that things are starting to heat up between the two of you. They do this because they have to be able to maintain plausible deniability. Maintaining plausible deniability means that you always take responsibility for escalation. This goes for everything from making the first approach, to giving her an excuse she can tell her friends about why she left the club with you. Everything is your responsibility. The girl has to be able to explain to her friends that she wasn't going back to your place to get fucked senseless. She was going over to save some money on drinks "or " have a nightcap before she headed home." But then "one thing led to another…"

So when she says "we're not having sex tonight" she means " I want you to convince me that there won't be any consequences for me if I have sex with you tonight." This is where showing a girl that you don't kiss and tell is crucial. You have to show the girl that you are not going to hurt her reputation or lose respect for her if she sleeps with you.

If a woman tells you she's not having sex with you tonight, you should always respond " I was just about to tell you the same thing." Ideally though you want to tell the girl that you're not having sex with her first. I always treat that statement like the finish line of a race you want to get to first.

3. " I don't (kiss, have sex, have a threesome with midgets) on the (first night, first date, 3rd date).

When a woman gives you a rule like " I don't kiss on the first date." Or " I don't have sex until the 3rd date." She is sending a clear message. She is not sure about you. She doesn't necessarily know if she sees you in her life long term or if you're just some guy she'll go on a couple of dates with and forget. So because of this she's starting to lay down rules. Now some girls actually do have rules about their dating lives, but most don't. Most women simply go with what's bringing in the most good emotions. If she's starting to get all logical she's not that into you…

If a woman says something like this, it's a great opportunity to inject some humor and flip the script on the girl. If a girl ever gives me a rule, I just respond " Cool is that you're only rule or do you have more before I get to tell you mine?" Now sometimes she'll have some more rules, but once she's done I'll give her a ridiculous list of rules that I have until she's laughing so hard she's forgotten what we were talking about. The more random and funny the better. Some of my favorites are enforcing a casual dress Fridays where she's not allowed to wear pants, reminding her that Tuesday is "Feed Jon Grapes and Fan him day" and more.

4. " You're a (jerk, player, asshole)

When a woman playfully insults you or accuses you of being a jerk, player, dirty old man, whatever… she's actually saying " I'm kinda attracted to you and I want to see if you're really cool, or pretending." Because men can lie, women have to have a way of figuring out which guys are actually cool, and which guys are faking it. So when you are getting attraction from girls early on, they will often "test" you.

The best way to deal with tests from women is to agree and exaggerate. What most guys do wrong is they disagree and then try to show a girl how they're not a jerk or a player. This is bad because it sets an underlying theme of you trying to live up to her expectations instead of vice versa. So instead you always agree when a woman accuses or insults you. Then you exaggerate the comment to absurdity. So for example if a girl accuses you of being a player, you can say " Yeah I'm actually pretty booked up right now but I can slot you in next Thursday if you promise to be good. " or " Yeah, I was actually recently voted the 6th biggest player in a mid major city by people magazine."

5. "Let's Just be Friends."

When a girl you've just met tells you that she just wants to be friends, what she really means is that she's not interested in you at all. Most people, especially attractive women don't make friends from failed pickup attempts. The fact that she's suggesting being friends means that she's not interested in you romantically. Plus she's worried that you're expecting something more. If a girl tells you she just wants to be friends you're pretty much out of luck. In rare circumstances you can escape the friend zone, but you are officially out of the "Ultimate Relationship Proposition" category. So if you actually do want to be friends with her(without it being part of a long term seduction plan) then continue to get her phone number and try to hang out with her. Just be sure to mention that you are only trying to be her friend, lest she suspect you're trying to get in her pants. It also may be a good idea to hang out with her in a mixed group of your friends and her friends. This will help it feel less like a date the first couple of times you guys hang out. Female friends are a huge blessing. I highly recommend that everyone reading this makes friends with at least 5 women you're interested in.

Ok, so that sums up what women really mean when they say things like " we're not having sex tonight" or " Let's Just Be Friends." Next time I'm going to be breaking down how women communicate using body language, eye contact and spatial relevance.

>> How to Get a Woman to Kiss You First!

Knowing how and when to kiss a woman can be a really difficult task when you're first starting out. In fact once most guys get their fundamentals down(For info on this checkout my free 60 page ebook at sinnsofattraction.com/gad), this can be the next biggest hurdle. I, myself actually spent an entire month once trying to makeout with every girl I started talking to.

This is how you develop an intuition for when to go for a kiss. I highly recommend that you guys try this sometime. Especially if you have a tendency to go on great dates or have 20 minute conversations in bars that lead nowhere. It can be scary at first but you'll learn when to go for it, and when to lean back and build more tension. Anyway when to kiss a woman is a whole nother topic that could probably use it's own newsletter.

The Almost Kiss is a great technique because it actually gets the girl to kiss you first, most of the time. I'd say in the 80-90% range if you do it right. It also helps build a huge amount of sexual tension. I've seen some other versions out there floating around but this will be the original one I learned from my friend Thom.

Without further Ado, here's how you use The Almost Kiss routine.

First you should have been talking to the girl for at least 25 minutes. Kissing(especially in clubs) is not a big deal and can happen almost immediately if attraction is there. However, you don't want to kiss her too soon because she may regret it later.

Second you need to make sure you are having a one on one conversation with the girl. It's a bad idea to try to do this in front of her friends, as it makes her look bad. If you need an excuse to get her away from her friends try saying this. " I'm gonna go get another drink at the bar. Keep me company."

Then while she's talking you need to interrupt and say something like this " Hey, I'm really sorry, but I'm having a REALLY hard time paying attention to what you're saying. I'm really just thinking about kissing you. And I know we're not ready for that , but here's what we're going to do. We're going to do an almost kiss."

Now here she will probably ask you what an almost kiss is. Explain that the two of you are going to get as close as possible without kissing. Ideally you should be able to feel her breath on your lips when you do this.

Before you actually go in for the almost kiss, you need to make her pinky swear she's not going to kiss you.

Hold the almost kiss for 2-3 seconds and then lightly and playfully push her away and say " That's all you get!"

Now here's where the genius comes in. After the first time you do an almost kiss, you go back to normal conversation. Then 5,10 or 15 minutes later you tell her you're ready for another almost kiss.

The second time the girl will almost always break and kiss you first. The sexual tension just becomes unbearable to the girl, so she releases it by kissing you first. That's why I love this routine, because when the girl kisses you first she thinks it's her idea. Plus it takes all the guess work out of when you have to make a move.

So the next time you're stuck and don't know when or how to kiss a girl, try an almost kiss. She might just kiss you first.

>> Qualification. 

Women become attracted to men ALL the time.

Re-read that sentence 100 times.

"Women become attracted to men ALL the time."

A woman doesn't have the time necessary to get to know every guy she is attracted to. So when you have good attraction game, you will be able to get a woman's REAL phone number in a short amount of time. However when you call her the next day, this is the difference in thinking between men and women.

PUA: She gave me her number it's on. Woman: Yeah he was attractive but why would I see him again? Why is he calling me he doesn't even know anything about me, he must just want sex. I don't feel like having sex. I'm not going to call him back. Or Buyer's Remorse as it has been called many times. However if you can convince a woman that you like her for reasons other than her looks and sexuality, she will be motivated to see you again. Ideally you will develop actual standards and find things that you actually like in the particular girl. So the old way that we did this was through the use of the Bait-Hook- Reel-Release model.

Now a quick word. If you have a proper conversational ratio, meaning that she is speaking about 40% of the time by now, she should be giving you things about herself that you can qualify her for. You can also qualify arbitrarily by telling the entire group that they are cool or fun. When she has not given you reasons to qualify her and you can tell she is attracted, you will want to bait her to tell you cool things about herself. You can do this through the use of questions or statements. In the beginning you want to make the hoops small and innocuous. When I took my initial program many years ago, Mystery just taught us to ask " what you have going for you more than your looks."

That is what I call a large hoop. And even if a woman is attracted she may refuse to answer that question as out of the blue it is too big of a compliance request. I noticed that as I was in field girl would answer it most of the time, but sometimes it would not go over.

At the time I was reading a lot of sales lit and I learned about the concept of a yesladder. Basic idea is that the more someone says yes the more likely they are to say yes in the future. I applied this to qualification by starting with smaller qualification hoops leading to medium sized hoops and ending with the large hoop " What do you have going for you besides your looks." Small hoops are any question that presents a stereotype that a woman wants to be seen as. She should be able to answer yes to this question with little or no thinking. Some examples are " Are you adventurous, Are you smart, are you a good friend?"

Medium hoops require a little more thinking and are actually where you will find out if your qualification is taking or not. Some examples are "what nationality are you? What do you want to be when you grow up?" It's here that a woman can if uninterested stop the qualification by not answering or giving a slow answer such a s" I'm a mutt." Side note, a woman will not answer a qualification question for one of two reasons. One she is not attracted. These answers will be short and succinct. Like "I don't know". The other reason is that she sees you as an authority and doesn't want to say something to make herself seem less cool.

If she is making an effort to answer the question, you need to reward her. Large hoops are blatantly qualifying questions where she will realize she is qualifying herself but do it anyway because she has already invested earlier. So the old model required us to bait with a question and would sometimes sound like a job interview as you pummeled the girl with questions. So the first mistake to correct is only asking questions. Any question can be turned into a statement fairly easily. For example let's say I want to find out what nationality a girl is. I could ask, "What nationality are you?" Or I can say, " You look very German." And wait for her to either agree or disagree. You get the exact same information, at which point you need to give her an indicator of interest or compliment if you want to be normal. Qualification will be the first point in the interaction where you can start to hit on the girl. So as soon as she answers the question, we reward her with a compliment.

For example "OMG you're German!"  I love German girls, my ex-fiancé was German and we went over there and traced her whole family tree. It's such a cool culture. The compliment should be non-generic and non-physical.

The more in-depth and specific you can be, the more qualified she will feel. In the old model, the next step was to release by throwing a small IOD like " can't even talk to you anymore." Then return to normal conversation. This is where guys get into trouble most of the time and the main reason why I felt the need to write this post. You DON"T need to release every time.

In fact if you follow this cycle dogmatically the girl will even notice it. You may even have girls respond to I can't talk to you by saying ok. The key to releasing is to do it ONLY when a woman feels uncomfortable with you hitting on her. If she is accepting your compliments and likes them then there is NO reason to release it and it will seem fake. So the release in my model has been changed to a tease and it still remains at the end of the cycle but this time there is a piece before the release.

And that piece is asking a rapport question. One of the main reasons that guys have problems being able to qualify girls is that they go in with the intention of trying to qualify a girl. Instead of actually trying to find out what is cool about the girl. So when you BHRR without exploring the topic of conversation, it comes across as fake.

If you were really that interested in her nationality you would probably ask a question like " Have you ever been to Germany" etc… The more actual interest you can show here the better. Now onto to releases. The best way to release is to throw in a nonsequitor tease. Something along the lines of " Too bad your such a dork!" The point of a release is to pop the bubble of tension that has been created by hitting on her.

This makes her more comfortable as you have released the tension created by hitting on her. But remember you don't have to do it every time. Only when she appears uncomfortable with you hitting on her. Generally with a bigger IOI. Another way of releasing tension on smaller hoops (Which get smaller IOIs BTW) is to structure a challenge to her quality.

PUA: Are you adventurous? Girl: Yeah Totally PUA: Awesome I love adventurous people. There's just so much more fun. What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done? Don't say running with scissors. Girl: One time I went skydiving The last thing I want to talk about is the idea of continuous qualification. Meaning that comfort and qualification and later on relationship and qualification are going to cycle. You will need to keep giving her reasons that you like her FOREVER. So when you are stuck for things to say on a date or 10 year into your marriage tell the girl why you like her.

>> Mature Men and Sexual Addiction.

In this article we are talking about sex and sexual addiction.  The older man, men over 60 (senior men) and young women between the ages of 18 and 32 years old.

Needless to say with the rules of society and women not wanting to be looked at by themselves and the world as sluts, sexual addiction is more difficult for women to accept. It is easier for women to express their sex addiction because normally it is easier for women to find sex partners than men.

People can become addicted to drugs, alcohol or gambling, they can also become addicted to sex, anything from internet sex to obsessive masturbation to affairs. If you are an older man with a sexual addiction Elvis King, the older man, younger women affairs expert can help.

The Hell for older men is to be a sex addict and not be able to find young women to enjoy your addiction with. If you are a movie star, tv star, or a rock star or a professional pick up artist or a playboy life can be good as a sex addict. If you are not your only outlet will probably be street prostitutes. This can be dangerous to your health for numerous reasons. A better solution for an older man would to become friends with a guy like me and get out and meet hot young women who want an older boyfriend.

Gentlemen, I am a senior citizen, boomer, man over 60, older man and I am sex addict. I confess that I am a sex addict. It all started when I was 14 and I saw that the world was full of hot young women who also would like to have lots of sex. I grew up in the hipster era and I got an addiction to sex and young women early in life, while grabbing more than my fair share of free love. Now I am 60 years old and I can NOT even go one day with out SEX with a young woman or women!

I have a strong sex drive or sexual obsession. Get this guys and gals I am not looking for a cure. I am a HAPPY sex addict. I went on to have sex with one to three young women each and every day of my life for over forty five years. To convince that many women to climb on board I had to develop the gift of gab and exude a high level of sexual attraction to the opposite sex. I developed a high speed pick up artist and seduction system that has served me well. Even to this day I can convince young women to come home with me and I am still the one night stand King.

If I ever get to old where that young women won't come home with me any more I am afraid I would have to revert to paying prostitutes. Thank God I do NOT have to as of yet!

Sex for me is like a drug that I have just got to have or I go nuts, then when I get it I get a happiness release that lasts a few hours until I have to go again. I had a threesome today with two hot 18 year old blonds.

According to Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia the definition of sexual addiction is as follows:

Sexual addiction is a controversial term used to describe individuals who report being unable to control their sexual behaviors or urges. The idea of "sexual addiction" is not universally accepted and is not recognized either by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) of the American Psychiatric Association or by the International Classification of Diseases of the World Health Organization.

Other terms, such as sexual compuslivity have also been used.Those who do use this term have described sex addicts as people who, possibly out of fear of any truly intimate relationship, repeatedly and compulsively try to connect with others through highly impersonal intimate behaviors: masturbation, empty affairs, frequent visits to prostitutes, voyeurism, and the like. Sex addicts - numbering in the millions, both men and women, young and old, of all races and religions - become mesmerized with the thrill and rush of adrenaline that they can achieve only through their obsessive, highly ritualized patterns of sexual behavior.

Some believe that sexual addiction is a form of psychological addiction. People who believe in the construct have described the behavior of sex addicts as comparable to behavior of alcoholics and [drug] addicts, with sex functioning like a drug.

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?

2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?

3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?

4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?

5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?

7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?

8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?

9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?

10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?

11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?

12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions according to Sex Addicts Anonymous, SAA you may have a problem.

>> How To Find Threesome Women. 

Literally hundreds of women looking for a discreet affair and amazingly enough a whole bunch of them open or looking specifically for couples WOW! Great Tip :-)

What also caught my attention was that of course there are also a lot of guys looking for couples for an MMF threesome! In fact, I must confess that I got a bit ticked at my hubby as he automatically assumed we were looking for a woman to join us. Anyway, choices are there and it's up to you what gender you decide to involve in your threesome (Truth be told, I wanted our third party to be female too. But I still quietly resented the double standard lol!)"

As mentioned above this is part 1 of the email, but already there is a lesson to be learned...

Lesson 1: Finding candidates online to have a threesome is not difficult at all.

There are a number of sites specifically catering to those who want to enjoy the "World's Favorite Fantasy". The challenge starts when unexperienced couples suddenly realize that indeed women are literally offering themselves to them to have a threesome, and suddenly the women in the couple actually gets cold feet.

Sure a threesome sounds great "on fantasy" but when the "rubber meets the road" it's quite another story...

These are the most common questions that pop up on a woman's mind and the ones that might give her most likely "cold feet":

-Could I actually watch my husband fuck another woman?

-Could I watch him go down on another woman?

-Could I watch her go down on him?

In most cases, guys don't care whatever you do with the girl if it is an FFM threesome but if it is the other way around (as my reader expresses above) guys also get cold feet...

Lets continue reading Mary's email for a second:

"Despite the fact that we agreed to an FFM threesome, out of fairness and for argument's sake, I had to ask: Would he be cool with watching another guy have intercourse with me? Nope. Oral, giving and receiving? Yup."

As you can see guys also get "cold feet" and sure it is natural. Now, the important thing for you to know is that indeed it is easy to find a woman (or a man) for a threesome online, however the first thing you need to do is to talk about limitations, fears and whatever is on your mind with your partner.

Trust me, you will have a fascinating discussion and you will have a blast discovering your own and each other's limits. I highly recommend exploring online possibilities as an exercise for any couple. PLUS It also great foreplay for some good old-fashioned twosome sex."

>> The Learning Process Of Dating Science. 

The Learning process of Pick Up.

Hey guys,

Today I'm going to be addressing something near and dear to my heart. The learning process of pick up.

There are a lot of people giving out a lot of bad advice on how to learn this stuff, so I want to make sure that I get my thoughts and experiences out to you guys to help shorten your learning curves.

First let's talk about the idea of a learning curve. A learning curve is the specific personal path that you will need to take to get to your goals. Everyone's learning curves will be different. For example a guy who's 6'4, extremely good looking and works as a movie producer, will have a significantly shorter learning curve than a guy who's 5'4 300lbs and unemployed. But both of these guys can eventually get all the success they desire by following the same basic rules for learning.

The first rule of learning pick-up, is that ALL real learning happens in the field. You can theorize until you're blue in the face, but until you learn how to actually apply the theory in real life, you haven't actually learned anything. That's why you want to follow the 4:1 ratio of field time to reading. That means that for every hour you read, you need to spend four hours out actually approaching. It doesn't count to just go out and hang out.

The second rule of learning pick up is learning to only take in high quality information. There's a lot of keyboard jockeys out there. Guys who sit around and can spout theory like an encyclopedia of game, but haven't gotten laid in a year or ever. You have to be super careful about who you listen to, especially on message boards. It's a good idea to research who you are learning from. Make sure that they have a track record not only of success for themselves but for their students as well. 

The next rule of learning is the rule of small chunks. When you first find this stuff, it can be overwhelming as there are literally hundreds of thousands of pages on pick up theory ranging from dealing with self esteem issues to sexual techniques. With so much out there, it can be tempting to want to read up on all of it at once. The thinking being that if you can learn everything you'll be equipped for every situation and have perfect game! Unfortunately life doesn't work like that. Despite the awesome power of the human brain we can only process and digest a small amount of information at a time.

This number reduces even further when the information that we are taking in is counter intuitive to our already existing belief structures. That's where the idea of small chunking comes in to play. You have to be able to break all the information down into small bite sized chunks that you can implement. So how do we do that? I'm glad you asked, we do this by focusing on learning one skill at a time and practicing that one skill until we have it mastered, before moving on.

In the beginning this can be something as simple as making and holding eye contact. Instead of reading up on how to make "seductive" or "hypnotic" eye contact, you read some basic bullet points and head out. Then you practice making and holding eye contact with people until the field tells you you're doing it correctly. Girls will give you the best pick up advice, as long as you watch what they react to, instead of what they say. Once you've got that down, you move on to the next small thing. Remember learning pick up is like eating an elephant you can only eat one bite at a time.

The fourth rule of learning pick up is learning to be completely honest with yourself. I often say on bootcamps that one of the biggest difference between the guys who get good and the guys who don't is honesty. You have to be able to look at yourself and realize that some parts of your personality are not helpful and need to change, if you want more success with women. Some guys decide that they don't care enough to change and that's ok too. Just don't come on one of my bootcamps.

The fifth and final rule of learning pick up is learning to focus only on that which is within your control. In psychology they talk a lot about internal vs external locuses of control. The idea behind the fancy terms being that there are some things you can control and others you cannot. In pick up everything is a variable. In fact the only things you can control are yourself and your reactions to situations. So you are constantly faced with choices. You can either approach the girl or stand by the bar. One of these actions brings you closer to your goal the other doesn't. But it is a choice. You have to stop worrying about whether or not the girls will like you, if there's going to be a guy in the group, etc… Because you can't control it. In fact the more you resist things that are out of control, the more discomfort you create for yourself and the further out of state and into your head you go. Learn to ask yourself " What do I have control of in this situation" and " What do I want the outcome to be here?" Those two questions should bring you back to right action.

Simply following these five rules will put you leaps and bounds ahead of most guys who are learning this stuff. I've put together a FREE 60 page report on how you can avoid the mistakes that lead over 90% of guys to miss out on the dating life of their dreams

>> A Simple Dating Tip That Will Help You Hook Up On The First Date! 

A simple dating tip, that can help you hook up on the first date.

A lot of guys tell me that they're great on dates, or getting dates, but it always takes them a really long time to start hooking up. I always ask them one simple question.

Where do you start your dates?

There is only one correct answer to this question if you really want to maximize your chances of hooking up. Your place.

So how do you get a girl to meet you at your place? On the surface, it would seem more difficult to get a girl to meet you at your place than at say… a bar. It's actually not. Girls are more than happy to meet you at your place, as long as there's a reason for it. I personally moved to an area where there were a ton of places to go on dates, within walking distance. Next time you're setting up a date with a girl, try slipping in something like the following.

" We're gonna go do X(whatever you're doing on your date ) it's right by my place, so just meet me there, and we'll walk."

When she shows up at your place, you want to create a reason why the two of you have to go inside. I usually pretend to "forget" my wallet. When you get her inside, you don't want to give her a tour or try to make a move on her. Instead you want to quickly grab your wallet or whatever, and hustle her out the door. By letting her see your place early, you remove the fear of the unknown. This will be helpful later on when you invite her in for a nightcap. You also show her that you weren't just trying to get her into your place to grope her.

Another thing meeting a girl at your place does is allow you to create a reason for her to come back at the end of the date. My favorite way to do this comes from my friend Thompson. He's from the South, and as a Southern gentleman, he was raised with manners. This includes paying for all dates. So he tells girls that because he's paying , she has to leave her purse at his place. Then at the end of the night, she has to come back in to get her purse.

Hopefully by now you've seen all of the benefits of starting dates at your house, but let's recap them one last time. First it gets her comfortable being in your place. Second it allows you to setup a reason for her to come back later. And lastly it lets you stay home and wait in the comfort of your own home, if she's ever late…

Make sure next time you set up a date, it starts at your place!

==>> Jon Sinn is world renowned as " The World's Second Best pick Up Artist." He was the lead instructor at The Mystery Method for 3 years while learning from Mystery himself.  Sinn is widely regarded as the second best PUA in the world. As a teenager, he was known in his social group for his spectacular failures with women. In fact he didn’t even lose his virginity until he found the pick up community. He is also known as the leading thought innovator in Dating Science.  >> Go to www.SinnsofAttraction.com to get his free 60 page report on getting started in game; The Game Acceleration Doctrine...

>> 10 Hot Sexual Fantasies to Act Out! 

Got Sexual Fantasies? If you and your partner want to take sex to the max, acting out your wildest sexual fantasies can do just that, as long as it's consensual and acted out in a safe manner. Below, you'll find several of the most common sexual fantasies peppered with a few of the more "interesting" scenarios.

1.) Sex With A Stripper/Hooker

Getting it on with an attractive stripper is a pretty common fantasy for both men and women. And it's pretty easy to turn your living room into a "strip club." All it takes are a few black lights, a strobe light, stripper-friendly dance music, a nice plush chair or sofa and lots of cash! For added effect, have your fantasy stripper wear a sexy bathing suit you've never seen before...wow!!! Another variation is to role play that you've picked up a hooker on the street by literally picking up your partner on the street or at a bar and then going to a cheap motel or ???

2.) Wedding Night

In this scenario, you and your partner have tied the knot after a week of no sex. It's been a long day of mingling with family and friends and you haven't had a chance to be alone...until now. So what are you guys gonna do now??? For maximum effect, refrain from having sex for an entire week - for real!

3.) Sex with the Ex

You're out and about and bump into your ex, only to discover that they're getting married to someone else - tomorrow. You both end up in bed for the most mind-blowing sex in the world...behind their new spouse's back. How dirty is that???

4.) Rape Fantasy

This is a pretty common fantasy among women. It involves being overpowered by the other person and forced to have sex, but without violence. It's very important to clearly discuss boundaries with your partner when planning this one.

5.) Beauty Pageant Fantasy

Guys, c'mon: how many times have you watched the Miss America swimsuit competition and said to yourself, "Ooh, I'd love to have sex with her." You can act out this fantasy by playing a pageant judge who meets one of the beauties backstage. "Little Miss Innocent" then promises special "favors" in exchange for good scores. Make sure she wears a bikini you've never seen before for the ultimate arousal.

6.) Threesome Fantasy

Now be honest: at some point in your life, you've thought about this one, haven't you? A threesome is something that should be thoroughly discussed between all parties involved: it could change relationships forever. A safer route is to just fantasize about it during sex with your partner. However, if you like to live dangerously...

7.) Black Tie Fantasy

You and your mate are getting ready to go to a black tie affair. Get yourselves all dolled up in your best tuxes and gowns. You have to leave for the event when all the sudden, you both start to get frisky with one another. The next thing you know, you're having sex in your formal wear, and are now very late to your event! For added excitement, act out this fantasy when you actually do have a formal engagement to attend...and arrive late for.

8.) Public Sex Fantasy

Here's another common fantasy with both sexes. What makes this fantasy exciting is the danger involved in getting caught. Some couples do get caught...and arrested for public indecency. A safer way to go is to enact this fantasy in the privacy of your own backyard, or fantasize about it in the bedroom. Play at your own risk.

9.) Voyeur/Exhibition Fantasy

Does the idea of watching other people have sex turn you on? What about people watching you have sex? For voyeurs: try having sex while watching videos of other people having sex. For exhibitionists: find a sound effects CD that has tracks of different crowds and pretend you're doing it at a sports stadium!

10.) BDSM Fantasy

Love hurts, especially when there are whips, chains and handcuffs involved. This one's popular one among many couples because it can cast people in a different lights and test boundaries. Just be absolutely certain that everything you both intend to do is consensual.

They say the most powerful sex organ is the brain. So if you want out-of-this-world sex, start using your head by making your sexual fantasies become realities. Remember, in your head, all of your sexual fantasies can come true -- all of them.

>> Writing Good Online Dating Emails. 

Are you an online dating e-mail virgin? Well, have no fear. While your introductory note can make or break a connection, it doesn't require a rocket scientist to figure out what works and what doesn't. We have an easy six-step recipe for cooking up great first e-mails to prospective dates.

1.) Read Profile First

To better your chances of hearing back from someone online, it's a good idea to read their profile completely. This way, you can see for yourself if you're compatible based on both of your preferences as well as make references to their profile.

2.) Craft A Catchy Subject Line

Question: What's the most overused subject line ever? Answer: Hi. It's vital to be original with your online dating e-mails, especially subject lines. To grab someone's attention, try to use edgier captions like "Grab Me While You Can," "Are You My Girl Gone Wild?" or "Wanna Frisk Me?"

3.) Keep Emails Short And Sweet

Size may matter in the bedroom, and it also matters with introductory e-mails. When it comes to that first note, less is more. Too much information could scare people off, so make sure to keep your notes brief: two or three sentences max!

4.) Use Humor & Innuendos

Writing a note to a complete stranger can be a little, um...awkward. That's why you can't go wrong with throwing in some humor into your notes. An example: "I'd love to meet you, but I just want you to know that I don't shake hands on the first date." Use humor sparingly, as what you might find funny may not translate well to someone else through e-mail. Another way to hook people in is by using sexual innuendos. An example: "How many licks do you think it'll take to get to the gooey center of my Tootsie Pop? Wanna find out?"

5.) Wrap It Up With An Open-Ended Question

If you want to hear back from someone you're interested in, a good thing to do is end your note with an open-ended question. It gives the person an incentive to respond back to you, and an opportunity to talk about themself (and who doesn't love that?). Some sample open-ended questions: "That's a sexy get-up you're wearing. Where did you get it?" "You say you love using candle wax. How did you get into that?" and "You look a lot like (a famous celebrity). How many times a day do you get that?"

6.) Never Send Carbon Copy Emails

Cutting and pasting the same email to everyone = very little chance of getting responses back. Any questions?

Feel free to pass along this recipe for great emails to all your friends. Most importantly, have fun with your introductory notes. But remember to always be respectful to other online dating members - don't be offensive. If you play your cards right, you could be meeting someone tonight!

==>> Jenna S. is SexSearch.com's fabulous "Sexpert." For more hot dating tips from Jenna, go to SexSearch.com.

>>> What is Your Fetish? 

"Fetish" has several meanings: a. It's something that is supposed to have magical or spiritual powers, b. An object of unreasonably extreme attention or veneration, c. Something which arouses sexual desire, and may be required for sexual gratification. Although fetish is a word with diverse meanings, the latter, which is associated with sex, has gained the most popularity.

The word fetish has its roots from the 15th century Portugese word feiticio which means false power, object or charm. Talismans were revered as fetish (beads, charms, totems), and the fetishists were those who worshipped the bizarre. In later years, however, the connotation of the word took on an entirely different and sexual meaning.

Fetishes come in varied kinds: media, form and animate. Material is obsessed over in a media fetish. Examples are leather, silk, nylon and latex. In a form fetish, the shape of the object has great importance. Lingerie, stiletto heels, and knee-high boots belong in this classification. Parts of the human body are also considered fetishes.

Feet, hair, breasts, butt, nose are some of the most common, and since these are part of the human body, they are called animate fetishes. In fact, any object can be turned into a fetish. This obsessive fixation leaves some people uncertain if they even have a fetish or not, while others think that having a fetish is a sign of perverseness.

If the fetish interferes with a persons' relationships, then it is wise to seek help from a professional. Here are some of the most favourite fetishes among the human species: Taut tummies make men and women alike somewhat crazy. Although some men rather like it when a woman has tummy with a teensy little pot, others are simply disgusted with a stomach that protrudes or hangs loosely.

Body piercing is a favourite of the younger crowd, usually from ages 18-35. Pierced bellybuttons, tongues, nipples, eyebrows and even penises are a major turn on. Men especially love tongue rings because of the heavenly feeling they experience when the cool object rubs against the penis during oral sex. While most men would like to settle down with a sweet woman, the "bad girl" look will forever be a fixation.

Leather, rubber, vinyl and latex all give a rather pornographic quality to a sexual encounter. The sight of the woman moving around clad in these materials is already a tease in itself. Add a pair of handcuffs and leather whip, and you'll find yourself in the new millennium where women dominate and guys submit.

No, it's not just on TV or in the movies: a lot of women love to order their men in bed like slaves, smack them and spank them. Meanwhile, guys enjoy having those things done to them. Why? Maybe because most of them are tired of performing every single time.

Some guys make it a requirement for their dates to have beautiful feet or toes. Men enjoy kissing, sucking and biting a woman's feet. Women, on the other hand, love to suck men's fingers as though it is a penis. Red lipstick and red-lacquered fingernails are the cliché of the '80's, but some guys are still infatuated with it.

A woman's nails running down their back and red lipstick smudged all over gives them a feeling of adulterated sex. One of the most favoured fetishes among guys is hair. It is an ultimate turn-on, whatever the color and length. Some are into pigtails and ponytails, probably because of the illusion that these hairstyles evoke: they have a fondness for younger women, and these hairstyles make them feel as if they are gratifying their desires.

Voyeurism is more common in men-a lot of guys find it easier to achieve orgasm while watching porn or another couple in the act. Women are not as voyeuristic, but a few admitted that they like being watched when having sex.

>>> Aphrodisiacs: For A More Satisfying Sex Life

Sex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there's something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have sex, it wanes.

Factors that cause sex life to decrease can be psychological or it can be physiological. Men from different times and era would do anything to prolong their upbeat cravings for sex, hence the discovery of aphrodisiacs. Aphrodisiacs are substances- like food, tea or herbal products, drug or scents believed to enhance libido or sexual desires.

Aphrodisiacs came from the name of Aphrodite, the Greek- Goddess of love and beauty. To further elaborate, aphrodisiacs can improve and increase sexual health and awareness, can loosen your sexual inhibitions, makes sexual organs more sensitive, can increase stamina, prevents impotence or frigidity, and perks up the gonads and other glands related to sex activity and helps in production of semen.

There are two kinds or classification of aphrodisiacs. The biochemical aphrodisiacs and the psychophysical. The biochemical are the ones that directly affect the sex organs and the psychophysical are the ones which owes their effectiveness to the beliefs of the ancient people. Herbal aphrodisiacs are usually the ones being used in ancient people to enhance their sex life.

Some example of it is Alstonia, also known as Dita, Devil's tree or Bitter Bark. It can be found in Asia, specifically India and Philippines. Dita tree is thought to retain erection and delays ejaculation. The seed of the Dita tree is said to have powerful alkaloids and chlorogenine substances.

These two agents are said to be responsible for the sexual effect of Dita Tree. Another is Betel Nut, which is said to put you in the mood for love making. Betel nut grows everywhere in the South Pacific. Betel nut has Arcoline oil, a mild nervous system stimulant; the substance can heighten your desires to open up those legs every time your partner is around.

And the famous herbal aphrodisiac, the Ginseng, as we all know Ginseng gives the stamina of a horse and restores the waning vitality caused by aging. Ginseng is also known as the root of life, manroot or redberry. Aside from herbal aphrodisiacs, there are also foods which enhance and increase intercourse activities.

Some of these are vegetables which contains androstone like celery. Some spices are also medically proven to boost libido like garlic, onion, basil, ginger and licorice. And of course, it's a common knowledge chocolates are perfect aphrodisiacs for women especially if it is handed with a sparkling diamond ring. Aphrodisiacs are just enhancements; you have to take care of yourself if you want to enjoy sex longer.

That means exercise and proper diet-discipline. Keep in mind, the most essential organ in making love is not the one between the legs, it's what's inside your head. Aphrodisiacs are futile if you're having sex for sex alone. Sex is more than just exchanging of bodily fluids, there has to be meeting of the minds.

>>> The Art Of Giving Sweet Torture 

When it comes to sexual intimacy, foreplay is essential, without it, the loving making becomes blunt and boring, it's like eating a cake without the icing. However, if you really want to be indulgent, and have your serving of cake with icing, with cherries, candy sprinkles, marshmallow, caramel, and chocolate chunks of top of it! Then you must learn the art of giving sweet torture to your man; where your every touch becomes extra delicious, extra sensuous.

Teasing, or sweet torture, as I call it, is an art. It is about building sexual anticipation by giving subtle yet provocative sexual gestures to your lover. Sweet torture is all about erotic sexual denial. It is a sexual practice where the heightened state of arousal is extended, so that when you finally go for the kill, your every move is piecing his sexual senses.

Sweet torture is very much convenient. You can do it everywhere- the more compromising the location, the better. Here are some sexy ways on how to tease your man.

* While driving. This is my personal favourite. I love teasing my man when we are driving home from work. All that stress and tension from work just makes me want to grab him and do him right there and then in the car. However, I learned that waiting and building- up anticipation has its rewards. So, here's what I do. I casually loosen- up, which means unbuttoning a little and showing a bit of flesh. Then, I would slowly massage the back of his neck, to make him feel relaxed. Next, I would slowly and seductively run my fingers on his legs and his inner thighs. This would usually do the trick, but sometimes I go further. I would naughtily play with his package until he is really hard. When this happens, I'm glad there's a speed limit or else he'll be driving in a speed of light just to get home and get it all off. The moment we reach home, all that waiting paid- off. The rewards of giving sweet torture are incomparable.

* In a restaurant. Romantic restaurants are a perfect place for a sweet torture. It makes the rendezvous more exciting and intense. Just like teasing him in the car, caress his legs as high as you can get away with. If you're feeling very daring, get your hand inside his pants and slip a hair tie around his package. If this doesn't rock his night, then nothing will.

* In a grocery store. I don't know about you, but I love buying the groceries with my honey, and I make sure that he gets excited going to the grocery store as much as I do. I never spare this mundane task from doing my sexy, sweet torture. Usually, while standing in line, I would stand so close behind him, grab his butt, rub my breast gently on his back, whisper something sexy on his ear. The sensation just drives him crazy, he can't wait to do some great lovin' when we're home.

* At home/ apartment. I love teasing my man at home, I remember how surprised his look was when we are in the middle of discussing the weather, I blurted out, "do you think this counter-top is the right height for me to straddle you?" Then, there was this time when I would casually drop something and pick it up in front of him while I was wearing my skimpy little skirt with my super sexy t-back underneath.

Teasing your man is all about feeling good and feeling sexy about yourself, if you think that your sex life needs a little push, do a little sweet torture. Believe me; doing the sweet torture can totally add spice and fun in your relationship. So, go ahead, torture you man away.

==>> The author of this article Menno Spijkstra is an Internet Marketing expert who has been successful for many years. Menno recently decided to go public and share his knowledge and experience through his website http://www.affiliatedistrict.com/. You can sign up for his free newsletter and join his coaching program.