Her Pleasure Points: How to Sexually Arouse a Woman Completely

>>> Her Pleasure Points: How to Sexually Arouse a Woman Completely! 

>> Where To Locate Her Sexually Sensitive Points. 

Most men remain curious as to what turns a woman on. We all know which female body parts men most frequently like to explore during lovemaking. Do you know she has pleasure sensors all over her body beyond the usual areas (vagina, breasts and butt)? Getting her into the mood may be as easy as stimulating some of these often-neglected pleasure points. Incorporating the act of touching these places into foreplay and sex, or just giving her some pleasure after a hard day, will definitely "add sparks" to your relationship.

Let's start exploring her from top to bottom:

(1) Hair.  Women take a lot of pride in their hair. They like men to use their hands to stroke their hair. Let your fingers massage circles from her temples to the back of her neck.

(2) Lips.  If you know how to manipulate her lips just through kissing, licking, sucking and biting, it is very possible that a kiss will lead to a lot more than that. Use your lips, tongue and your teeth to play with her top and bottom lip and kiss her with absolute passion.

(3) Ears.  Many women enjoy having their ears licked, sucked or kissed. Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the ear lobes of your woman will make her feel special.

(4) Back of her neck.  Once you can get to this area, place a few light kisses there. There is also a good place to start giving her some sensual massage that she can find it hard to resist.

(5) Collar bone.  When you begin to undress your woman, you should take the time to kiss and lick her collar bone. The reason for this is because it sends the feel good hormones to her brain.

(6) Wrists.  This may comes as a surprise to most guys but women love having their wrists nuzzled and nibbled by their lovers.

(7) Palms of her hands.  Tracing your finger along her palm will give her some delightful shivers. This is a good way to start stimulating her and gradually bring her into the mood when out on the street.

(8) Breasts.  The breasts are very sexually sensitive such that gentle fondling, squeezing, caressing, licking and sucking of the nipples can be extremely arousing. Depending on how sensitive the woman is, after stroking the nipples for a while, you can see them get hardened and erected just like penis.

(9) Pelvis.  Kissing and licking around her pelvis will excite her until she begs for more.

(10)Buttocks.  Lots of women like it when you play around with their behinds. A lot of women like mild spanking and squeezing of their buttocks. But some women like having their butts lick and suck.

(11)Behind her knees.  Most men don't know that this area is quite sensitive. Gently caressing the back of the knee under her skirts while both of you are in a public place will make her ready for action once you reach home.

(12)Inner thighs.  If you want to tease your girl before having sex, just focus on kissing and rubbing her inner thighs will turn her on.

(13)Feet.  Many women enjoy having their feet touched, massaged and some even enjoy having them licked and sucked. Women enjoy it when their men spend time caressing their soles, toes and ankles. Because these zones can be quite ticklish, the sensation of ticklishness can be quite pleasant for her.

(14)Vagina/Clitoris.  The clitoris (which is a small protrusion just above the opening of the vagina) can be stimulated by using the tongue or finger. When a woman is aroused, blood will flow to the clitoris, making the protrusion more pronounced. In the vagina, there is the so-called G-spot that can produce intense sexual feelings when stimulated. It is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside (near to the underside of her stomach).

These are the pleasure points on a woman's body that can turn her on. Not every woman is the same. Some women have some preference areas that they like to be stimulated while others have some no-go areas. As you explore, you will learn which places your touch has the best effect on and which you should avoid.

The critical thing to remember is when it comes to sex, every woman is different. You can do everything right. You can make all the right moves with your fingers, lips and tongue and still not able to drive her crazy.

There are 2 things you should take note:

(1) Pay attention When you try to find out about her pleasure points that are applicable to her, you shouldn't just do it mechanically. You need to listen to changes in her breathing, the way her skin softens and her muscles tighten, the way her blood flushes beneath her skin in her face and breasts, the way she moans.

(2) Stay connected She needs to feel connected in order to feel relaxed with you. Look up at her and make eye contact once in a while. Stop and tell her how much you are enjoying it or how hot you think it is. Reach up and stroke the side of her face and hair. Take her hands and give them a gentle squeeze. You don't have to do all these things and you don't have to do them all the time. Just give her a few signs every few minutes and watch what happen immediately afterwards. First, her body will relax into what you are doing and then very quickly she will have a much more intense orgasm.

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What Is Male Menopause & Its Symptoms

Ever wonder why even those of us that continue to exercise regularly and try to stay in shape but still find it difficult to perform in the bedroom like we did in our younger years?

The culprit is andropause which is better known as male menopause. When men age, our bodies make less testosterone (an essential make sex hormone) than they used to, causing male menopause to set in. Below are the many symptoms of andropause that men just attribute to aging:

(1) lethargy or decreased energy (2) low interest in sex or decreased libido (3) deteriorating sexual performance due to difficulty in erections or not able to maintain erections for long (4) muscle weakness and aching (5) always being emotionally overwhelmed (6) sleeping problem (7) hot flashes (8) night sweats (9) low self-respect (10) thinning of bones or bone loss

Is there anything we guys can do to raise our level of testosterone naturally?

YES, WE CAN!

The 1st thing to do is to exercise regularly. Studies have shown that people who exercise regularly have higher sex drive. This may be related to surges of testosterone that occur immediately after doing resistance training like lifting weights, or right after endurance training such as running.

Besides exercises to pump up your body's production of testosterone, there is another more pleasurable way to achieve this.

How?

Food?

Yes, because there are certain food that can naturally build up our testosterone levels. Here are the food choices to boost male hormone levels according to Larrian Gillespie, a retired Beverly Hills urologist and author of The Gladiator Diet:

(1) Oysters which contain protein, magnesium, lots of zinc. Along with increasing your physical endurance, oysters pack more zinc than almost any other food source. Zinc plays a key role in muscle growth and testosterone levels.

However, oysters are relatively high in sodium making them a poor choice for people with heart disease or hypertension. They also may contain a bacteria called vibrio that can cause illness when eaten raw, particularly for people with a weakened immunity system. The best way to cut down this risk is to broil or grill them until well done.

(2) Lean beef which contains protein, iron, magnesium, zinc, saturated fat. Beef specifically offers the added benefit of high protein and zinc - two essential nutrients to optimize testosterone level and building muscle.

(3) Beans (baked beans, lima beans, navy beans and kidney beans) which contain protein, fiber, zinc. Canned beans are as nutrious. Beans have the highest zinc nutrient among vegetables and some such as baked beans have as high zinc content as those find in red meat. Other rich sources of zinc can be found in pecans, pumpkin seeds, chicken peas, nuts, sunflower seeds, sesame seeds and wheat bran.

(4) Poultry which contains lots of protein and little fat. According to John E. Morley, director of the Division of Geriatric Medicine at St. Louis University, high protein diets have a positive impact on muscle mass and testosterone levels. High fat has the opposite effect. So, let's eat a lot of chicken meat so that we cann have a good time with "chicks".

(5) Eggs contain both protein and cholesterol. According to Robert S. Tan, an associate professor of geriatric medicine and an andrologist at the University Of Texas in Houston, testosterone is synthesized from cholesterol and as such, food containing cholesterol is a good source for building up your testosterone. Eggs are a source of pure,unadulterated cholesterol, and one recent study showed that the excess cholesterol in eggs isn't as harmful as previously thought.

(6) Cottage cheese contains lots of protein and very little fat. (only1% milk fat)

(7) Broccoli, cabbage, Brussels sprouts contain fiber, indole-3. Indole-3 is an essential nutrient that can help to cut down bad estrogen which causes fat accumulation and interfering with muscle growth. Fiber is great for controlling weight.

(8) Asparagus is a libido booster which is high in Vitamin E (a great sex vitamin)

(9) Sauerkraut (sourcrout) is a type of fermented cabbage that is said to boost men's sexual activity after they consume it.

(10) Garlic contains allicin Clinical studies indicate that garlic's active ingredient enhances testosterone level and inhibits cortisol, a hormone that competes with testosterone, limiting its actions and breaking down muscle tissue.

(11) Ginger stimulates the circulatory system increasing blood flow to the genitals which causes erection and more sensitivity

(12) Ginseng helps in the production of nitric oxide which is essential for smmoth muscle relaxation and erectile function.

(13) Celery makes a man irresistible. Raw celery contains the male hormone androsterone which can act as a pheromone to trigger female attraction.

(14) Bananas are perfect food for bedroom endurance. They contain Vitamin B which aside from being the key to convert carbohydrates into energy, is believed to help manufacture testosterone. Munching on one before your "bedroom wrestling" can help you to last longer in bed.

(15) Honey gives more energy and contributes to arousal. The simple carbohydrate it contains provides instant energy and fuel for working muscles. It is also rich in Vitamin B which is needed for testosterone production.

(16) Basil (a kind of plant that smells like peppermint used in cooking) increases circulation and is beneficial in stimulating sex drive.

(17) Cardamom (a kind of aromatic spice from the seed capsules of various East Indian plants) is a powerful aphrodisiac and is helpful in treating impotence.

(18) Fennel (a yellow-flowered herb used as flavoring) has a libido-enhancing effect as it is rich in an estrogen-like substance.

(19) Dark chocolate promotes the release of the "feel good" body chemicals called endorphins. Chocolate also provides small amount of anxiety-quelling tryptophan, arousing caffeine, and a few substances such as anandamaide and theobromine - that in large quantities work like a psychedelic drug and opiate respectively. So, you now understand why it is a popular gift during Valentine's Day. (20) Avocado increases both the male and female libido and contains Vitamin B6, which enhances the production of male hormone.

(21) Almond contains essential fatty acids which is important in the production of male hormones to regulate sex drive.

(22) Pomegranate, known by many as the "love apple" is an aphrodisiac that arouses sexual desire.

(23) Liquorice roots induce the production of estrogen which is essential for sexual functioning.

(24) Oats make wonderful energy booster and arouse the libido for greater sexual performance.

(25) Flaxseeds increase the testosterone level and consist of essential fatty acids such as Omega-3 and Omega-6 which help to raise the production of sex hormones.

(26) Figs are rich in amino acids which increase the libido and boost sexual function.

(27) Red wine Moderate consumption of alcohol causes the body to relax by depressing the central nervous system. Red wine not only contains alcohol, but also pigments from grapes that block the male enzyme, phospodiesterase type 5. This blockage allows men to more easily achieve erections.

There you are, you can see here many food choices that can naturally boost your bodies own testosterone production.

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>> How To Maintain Your Attractiveness To Women.

After spending some wonderful time with a woman, ever wonder why she is gradually drifting away from you, she stops answering your calls or is slow in returning your calls, or she keeps saying she is busy?

You are "too nice" to her!

You may wonder why it is wrong in being too nice to her. I'm not saying you should treat her like a used tissue paper or to abuse her. Many men have this mistaken belief that out of love and respect to their women they give in to all the women's tantrums or try to "surrender" to all her needs, sometimes even ridiculous ones.

However do women think in the same way as men do? The answer is NO! To a woman, a guy who is "too nice" and pander to all her needs, looks indecisive to her. In her mind, she believes she can easily manipulate you like her toy or pet. You become too predictable and unexciting to her!

Just like kids, parents should love their kids. But loving kids doesn't mean spoiling them! This applies to women too! Women like guys who "have a mind of his own". . Women like guys to be decisive and to know what they are doing.

Sometimes it is ok to say NO! A woman will get angry for a while over her guy who doesn't yield to her sometimes unreasonable demands. However, in the long run, she will respect you as a REAL MAN. Even for women with strong character or "iron lady", at times they could feel helpless or vulnerable and they yearn for their men to "take charge".

So, what should you do? Stop being "too nice" to her! Stop being "too obedient" to her! Better if you appear "naughty" to her. Because this could make you look a bit unpredictable or a bit challenging to her. Women like guys to be a bit "dangerous"! You reveal too much to her!

You may have wondered what's wrong with that. Shouldn't a healthy relationship be an honest one with both sides understanding each other as much as possible? Just like men watching strip shows, it is always more fun if the strip dancer seduces you, tempts you by slowly bit by bit removing her clothing than to undress totally naked at one go. I bet you will be asking is that all and you will have less incentive to stay longer to watch the show. This applies to women too. If a woman believes she already knows everything about you, spending time with you will slowly become a normal routine to her. Your conversation topics with her will get lesser and lesser. Women like to slowly explore and figure out things on their own. Take your time! Act like a strip dancer! May sound weird to you and women always say guys should be frank and let them know as much as they can? But have you heard of this saying- Familiarity breeds contempt!

There is one thing that I like to emphasize. Sometimes revealing too much like letting her knows too much of your past history with your ex-lover(s) could poison your current relationship. One more thing! If there is something about your past that you doesn't want the whole world to know about, this should always remain a secret even to your lover(s). If some of your past deeds are immoral or illegal (of course I hope you don't commit any of them), don't ever let her know. If you evade taxes, keep your mouth shut even if you feel good about not being discovered all this while. If for unknown reasons, your relationship with her ends and she happens to know this fact, I will guarantee to you that very soon the taxmen will soon be in hot pursuit after you. This is human nature!

Do give her some element of "pleasant surprise". How you "surprise" her, is all up to your creativity and how much you cherish your relationship. For example, at times, you can "pamper" her with some small gifts. These don't need to cost a lot. Not necessarily diamonds or jewelry! It is the thought that counts. Giving presents shouldn't be just only on her birthday, Valentine Day or Christmas Day. Knowing and understanding what she wants is of utmost importance and will help you to "tailor" the gifts to her needs. This will show how much you care about her and sustain your attractiveness to her.

I always believe the economic theory about Law of Diminishing Returns works in every aspect of life. Too much of a good thing beyond a certain point, the additional satisfaction gets lesser and lesser progressively. You should spend enough time to cultivate a relationship but beyond a certain point, the flame of passion gets weaker. What should you do? You should give both sides some breathing space! Remember this world doesn't consist of only you and your woman. Both of you should allot some time for yourself; you need to get in touch with your friends and relatives. You should reserve some time to pursue your own interests or hobbies. So that when you are both together, you and she could have something new to talk and share with each other. A short period of "separation" can prolong the attractiveness of you to her and allow you to be "as fresh as the grocery items in the supermarket.

>> Men!  You Are Judged By How You Present Yourself In Terms of Your Behavior & Appearance!  

Most people are too concerned about what others think about them. Most guys tend to be held back by "some labels" attach to them by others around them. Often these "labels" stick on us because we dislike change or fail to realize we can change the way people look at us.

For example:

(1) "Shy guys" are shy because they are afraid of breaking their "nice boy" image (2) "Boring guys" never flirt because they are afraid of being seen as "not serious" in a woman's eyes.

Just like how you judge other people based on what you see, other people also judge you by what they see or hear.

For example:

(1) If you don't look at women in the eyes, they are going to think of you having low self-esteem. (2) If you always appear happy, people are going to think you are a warm and happy person. (3) If you present yourself as a guy who is scared off women, women will think you as a guy who is scared off women.

You Teach People How To Treat You

If women always treat you like crap, it is because you let them. If women always come to you when they need you and ignore you when they don't, it is because you let them.

As you can see, these "label" that society or people around us attach on us can become the biggest obstacles in our lives. This is why you must be careful not to be defined by other people's vision of you. The world will always be trying to assign you with various roles or "labels" in your life. As soon as you accept such a role, you will be stuck. Your power and personality will be limited to the confines of the role. As a nice guy, you will always have to be "nice" to women because you fear that if you stop, women will start seeing you as a jerk.

We Should Be Responsible for Our Own Identity

Define your own self-image. Create more than one. Don't just become the teacher or accountant your mum has told you to become. Don't keep acting like the guy, people "know" you about. Keep working on yourself to become the person you would want to become.

Here are 9 tips to build the identity and image that you want others to look upon you as:

(1) Realize that what seems to make sense 10 years ago may not make sense now. For example, even though it was wrong for you to talk to strangers and think about women you were 10, this doesn't mean it is wrong for you to do so now.

(2) Your present situation is the result of your past actions. Whatever you do now will have a big impact on how your life will be in 5 months or 5 years later. If you work on your social skills now, you will be more sociable in 5 months from now.

(3) Take up a few new hobbies and learn a few new skills.

(4) Try things that you normally would never try. Be adventurous - it will expand your self-image quickly.

(5) A good way to break out of your past is by giving yourself a physical makeover. This "new look" will determine how you want yourself to be looked upon by the world.

(6) Make new friends who have the qualities you desire to have for yourself. Surround yourself with people who will improve your identity or self-image. If you are introvert with no social life, than stop "killing your time" with online friends. Hang out with people who have active social lives.

(7) Chase after your dreams and ambitions. Go after the things you really want in life.

(8) Redefine your definition of "being yourself". Most people are not really "being themselves" when they say they are. All they are doing is letting others control their lives and trying to "live up" to other people's expectations.

(9) Walk, talk and act as those successful people do (your idols). Study the things they do, do the things they do. You will become as successful as they are.

So, from now on, take charge of your own life and be the person, in how you want others to see you!

I have keen interest on topics relating to human relationship, dating, sex and dogs. I like to share good dating tips or ideas to help other guys in improving their chances and been faster in getting the girls they desire. Do you ever notice why some couples seem so mismatch? The guy is old, bald, ugly or fat and the girl is young and pretty. Do you ever wonder why some good girls seem to fall for jerks?

What do these guys have in common and how different are they from other guys who have no luck in love? Well what do these so-called "lucky" guys know? Like most guys, they also have their fair share of setbacks in meeting girls and most important they have "figured out" ways and practicing them and at last get the girls they want. Do you want to give yourself some justice and get the girl you desire, deserve and dream of instead of settling for the 2nd best alternative choice? There are always chances that you can get girls as gorgeous as Megan Fox.

>> What is Sexual Tension & How does this work on Man-Woman Relationship? 

Sexual tension occurs after the initial attraction stage. It is the feeling you will experience when you are with someone you are attracted to. There could be a combination of certain obstacles, anticipation and/or other factors that will both increase the attraction and tension in the situation. It is about not knowing what is going to happen but yearning to know what is going to happen.

If a woman knows right from the beginning that the guy is 100% keen on her or if she thinks she can easily "manipulate" the guy, she will not be interested in him. It is for this reason why many guys fail in getting the women they desire. They "reveal their cards too much and too soon" by doing too many things to prove they are interested. It is just like a strip dancer going totally naked immediately on reaching the stage, leaving the audiences with nothing much to look forward to instead of trying to entice them by slowly stripping piece by piece. A woman will feel attracted to a guy if he is more mysteriously, challenging and unpredictable. So, what can guys do to create and increase sexual tension?

(1) Behaving in a cocky, funny and naughty way This will need some practice. The best place that I could think of is with waitresses during off-peak hours - after the lunch crowd has left, or on a slow night. What is great about practicing with waitresses is, they have to approach you 1st, and they are already in a friendly frame of mind. What I do with waitresses is practice making "naughty comments", seeing how much I can make them laugh and how much I can get them to react to me in the same way. Because this is just "practicing" with no expectation of what you are going to get out of this, you will feel quite relaxed. After some practicing, you will be able to develop a set of expressions/ways that you know will work in order to get you to be perceived as naughty or playful.

(2) Take your time to contact her Some guys make themselves look or behave in a desperate way by quickly calling or writing to girl(s) after getting their mobile phone number or email address. This is an unwise move. Calling or writing a woman immediately is a quick way to destroy any anticipation or sexual tension.

On the other hand, if you call up 2 days later and say,"Hi, what's up? I'm busy tonight and tomorrow but let's do something on Friday. Here's my number, call me, I got to go" that will be a totally different type of communication. By Day Two after she pass you her contact number, she will start to wonder if you are still keen on her and when you are going to call her. Waiting and not sure what will come next creates tension.

(3) The 2 Steps Forward and One Step Backward Way in Treating Her This is the ultimate formula for increasing a woman's anticipation, arousal and interest in you. Moving two steps forward and one step backward creates and builds up tension.

The idea is simple: Every time you make "progress" in a romantic way with a woman, stop. Then hold back. For example, if you have been talking to her and you start holding her hands, after a few minutes, take your hand back. Then lean back physically and move away from her for a little while. If you end up kissing her a little while later, stop kissing her and lean back. The trick is to let go for a while to give her "some space" after you have tempted her a bit. You shouldn't go all out at one shot because this may make her "feel suffocated" and put up resistance.

Women don't get turned on in the same way as men do. Men are like the on/off switch on the radio. Women are like the volume knob that needs to be turned on gradually. If you show some self-control, make her feel good, and then use the two steps forward and one step backward way to seduce and tempt her, you will give a woman an experience she will really enjoy and won't forget.

(4) Tease Her Women can't resist teasing when it is done in the right way. Some people misunderstand this as "making fun off" her. What I mean by teasing is to give someone a little bit of what they want, and then take it away so they will want more. Let's say you lean forward as if you are going to kiss her, before going further, then you stop so that she can feel your lips are about to touch hers and then staying there for just a moment and then lean back. You are teasing her. You know that she wants you to kiss her, but you are not kissing her. You are in control and she loves it, hates it and wants it.

Teasing increases sexual tension rapidly. You can tease in many ways. For example, when you are buying something, when the girl behind the counter reaches out to take your money, put it in her hand and then quickly take it away as she grabs it. This is teasing and it is fun and can be used almost everywhere for the enjoyment of both you and her.

So, by now you should have a clear idea of how chemistry and sexual tension works in women. The next thing to do is to start practicing. Along the way, you can modify, improvise the suggested techniques in a way that will suit your style and personality. After practicing for a while, you will be able to get any girl you want. 

>> Sexuality Tips for Men: 6 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life.

I know what you are thinking when you see this heading here. But what you are thinking is not what you find in this article. To me, topics on sexual matters do not have to be pornographic or 'dirty'. Sex is meant to be something that is enjoyable and ideally this should be done with someone you love. Regular sex can even boost your health. I am not going to recommend you here to take any sex pills or try to sell you any sex toys. This is outside the scope of the article. In this article are just some ways to boost our sex lives.

Are you expecting a less-than-lusty libido?

Here are some ways to boost your sex drive:

(1) Get active

Releasing feel-good endorphins through exercise can help put you in the mood. The extra flexibility and muscle endurance that results from a regular fitness routine is an added bonus in the bedroom. I prefer those exercises or activities that can be easily built into part of daily life. Take for example; I stay in a high-rise apartment on the 12th floor. Because my working hours are very long, during week days I don't have much time to exercise, which is a problem, most of us face after we leave school. To keep fit, I climb up and down stairs everyday when I leave my place to work and do the same on returning to apartment after work. The beauty of this, I don't need to purposely allot a time for this irrespectively of how busy I can be at times, I don't need to be in any special attire and I can do this whether it rains, shines or snows.

Another exercise you can consider is cycling if you can cycle and your work place and favorite grocery stores is within cycling distance. This can also be easily built into your routine without making too much adjustment in your life style and you can also do your part in helping to cut down carbon emissions. Isn't this cool?

The main point here is to choose an activity that is sustainable and does not cause too much adjustment to your routine so that there is less chance that you may stop half way later for whatever reasons. To me, quitting is very demoralizing. I hope you won't get into such state!

(2) Read steamy novels to loosen you up

Try anything with romance to get the imagination flowing. If you don't have the time and patience in reading novels, watching romantic or love movies are perfectly ok and will be ideal if you can watch with her at whatever place you feel most relaxing.

(3) Tank-up in zinc-rich foods

Zinc is linked to sex hormone levels and can be found in strawberries, raspberries, beans, nuts and of course, oysters. Oh! I love oysters. I like to eat them raw without adding anything on them to "damage" their natural flavor.

(4) Drop a few kilos

Too much body weight can lower self-esteem and lead to conditions that dampen sex drive and performance. Body fat can also bind to sex hormones, and clogged arteries can reduce blood flow where it counts and increases the risk of erectile dysfunction. The way here is to eat right. It can be deliciously painless to eat a low-fat diet packed with fruits, vegetables, whole grains and low-fat dairy products.

(a) Eat healthy fat

Cook with olive oil and canola oil and snack on nuts. Nuts such as cashews, macadamia nuts, Brazil nuts, almonds, pecans and walnuts have fiber and other nutrients that interfere with the absorption of fat. They are satisfying, make you feel fuller longer. Also good is lean protein such as beans, fish, chicken and lean cuts of beef. Look, are you sacrificing a lot in your eating when you follow this suggested diet?

(5) Relax

Stress kills sex drive. A common problem facing especially middle age men who is getting a lot of stress from work. Doing anything you enjoy in your free time is always relaxing. It can be going for leisure trips if you enjoy traveling or it can be as simple as just lying down on bed or watching comedies to laugh out loud in order to release some stress.

(6) Quit smoking

According to Panayiotis M Zavos, director of the Andrology Institute of America and professor of reproductive physiology and andrology at the University of Kentucky in Lexington, he and his fellow researchers have found that men's smoking had a significant and negative effect on the ability to conceive. They also found out that smoking significantly diminished a man's sexual desire and satisfaction - even for young men in their 20s and 30s. The smokers reported having sex less than 6 times a month, whereas non-smoking men were having sex nearly twice as often. Other experts agree that smoking can impair sexual performance. "Smoking causes damage to the smooth muscle inside the penis that interferes with erectile functioning," says Richard Milsen, co-author of The Sexual Male and a urologist for more than 30 years in Woodbury, N.J. "So if men can't perform as well, it would make sense that their libidos would suffer."

Source: Eng Hou, owner of Sex-Tips-Site.com & Getting-Chicks.com

Like most guys, I'm interested in sexual matters. Sex is good, fun and is one of the most wonderful human activities. A fulfilling, enjoyable and satisfying sex life can act as a sort of elixir in improving our health. It works the same way as an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I am not going to suggest to you how many times a week you should have sex. But I am going to tell you that a regular flow of enjoyable sex keeps the doctor away longer and poorer. I think governments of countries that have aging population should encourage their folks to have more active sex life as one of the ways to cut down on rising healthcare costs.

While taking Viagra can give you an immediate boost in sexual performance and allowing you to have as much sex as a "Tiger", I don't think this is an option for everyone. Some of us may get side effects in taking Viagra. I advocate approaching this in a way that does not rely on pills, which is a slower but more sustainable. I am sure you won't want to spend a good part of your fortune to "feed" those pharmaceutical companies which are always trying to sell you ever more expensive drugs. It is one of our basic human rights to have an enjoyable, drug-free sex life! Do you want to find out more on how you can increase the "flame of passion" in your sex life?

>> Mature Men: How Important Is Sex, Why Is Sex Good for You & How Sex can Save a Man's Life. 

Sex is often thought of as "dirty". It is a topic no one talks about and seems to be embarrassed when talking with our closed ones. This kind of thinking that sex is dirty is partly due to our parents' attitude. As kids, we are naturally curious about anything around us. As guys we are curious why we look different from our sisters. We want to know how we are born. Most of the time our parents will either avoid answering or give some evasive weird answers such as "You will know about such matters when you grow up later", or "You come out from your mother's arm pit." Nowadays parents expect schools to impart knowledge about sex by way of sex education. Few of us want to admit that sex is the Number One sought after activity in our lives. Indeed sex can benefit our overall health in many ways if we are practicing safe sex within a committed relationship.

Here are 12 reasons why sex is good for you:

(1) Sex can relieve pain! A chemical called oxytocin is released during orgasm, which acts as an effective pain killer. Believe it or not, if your partner has a headache, sex is a sure way to relieve it.

(2) Lovemaking can fight off depression. The endorphins released during sexual activity can improve your overall mood.

(3) It strengthens your relationship, brings people together. If you are already in a good relationship, sex can help to keep your emotional bonds with your partner strong. People who are in stable relationships are happier, healthier and live longer. It is for this reason that married people tends to have longer lives and this applies especially to men. Unlike women, men's friendship with their same sex friends are not as closed as compared with women's close friendship with their same sex friends. Men seldom confide their problems with their male friends for fear of being look upon as signs of weakness.

(4) Sex is good for your heart. Rigorous sex can improve cardiovascular function. Having regular sex can decrease your risk for heart attack. This applies for lovemaking with your spouse. This is because for men with weak heart, sex with strangers may "excite" their heart too much and creates the opposite effect.

(5) Sex improves your immunity! Regular sex can increase your immunity from cold and flu. Most of us do not realize this is a more enjoyable alternative than taking "anti-flu" injection which is painful, may gives you side effects and may not be effective. There are various strains of flu virus and till now, there is no single "magic bullet" vaccine that can protect you against all strains of flu virus.

(6) Sex can cure insomnia! After sex, you usually feel relaxed and are better able to fall asleep.

(7) Sex relieves stress! Less stress means less anxiety and lowers blood pressure.

(8) Do you know sex can help you to lose weight?! You can burn 85 calories (or more depending on how rigorous you like it!) during 30 minutes of sex. This is certainly not an encouragement for you to over-eat after lovemaking.

(9) For men, sex reduces the risk for prostrate cancer.

(10) Sex improves self-esteem! The more sex you have, the better you will feel about yourself (as long as this is done with your lover or spouse)

(11) Sex can improve emotional health as well as memory.

(12) Do you know sex can save a man's life? How? Men usually don't like to visit doctors. Traditionally, men have gotten health services for 2 reasons: One, an accident, act of violence or health crisis brought them to the emergency room. Two, a loved one made them go. No, there is a 3rd reason: Viagra. When a guy visits a doctor for sexual performance problem, it is a good chance to probe deeper into underlying health matters. Impotence can actually be an early warning signal of other ailments including heart disease. The penis is fueled by the same system of blood vessels as the heart; only the vessels are much smaller and might become blocked sooner. Coronary artery disease could show up 1st as impotence. The penis is just like the heart. The things we do that are good for the heart are also good for the penis. So, before we top up our supplies of Viagra, we should try to understand the roots of our problem. Is it due to psychological reasons such as stress, anxiety about sexual performance or other non-psychological reasons which we have to find out with the help of our doctors?

I wish you all everlasting and fulfilling sex life!

Source: Eng Hou, owner of Sex-Tips-Site.com & Getting-Chicks.com

Like most guys, I'm interested in sexual matters. Sex is good, fun and is one of the most wonderful human activities. A fulfilling, enjoyable and satisfying sex life can act as a sort of elixir in improving our health. It works the same way as an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I am not going to suggest to you how many times a week you should have sex. But I am going to tell you that a regular flow of enjoyable sex keeps the doctor away longer and poorer. I think governments of countries that have aging population should encourage their folks to have more active sex life as one of the ways to cut down on rising healthcare costs.

While taking Viagra can give you an immediate boost in sexual performance and allowing you to have as much sex as a "Tiger", I don't think this is an option for everyone. Some of us may get side effects in taking Viagra. I advocate approaching this in a way that does not rely on pills, which is a slower but more sustainable. I am sure you won't want to spend a good part of your fortune to "feed" those pharmaceutical companies which are always trying to sell you ever more expensive drugs. It is one of our basic human rights to have an enjoyable, drug-free sex life! Do you want to find out more on how you can increase the "flame of passion" in your sex life? 

>> Where to Meet Women. 

There are no specific places where women hang out. Eligible and desirable women can be found anywhere. Most men would assume that the obvious place is a club or a bar. Maybe or may be not. This article discusses about the possible locations and suitable time where guys have greater chances of picking up women. The places listed here are by no means exhaustive and they change with time. Take for example, video cassette rental stores. They used to be ideal places for flirting. But now with the evolvement of technology where movies can be easily downloaded from the Internet, this is no longer an option. It is all up to one's imagination and hope the places highlighted in this article can inspire readers to come up with some unusual places they can think of. Ideal places are of course in situation when people are more likely to be in a relaxed state.

(1) Grocery store

Women can also get picked up at places as unusual as a grocery store. Most women think a grocery store is a place to bump into eligible men. Most likely only a single man would buy groceries alone! A great flirting area is the fresh produce department. Half the people there don't understand how to cook the stuff they buy; the other half does. Figure out which group you're in and start flirting with the other. It is never inappropriate to ask someone how to steam cauliflower or artichoke. If someone thinks you are flirting just turn to another person and ask a 2nd question, totally throwing your prospective flirt off balance.

(2) Book shop

Most men would never think that a book shop is a place where you can find lots of single women especially on weekends. For a change, some women who have gotten tired of late night outs would prefer to relax with books. Such women if single would be very eligible for a relationship provided you are able to recognize them.

(3) Work place

A word of caution here is in your attempt to reaching out to women you may go overboard and jeopardize your job. The best way would be to become popular among your female colleagues. Say nice things to them about their work decisions or skills they use in the job. Be very natural in doing so.

(4) Political action groups, committees, or organizations

These are the ideal places for flirting. People are excited. They care a lot. How busy can they be if they have time to attend all these meetings? Flirting here must be a bit bolder than usual because everyone is doing it. Style and originality, as well as who you know, can add immeasurability to your clout. You could also collect petitions. Stand on the street with a pal to show you are not up to something. Set up a table and chairs. They are good props for flirting. If you live in a big city where you can't set up your little table, then find out when is the next demonstration (for a cause you are not embarrassed to believe in) and join in the march.

(5) Seminars

Most ideal combination: a 3rd party or subject focus, common interests and a chance to flirt. If your company will pay or contribute to the costs, take as many seminars as you can. These are the hotbeds of romance.

(6) Night classes

Better to attend one-shot lectures. Weekend courses are much more suitable for flirting.

(a) Dance class

Dance classes are great for meeting women, because in many dance classes, the women are going to outnumber you ten to one. Depending on what kind of dance class you take, the women in it may also be extremely hot.

(b) Yoga class

Yoga classes are also great for meeting women. If you do sign for a yoga class, remember that many of the women you meet are probably going to be "New Age" women, You may need to read about some "New Age" subjects so that you can have something to talk about.

(7) Religious organizations.

They are back in vogue, and are really responding to the growing single and liberated populations. Socializing has become one of the tools they use to attract new members. Most religious groups aggressively go after new members by trying to fill the community's need for a meeting ground. You should shop around for the organization that fits your moral and social needs and participate as much as you can in their activities.

(8) Dry cleaners

Go at the busiest times, from 5 pm to 7 pm and on mid-Saturday morning. Choose one that has 24-hour service; successful flirts say that this attracts the kind of dynamic people who will respond to your flirting. If you want someone who's a bit low key, try those do-it-yourself tumblers. But your clothes will look better, and you will have a more attractive partner on your arm, if you stick to the professional dry cleaners.

(9) A dance club, bar, gym or park

The chances of finding women are higher at these places but you will face more competition here. A gym is still a better place to to practice your wooing skills. Women at gyms put their figures at display by wearing skimpy leotards or other outfits. Out of the many prospective women there you can choose the one with the right curves at the right places.

(10) Coffee shop

It is one of the popular places for women to hang out and relax. These women are not the party types and could even have that intellectual aura around them. They could be as lonely as many intellectual women are, yearning to have someone with whom they could share their bright ideas and thoughts. If you are a conversationalist such women would fall for you almost instantly. Having an intelligent conversation with a man for them could be orgasmic!

(11) A bar or a pub

The best place to look for a one-night stand. You need to find like-minded women for the purpose that often lurks around such places.

(12) Meeting her online

Dating sites are the best places to connect with like-minded women. You can have the choices on the kind of relationship you want - romantic or sexual or simple relationship. Write an interesting profile of yourself, mention the interesting aspects, what you are looking for in life and the women you would like to go around with. Write enticing words about yourself such as "I am a fun-loving person, my only wish is to travel to the most exotic places with someone as adventurous and wild as me!" which is better than "I am a fun-loving guy who loves traveling."

It should be some consolation for all the helpless guys out there to know that there is one word that's always worth including in any personal ad: "warm". People who are described as warm are believed to be happy, sociable, wise and popular. Most important, include your photo which will definitely increase the chances of females responding to you.

So, are you ready for action?

>> 8 ways To Rekindle Your Sex Life & Reignite the Magic in Your Relationship.

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn't have the magic and romance that it once had? What do you do when your sex life takes a dive? You are not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable and as a result can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special. Should you go out and cheat or should you do some research on how to improve your sex life? If you truly value your relationship with your partner you would pick the 2nd choice.

Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that flame of passion:

(1) Become kids again. If you and your partner are walking by the park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride.

(2) Fun with water On a hot day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach. Take them out and pass one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

(3) Give each other a massage Take the time to give each other a massage. Try mixing some rose oil with almond oil to make cheap massage oil.

(4) Bring back her fond childhood memories Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted as a kid. For example, if she always wanted a Barbie Doll, buy one for her next birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wants.

(5) Do something romantic! During your picnic at the beach, draw out the shape of a big heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you admire the setting sun. When the night comes, spread a mat on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the mat with your partner and watch the stars together.

(6) Show your partner how much you appreciate her. Leave a long-stem rose at a place where she could easily find it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life." (7) Give her pleasant surprises At times, do surprise her with some small gifts or some simple gestures that she will appreciate. This really requires you to be concerned enough to know what she wants. To be effective, you must do this out of sincerity or at the bottom of your heart. The problem with a lot of men is that they only give presents or treat their wives slightly better because they feel guilty over some matters. Needless to say, some wives will suspect their husbands may be cheating on them. Believe me, even if your wife is not as clever as you think, you can't fool her. That's why I want to emphasize that the act of giving her pleasant surprises must be done out of sincerity.

(8) Look for ways to spice up your sex life. How?

(a) Changing the place where you have sex. This is the best way to add spice to your sex life with your partner. After making love at the same old place all the time, you will get bored as time goes on. How about making love at the bathroom, on the kitchen table or at any place where you can have some privacy?

(b) Be a bit more adventurous and try some new sex positions. It helps to take the time to learn more about the positions of the karma sutra.

(c) Learn how to talk dirty. Some women get turn on or love it when men talk down and dirty to them. You can find all kind of guides on how to talk dirty in books or you can "google" for talk-dirty tips from the Internet.

(d) Perform oral sex. Besides genital penetration, there are some other ways to satisfy a woman sexually. Oral sex is one of the ways that can give her great satisfaction. By incorporating oral sex (of course with the consent of your lover) during foreplay, you can "buy some time" to get her to reach orgasm. Men must have the patience and open mind to discuss about oral sex before trying it. They should know how the woman would like him to do it to her otherwise it is not going to help. When giving oral sex to a woman, the man has to understand this is only for the pleasure of the woman so her likes and dislikes are very important. Sometimes men don't like the idea of giving oral sex to their women because of the smell of vagina, women should understand this and take shower and wash "her area" properly. Doing this properly with patience and mutual understanding can enhance sex life and build a strong relationship.

A man-woman relationship is like cultivating a plant. Both parties at times have to play the role of a gardener, regularly provide enough of water and fertilizer that suits the plant, so it will grow, flourish and/or bear fruits.

I wish you will have an everlasting and limitless joyful relationship with your the other half!

>> Does Penis Size Really Matter In Sex? 

In a world of super size cars, extra large servings for McDonald meals and non-stop effort to build the world's next tallest building, it is hard to stop thinking about whether bigger is actually better for everything. When comes to the ability to satisfy women, men places a lot of pride on the size of their penis. So, does penis size really matter? The reality is that most of the time size doesn't matter. In fact, I have some women telling me, too big a size causes painful sex. Other women aren't shy to say that lovemaking skill is more important than size.

Rather than relying on hearsays and the hundreds of junk mails that try to sell you penis enlargement products, let's look at what research tells us about whether penis size matter?

A survey of 655 women between the ages of 19-49 asked about whether penis length and girth matter. The findings revealed:

(a) 18% said penis length was very important, 22% said penis girth was very important (b) 57% said penis length was somewhat important (c) 25% said penis length was unimportant, 25% said penis girth was unimportant

A major flaw of this study was that it did not specify the optimal size. Therefore, women who felt penis girth matters a lot may have different ideas of what the ideal penis girth is. The assumption could be bigger is better, but this is not confirmed by the study. Other more specific studies try to find out about women's preference between length and girth, still cannot come to any conclusion about preferable size.

OK, let's come out with some scientific facts and figures to put to rest some of the claims and myths about whether or not penis size matters and what is normal for the majority of men. A worldwide study of over 40 independent penis size research projects undertaken since 1942 has come up with a general penis size guideline. Feedback from over 11,000 survey participants put the average erect size of the adult penis is between 5.5 inches to 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches to 5.1 inches in girth. If you happen to be one of the millions who are outside of the average range size in length and girth, please do not worry. You can still make the most of what you have. The following are some best sex positions that make every man feel "big" irrespective of his penis size.

(1) The Snake Position

Get your women to lie down flat on her belly. Put a pillow under her hips so that her buttocks ache upward. Keep your knees bent and position your genital just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Be careful to keep your weight off her body during intercourse. If you want to get the feel of tight fit, simply hold her thighs together as you penetrate her.

(2) The Doggie Position

This is quite similar to the snake position. The difference is instead of lying on her belly, she has to kneel down, her back bend forward so that her buttocks are raised upward. Same as above, you penetrate her from behind.

(3) The Rabbit Ears Position

Get her to lie on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up so that her knees are quite close to her chest. Put a pillow under her buttocks which will place her vagina at an angle that is suitable for penetration. To keep her knees in place, you can rest her legs on your shoulders as you thrust forward.

(4) The V-Formation Position

With her lying flat on her back, you position yourself between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next raise her legs and then spread them apart until they form a "V". This position allows you to stimulate her clitoris. Free one of your hands by allowing one of her legs to rest on your shoulder and stimulate her clitoris until she orgasms.

While it is true that society tends to place a great deal of importance on size, the truth is that a penis of any size can bring a woman to orgasm. Irrespective of size, foreplay is still needed to "warm" her up. Of course, the most important thing is the strength of the relationship with your woman. If she feels loved and appreciated and has strong feelings for you, just words and touching can easily turn her on/ If she dislikes you, even you can have elephant-sized penis and superb lovemaking skills, she will not respond to whatever you do. On the contrary, her feelings towards your gestures/actions will make her feel been molested or raped.

>> 7 Sex Mistakes That Could Kill Your Relationship. 

Not having any information is bad. But getting bad information is even worse. Most of the information that we get on sex comes from our parents, the media, porn movies, social and religious organizations tend to be contradicting and often false. Often such misinformation if not rectified and treated as truth or facts, could hurt our relationship with the opposite sex in the long run. The way to avoid coming into such situation is to be aware of the wrongful behavior about sex.

The following are the 7 mistakes that you should watch out for.

(1) Comparing yourself against others

Sexuality is probably the most subjective aspect of human experience. As an individual, we are unique by ourselves and each of us get turned on by different things. There is no "one size fits all" magic method to better sex. Forget the magazines quizzes, the 6 steps sex books and the porn movies, there is simply no meaningful way to compare yourself to a stranger (that you see or read about) when it comes to sexuality. For example, what you see porn movies is just aiming to visually arouse you and not trying to show you how you can sexually satisfy your partner. Besides, almost everyone lies about sex. Comparing yourself to others will only give you grief. If you want to have an enjoyable sex life, focus on yourself and the person you are having sex with.

(2) Sex is not just only a visual experience

For some, having the lights on during sexual activity can allow us to enjoy visual arousal from our sexual partner. Great sex can also happen with the lights off. But it can't happen without touching and at its best it engages all four of the other senses as well.

(3) Just pounding away on her probably will not make her come.

Some women are extremely orgasmic and can easily reach climax with very little skill on your part but most do not. If a woman can come easily with you by your mere thrusting action, you probably did a lot of other things right (before you walk into the bedroom) that you may not be aware off. During dating, you probably make her laugh a lot, touch at her sexually-sensitive pleasure points (not breasts or vagina), get her excited when you kiss her, you project confidence in front of her, you make her feel appreciated and all these little things can lead her to easy orgasm.

For a woman the interactive part is the most important part. It is when she feels connected and engaged to you that she feels the most sexual pleasure. Make statements expressing your love in her in a proper manner and surprise her with sincerity at times with inexpensive gifts. This will flip the neural switches in her brain so that when you touch her body and make love to her, she experiences massive, orgasmic pleasure.

(4) Neglecting your body

None of us have perfect bodies. Yet we are always been fed with pierced together versions of beauty that can sometimes magnify certain "imperfections" of our bodies. In despair, some of us could just "give up" on caring our bodies. Whatever your body is like, your sexuality is part of it and you ignore your body at the expense of genuine sexual pleasure and empowerment. You should invest your time and effort in taking care of your body. Build up your heart endurance by running, walking, swimming or any activity that you enjoy for 3 to 4 days per week. Do some stretching exercises and simple weight training to boost your muscular endurance and flexibility.

(5) "Blind" obedience to the experts

Amazon lists over 150 books with great sex in the title, each one offering you an endless stream of advice on what constitutes great sex. However, one person's ways to great sex may not necessary be your path to great sex. It is not that people with expertise don't have something to offer. In practice, sexuality is so personal and unique that you should be your own expert in order to have an enjoyable sex life. Your sexual expertise comes from paying attention to your own experience, your own feelings, and the "signals" send out by your own body. It is only after laying your own foundation in sexual knowledge/expertise then it is worthwhile to listen to what others said before deciding which of their advice rings true for you.

(6) Confusing sex entertainment with sex education

Sex entertainment (movies, adult workshops, sex toy stores) can be a fun way to explore your options. But this is not the same thing as sex education or sex therapy. If you are feeling good about your sex life but want more fun, sex entertainment may offer a quick boost. But if you are unsatisfied about your sexuality or your sex life, it is better to turn to a qualified sex educator, counselor or therapist.

(7) Keeping a closed mind on sex

There are countless ways to express and experience your sexuality. You don't need to throw out your principles to have better sex. However, there is always room for creativity in boosting your sex life.

>> Men: How Sexual and Romantic Chemistry Happens Between You & Her. 

Chemistry! What is it? The "I need to see this person again" impulse? Or that "We click" feeling? What cause it? Does it need to happen naturally, or can you create it? Does it die over time, or are these tricks to keep the spark flying?

How do you define chemistry?

Chemistry is an animal attraction between two people. It is a connection, a bond or common feeling between two people. The connection appeals to the five senses: the way someone looks, their smell, the way they taste, the feel of their body, the sound of their voice. Chemistry happens very early in a friendship/relationship.

How do you know you have chemistry with someone? Are there "symptoms"?

When women experience "intense chemistry" with a guy, they tend to think about him all the time. Scarcity can increase the intensity, because when you part ways, you leave her wanting you more of your company. The only goal she seems to have for the day is for you to get back to her.

Symptoms? Rapid heart beat. Shortness of breath. Sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger. You can tell when there is chemistry between people because the sympathetic nervous system gets aroused. Blood pressure goes up a little, the skin may flush, the face and ears will turn red and there may be a feeling of weakness in the knees.

Can you create chemistry with someone you are not initially feeling it with and if so, how?

Chemistry is not something that "happens", it can be created by careful practice. The best way is to be yourself. Many people project this image of themselves to be such a cool guy. But women know what you are hiding from them and can easily see it through you. So, I propose a better way of doing things. Instead be yourself. List down all the amazing personalities and attitudes that you have to offer to the world and start working on improving them one by one. Spend at least 15 minutes or more in a day writing down something about yourself that you really admire the most. In most situations, this particular personality starts to get reflected in you.

Can you tell if you have chemistry with someone online or on the phone, or do you have to meet in person to know?

I think chemistry would probably be less strong online or on the phone because research has shown that eye-to-eye contact is important in transmitting emotions. The exception would be for a shy person, who has trouble relaxing in social situations. Online contact would be less stressful for this person, and the more relaxed state would allow the chemistry to emerge. How long does it take to know if you have chemistry with someone?

"Love at first sight" is a romantic notion. But experts recommend exercising a bit more patience to take time (at least after three dates) before you decide whether she is a match to you. The reason: People are usually quite tense on first date begin to loosen up a bit on 2nd date, but only on 3rd date can people truly relax and build some rapport.

While sparks early on are nice happenings, they say nothing about someone's long-term potential. An important part of a compatible relationship is to ensure that each partner's values coincide, and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues. Therefore, don't write someone off or fall head over heels until you have done your due diligence on her.

Can you be "just friends" with someone and then get hit with a wave of chemistry that makes the relationship change direction?

This is pretty common - where you are around someone for years and never realized that you have a feeling of attachment for the person, and then something happens. It is usually an event, or it can simply be that you two have been doing the same thing together for a while, which puts you on the same wavelength. This also often happens to co-workers who have been "just friends" but suddenly find themselves involved in an affair while working on an important project together. This type of interaction has been found to increase feelings of attraction.

What is most important to a successful relationship, chemistry or compatibility?

Chemistry is the connection that you have with someone. Compatibility is a partnership of similar goals. If two people have chemistry and are not compatible, the relationship will not last long. If two people are compatible, they can find their chemistry. However, compatibility by itself cannot overcome a lack of chemistry. Both are equally important for a successful relationship.

Does chemistry fade with time? Is there any way to bring it back?

Chemistry can fade if you don't pay attention to it. If communication is minimal due to responsibilities such as time-intensive careers, kids, money, etc. Life's demands can contribute to couples misplacing their chemistry. However, chemistry does not necessarily have to fade with time. What makes it fade is not familiarity, but the fact that many couples get into routine ways of being together and habitual ways of making love. Also many couples give up their independence and their old friends, and start to act out of obligation. They forget that they are two separate individuals and this detracts from the sexual attraction they initially felt.

Here are 9 ways you can choose from to prevent chemistry from fading:

(1) You can throw parties.

By organizing parties and inviting your friends as well as her friends, you will have an opportunity to be around each other without being attached to one another. This is a great way to keep the flame of your relationship burning.

(2) Spend time apart from each other.

Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but it will also make both of you miss each other a little and is an ideal way to keep a long-term relationship interesting. For example, you can take a night to visit a friend out of town, or you can suggest she spend the weekend at her parents' place so they can catch up.

(3) Giving gifts

Giving presents (not necessary to be expensive but must be sincere) to someone not only let her know you love her, but also that you have been thinking of her when she is not around.

(4) Make surprise visits

Don't be a stalker, but every once in a while, pop into her workplace and take her out for lunch or just stop to say hello. It is the same reasoning behind getting her a gift. It is a reminder to her that you are thinking of her.

(5) Go on dates

At times, bring her to movies, make reservations at eating places that are affordable and romantic. Make this a regular thing, weekly or bi-weekly depending on your budget and schedule.

(6) Set goals together

This is a great way to reinvigorate not only your long-term relationship, but your ambition. Sit down and discuss with her what you want in the long-term and how to reach the goals. Once they are accomplished, set new goals such as health, comfort, happiness, etc.

(7) Visit some new places

By going to a new city, town, a new beach or a new hotel, you will be opening up to a wide range of new conversation topics. This is a great to keep the chemistry in a relationship.

(8) Try new things in the bedroom

After a long time with each other, it inevitably gets a little monotonous in the bedroom with both partners going through the same motion. If you really want to give your relationship staying power, put in extra effort in the bedroom such as trying different lovemaking positions, bring in some sex toys, or find different places to make love.

(9) Discover things together

Take a cooking class together, do yoga with each other or take dancing lessons. It is always better to have something in common that you can discuss together. Keep searching for something new to talk about so that you will be able to keep that initial feeling (chemistry) alive for the years ahead.

>> Online Dating - The Dos & Don'ts. What You Should Know!  

Online dating is one of the many options used by thousands of people to find love. It is very helpful for shy people who fear rejection. It gives you a lot of time flexibility and saves time in knowing about their potential mates by browsing their profiles. However there are always two sides of a coin - for every good side there is always a bad side.

The following 10 tips or suggestions can help to ensure a fun, safe online dating experience:

(1) Never trust whoever approaches you too soon!

There are 2 kinds of people on dating sites. The committed ones and those who are just looking for idle chats. The 1st group of people tends to be more open to quickly move on to develop a relationship. The 2nd group of people will add a few centimeters to their height, claim to weigh much less, use someone else photos or a photo taken so far away that you can't see him/her clearly.

(2) How to separate the real ones from the fake ones?

One way is to get a web-cam fitted with speaker and microphone. You can then see how he/she looks like, how he/she sounds and his/her body language. If the other person is unwilling to talk to you in this way, you have to be careful. A web-cam may reveal others secrets. If he/she claims to be single, but refuse to switch on the web-cam when chat with you for hours, maybe he/she could be married.

(3) Keep your clothes on.

The moment you turn your web-cam on, it can be recorded by the person watching you. The last thing you want to find your half-naked photo on some adult sites.

(4) Don't hand over your personal information.

You should not put your home mailing address and your cell phone number on dating sites. The last thing you want is to be shocked by some uninvited visitors or to receive some cold call sales. Take your time to know a person and slowly reveal bits and pieces of yourself.

(5) Be honest

If you intend to meet face to face with someone that you chat with, it is better to be honest. Can you imagine the shock and disappointment you experience when someone shows up to look very different from their photos, so much older, fatter and shorter than he/she claims to be? You are wasting your time, his/her time and creating a sense of embarrassment for both sides.

(6) Don't let love rob you blind.

If someone wants you to send them money, hit the block button and be gone. I receive emails from some Russian women and they told me the same story. Russian men are no good and they have friends who are happily married to foreign guys. They will tell you they want to leave Russia and to spend the rest of their life with you. The next thing they will ask you for money, giving excuses such as buying air ticket and for visa application. Once money reaches them, they are "gone". For some black women, they will tell you they are living in a refugee camp and their father is some kind of rich guy or top government official who was killed by rebels during civil war. He father left behind big sum of money and she is looking for help to transfer money to the country where her "potential partner" lives in. Of course, you will have to fork some of your own money to facilitate the money transfer!

(7) How to have an outstanding profile?

(a) Take out a pen and paper and start writing about yourself. By writing in your own hand, you can organize your thoughts and think carefully before you blurt out. (b) Don't over-sell yourself. Honesty will attract the kind of person you really want. (c) After you have finished writing your profile, wait for a day or two before posting it online. Go back and read over it a few times to see if there is any need for improvement. If possible, get your friend to proof-read it. (d) Include a photo of yourself. It should be taken recently, should be clear, in color and showing you from the shoulders up. (e) When joining any service be sure to complete the membership profile as much as possible. If you are uncomfortable in answering certain questions, don't leave them blank, instead type in the words - Ask me. (f) Get an eye-catching screen name

Skip the usual handles "nicesinglegirl" or "harry123" and go for something more provocative, unusual or best if it can reflect yourself. One way to get some screen name ideas/inspirations is to look at the way some popular musical bands or movies name themselves. Another way is to make use of the Keyword Suggestion Tool by Google. At the empty space, type in some key positive attributes of yourself. It should then generate a list of suggestion words that have some relation to your keywords. From these, you may get some inspiration in what you want for your screen name.

(g) Have an outstanding headline that will help you to create an unforgettable 1st impression. Spark his/her curiosity with something that could capture imagination. Probably you can get some inspiration from movies quotes at imdb dot com, from song lyrics at lyrics dot come or some quotes from brainyquotes dot com. Liz Kelly, dating coach and author of Smart Man Hunting suggests writing about something fun that you may do together.

(8) Write an irresistible email

Just write only 3 short paragraphs. The 1st paragraph should write about how cool about his/her profile. Say something good that you can infer from his/her profile. The 2nd paragraph is about selling yourself. The last paragraph is about calling for action - get him/her to write back to you.

(9) Always stay cautious

If possible, do more research on your potential love matches, including asking questions, making use of search engines to see if you can get further information about the person on the web. Visit his/her facebook profile and see the kind of persons he/she befriends with. Do be wary of someone who is vague, talking in circles or refusing to give you direct answers. Do be careful if someone pledges undying love after a 1st meeting or even after several online chats. Love takes time to develop.

(10) Think safety when you meet offline for the 1st time

This could be more applicable to females! Always arrange to meet only in a populated public place. Tell at least one friend or family member who you will be meeting with, the location of your meeting and when you are expected to return. Ask your friend or family member to give you a call beyond a certain time. Refrain from drinking excessively as this could weaken your judgment. If you need to go to the restroom to leave your drinks unattended, order another when you return. Practice these safety measures for the 1st few meetings until you are comfortable and confident about the person.

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