Online Dating & Romance: What You Should Know

 

 

 

>> Romance Tips for Any Stage of a Relationship 

I have spent this week mostly thinking about romantic ideas because I owe that special someone in my life some serious pampering for doing me a huge favour. It got me wondering why I don't try and put in the effort more often regardless of whether he does something for me or not. My head is now bubbling with some good ideas and topped off with a bit of research I have done, I had to share these with you. I couldn't very well keep them to myself know could I, knowing that we all need a bit of romance in our lives.

Romantic Ideas:

1. Surprise someone special with a stylish photo frame already inserted with a photo of yourself or a photo of the two of you together.

2. Go through their DVD collection and get them something they do not already have, but that you know they will enjoy. It will last longer than flowers.

3. Leave little love messages or hearts drawn on the bathroom mirror while it is steamed up after your shower or bath for them to find when they go in after you.

4. Plan a holiday or mini-break and do not tell them where you are taking them. Let them find out when they get there or when the airport or train station departures announce it.

5. Get up early one morning and surprise them with a cooked breakfast either in bed or set the dining room table and turn it into a romantic breakfast with orange juice and champagne.

Unique Ideas to Really Impress Them:

1. If you are a man then you can send your special lady 11 Red Roses with 1 white one among them. Insert a message inside the card that usually accompanies the flowers with this sentiment "In every bunch there is always one that stands out, and for me...that one was you".

2. If you are a woman you could buy your man something small like a pair of cufflinks and insert them into a packet of crisps or something else you might like to give him along with a beer and tell him to relax while he watches his favourite sport.

3. Book a double pampering session for the two of you at a nearby spa and then make a day of it by taking them out for a meal at a restaurant you know will serve their favourite food.  

4. Set a treasure hunt trail for them leading them to a romantic picnic or something equally as sweet. Make the trail fun and interesting and the longer you keep them looking for clues that lead them to you, the better the surprise will be.

5. Mixed tapes may seem old fashioned these days (mostly because tapes are almost none existent now), but putting together a CD of their favourite music for them to listen to in the car or wherever they like will have you in the good books for a long time.

While some of these ideas may not be the best for a first date or if you have only been together for a few weeks, mostly all of them will go down well if you have known each other for at least a couple of months. Even if you have been together for many years already, romance should not be forgotten and putting these ideas into practise will help bring the sparks back.

 

 

 

 

 

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>> How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection When it Comes to Dating.

Someone has caught your eye, but for some reason you cannot bring yourself to find the courage to ask them out. This is understandable and often comes down to a fear of rejection. Many of us suffer from it, but if we cannot find a way to overcome it then we'll forever remain single. Succumbing to your fear of rejection will only make the fear grow stronger and weaken your chances of ever finding true love.

Know Your Target

The first step you need to take is finding a way to ensure that your potential prospect is definitely single. One way to do this is to check for a wedding or engagement ring (also look for a tan line on the ring finger). Another way is to find a way to get them to tell you if you manage to get into a conversation with them. This isn't always easy, but if you can find out if they are involved or not it will drastically decrease your chances of facing rejection. If they are, you can graciously move on without embarrassing yourself, and if they are not you can safely continue on your quest to try and date them.

Prepare for the Worst

The next step would be to imagine the worst case scenario, which when it comes to asking someone out would be that they say "No". It's hardly a death sentence is it? I mean, it won't physically hurt and in a couple of hours you'll have gotten over it. Remember that this happens to everyone, so do not let it knock your confidence. If they turn you down it could be for a thousand different reasons that have nothing to do with you personally.

Change Your Self-Image

It is a commonly known fact that confident people are more attractive, but on an even brighter note the more you like yourself, the less rejection will affect you. Focus on the good things about yourself physically as well as mentally and choose to graciously accept and remember compliments that have been paid to you. Basing your feelings about yourself on the negative thoughts of others will only cause you emotional turmoil. The only person whose opinion of you really matters is your own. If you are self assured (but not conceited) and someone rejects you, then it will be their loss and not yours. You're a nice person... what's not to like?

You've Got to be in it to Win it (Cheesy line I know, but go with me on this one)

Much like playing the lottery, your dreams of winning millions will not come true unless you actually go out there and by a ticket. The same applies to getting a date. The object of your affections will not have the chance to say yes if you do not ask them. Okay, so they may say "No", but how will you know unless you find out? Face your fears head on and have a bit of fun with it by aiming for rejections and rewarding yourself when you get them. This will help you soon overcome your fear of rejection. Who knows, if you aren't expecting the "yes's" by practicing to get "no's" instead...then some people might surprise you by giving you their number.

Fear is usually sprung from a lack of knowledge about the thing we fear. In your case it is the fear of not knowing the answer. Although if you think about it, you already do know the answer as there can only be one out of a possibility of two. Don't let your fears control your love life. You have the power to overcome this irrational fear and face those you desire with a new found confidence.

 

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>> 9 Fun Facts About Dating And Relationships You Might Find Interesting

Dating doesn't always have to be complicated and hard. It can often be light hearted and easy going. I have researched some fun and interesting facts about dating that might just surprise you. At the very least they should make you chuckle.

1. I am not sure about this one myself, but apparently an astounding 71% of people out there believe in love at first sight... In that case it might not be wise to continue doing shopping in your pyjama bottoms.

2. According to various surveys, 3 of the most important features looked for in a potential date are: A good personality (30%); A sense of humour (14%); A great smile (12%). Believe it or not looks only come in at 4th place (11%)... Hmm, maybe we can all give the hair straighteners and hair gel a rest for a while?

3. Very few people actually manage to find a relationship in a bar, which is one of the most favoured methods used when trying to meet someone... Damn! Does that mean we need to find other excuses to frequent them outside of happy hour?

4. Over 50% of people who have participated in a survey have admittedly dated more than one person at the same time... Tsk! Tsk!

5. Around 30 % of people who break up or get divorced do so because someone in the relationship has been unfaithful... Oh dear!

6. Again, I am not too sure about this one, but supposedly the average person will generally go on about 100 dates (not necessarily all with different people mind you) before settling down or getting married... I lost count, but it could be about right.

7. When it comes to age difference around 44% of single people say that 5 years is the biggest acceptable age gap in a relationship. Further to that 24% say that up to 10 years is the acceptable and only 8% say that age does not matter... This is definitely a bit of a grey area.

8. In certain areas there were laws passed which have stipulated that flirting is illegal. In Little Rock, AR an antiquated law is still on the books warning people that engaging in playful banter may result in a 30-day jail term. In New York City, another outdated law mandates that men may be fined $25 for gazing lasciviously at a female; a second conviction stipulates the offender would need to wear a pair of blinders whenever he goes out for a walk... Thankfully we now live in 2010!

9. In the Victorian era, fans (the beautifully decorated hand held type ones) were the ultimate playful prop that could communicate all sorts of messages. For example; A fan placed near to the heart meant 'You have won my love'; A half-opened fan pressed to the lips suggested 'You may kiss me'; Hiding the eyes behind an open fan meant, 'I love you'; Opening and closing the fan several times was not a positive sign and often the message being portrayed meant 'You are cruel'...Whose bright idea was it to invent electronic fans and air conditioning?

I trust you will have found this article entertaining and insightful. Although I am sure that the statistics used could just have easily have been made up I am also sure that these weird and wonderful facts could also come in handy as ice-breakers should you be stuck for something to say on your next date.

I wish you all the best with your future dating endeavours.

 

 

>> 7 Things You Men Really Should Not Do On Valentine's Day.

Have you ever had one of those disappointing days where you feel as if you were an after-thought? Many people have I am sure and it's no picnic let me tell you. Some people can be rather thoughtless around Valentine's Day because it is not really important to them. What they should consider though, is whether or not it is important to the other person. After all, it's about their happiness and letting them know how special they are. I am confident that your thoughtfulness and good intentions will be reciprocated if you put in some effort.

1. Do not rush out the night before or early in the morning and buy a silly little card from your local convenience store or a bunch of carelessly put together flowers. This will not work and we will see right through it.

2. If you can, avoid anything work related by booking the day off or calling in sick. The day should be about someone you care about and only about them. Everything else can wait till the 15th. Avoid all household chores as well and ask the other person to do the same.

3. Do not go to a bar, pub or club and spend the night drinking with your friends. Men who do this tend to end up single shortly afterwards. If you value the other person, spend the day with them and them only.

4. Do not forget this important day and don't even pretend you have forgotten, unless you have one hell of a surprise to make up for it. It may not be important to you, but it is to us!

5. Buy something thoughtful that will hopefully last. Chocolates make us girls fat and flowers die. A teddy bear is always cute and welcomed, but put some thought and effort into our gifts. We deserve something special.

6. Do not buy us something that is more for your benefit than ours. If you must buy us lingerie (which we do still want by the way) then at least compliment the sexy negligee or whatever it is with some jewellery or something similar that will make us smile.

7. If you say you are going to wine and dine us, then do so. Don't say you will cook if you intend to ask us for help every 5 minutes and do not take us to a restaurant if you have no intentions of paying.

On that note I am going to leave you with one more thought. Valentine's Day may be a commercial dream come true for retail stores and romance should not be confined to this one day, but it is still a romantic holiday and should be treated as such.

 

 

>> 7 Signs to Look Out For That Will Help to Indicate Whether He or She is Interested.

One of the reasons people remain single is because sadly they become a victim of circumstance. It's not often a single person will admit to being alone by choice and if they do, they are often only lying to themselves. When we like someone, we are too shy to do anything about it and we sometimes miss the signs that they like us too. Unfortunately there is no rule book that gets handed out to us when we reach puberty, so we have to figure these things out for ourselves. Thankfully for you though I have decided to share some easy-to-spot signs that will ensure you never have to miss an opportunity again.

1. They listen when you talk. I mean actually listen. They almost seem to hang on to every word you say and find excuses just to talk to you. Sometimes this can be a bit over the top, but usually it's in a none-stalker kind of way.

2. They sometimes get nervous or flustered when in your presence. Maybe they become clumsy or get tongue tied. Look out for these small things and try to be reassuring to help calm their nerves.

3. They remember things you have told them in the past. For example they suddenly buy you a book you once mentioned you'd like to read in a conversation you had with them or someone else while they were around. They pay attention to the smallest details and retain information which they can later use to try and make you happy.

4. When you call upon them, they are often willing to drop almost anything to be there for you. Nothing seems to be too much trouble for them when it comes to you.

5. Their friends tell you that they have heard a lot about you when they first meet you. This is usually a good sign that they must be talking about you a lot and people usually only talk about things that interest them.

6. They flirt with you a lot, or at least try too. For example they laugh at things you say even if it's not that funny or they try and find ways to touch you.

7. They usually try and make an effort to look nice when they see you. They will often dress nicely, make an effort with their hair or make sure they are clean shaven. A trick here would be to try and get a whiff of their cologne or perfume... if it's an expensive brand it's a sure sign they are trying to impress you.

It will serve you well to keep in mind that sometimes some of these signs could be purely coincidence, however if there are usually at least 3 or more, my guess is that you can be pretty confident they will want you to make your move.

 

>> The 7 Deadly Sins of Dating.

As with the regular 7 deadly sins, these can also easily apply to dating. I have adapted them to my own interpretations and applied them to dating and relationships. As I have said many times, dating shouldn't have to be hard. In fact, it's better when things in a relationship flow naturally. However having read Cosmo many times, I also think that sticking to guidelines laid out for us often helps in various situations. After all, rules and regulations are applied to every day living and religion, so why not have some when it comes to love?

Lust - Now naturally no relationship should ever be without this in my opinion, however in the dating game, this is considered a sin if you lust after anyone other than the person you are dating. Clearly you can understand how this is wrong and imagine if your 'significant' other was lusting after someone else besides you. Lust cannot always be controlled though, so if you find yourself lusting after other people a little bit too often, maybe you are not with the right person, or perhaps being single is more your cup of tea.

Gluttony - This one usually refers to drinking and eating. While you should be mindful of overindulging in both, when it comes to dating I choose to see this as meaning that one should not overindulge in anyone, but their partner. Should you have already flirted with lust, acting on it would be where Gluttony comes in. Wanting more than just one person to satisfy your needs is seen as being a Glutton. I strongly recommend that you do not bite off more than you can chew.

Greed - Ah, have we not all been consumed by this at one point or another? Everything is about us, and while this isn't always such a bad thing, we need to keep in mind that there are 2 people in a relationship. Not just one. Don't be greedy or selfish with your needs. Your boyfriend or girlfriend has them too and you should be considerate and generous towards their needs and wants as well as your own.

Laziness - Not only is this one bad in every aspect of your life, but when it comes to dating laziness can be the worst one of them all. Being lazy in your relationship and not putting in the effort will surely help to end it. Don't be too comfortable as even if you are with the right person, these things still take work.

Wrath - Thankfully this one is not commonly practiced in most loving relationships. When and if it is though, it can spell big trouble. We can all be a little guilty of loosing our temper from time to time, but sometimes it can be taken too far, too often. When this happens you need to get out. Strong and vengeful anger should never be tolerated.

Envy - Again not something I have seen rearing its ugly head to often, but please be mindful of it. If your partner earns more than you, has more friends or a better family then you should be grateful, not jealous. You cannot resent them for something they have little or no control over. This green eyed monster is only going to end up hurting one person in the relationship and that person is you.

Pride - I'd be lying if I said I was not guilty of this one myself. I know it can often be hard to say sorry even if we think we have done nothing wrong. Being to proud to try and fix things though when they get a bit rocky is one mistake people often make and sadly they sometimes leave it till it is already too late. If you do not want to lose what you have, then surely it will be easier to just swallow your pride.

 

 

 

 

 

Online Dating Tips - The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.

Online dating has gained increasing popularity over the last 8 years or so. While it is not very everyone, it is definitely worth looking into if you are struggling to meet someone the good old fashioned way. Even though it is mostly safe, it can be a bit risky and scary, so I have put together this article for you which I hope will help you decide if it is the right path for you.

The Good

Online dating can be fun an exciting as it allows you to get to know someone before deciding if they are worth meeting. This is a good thing as you can easily eliminate people who are not worth your time. You can pick and choose who you get to contact or who you wish to contact back. Most online dating profiles include photos as well which can help you determine if there might be an attraction. When and if you finally decide to meet someone it is usually fun and relaxed as the ice has already been broken through instant messaging or emailing. Many people have found happiness through online dating sites and more often than not it can work out.

The Bad

Sometimes you can connect with someone virtually, but in person it can be a different story. Unless you actually meet them though, you will never know. If it does not work out at least you will be able to get back onto the dating site and find someone else. It can also sometimes happen that you may get stood-up when choosing to meet someone in person for the first time. This is thankfully not common, but if it does happen it can be very disappointing. If there is a reasonable explanation however, you could choose to give them another chance. If not though, move on to the next person.

The Ugly

While it may be rare, people can lie in their profiles or use fake pictures. Again this is not common, but it has been known to happen. The person you think you are meeting can turn out to be someone entirely different. For example you may stipulate in your profile that you are a none-smoker who is looking to meet the same. Someone may lie about being a none-smoker just to get a date with you and then light up after dinner. It can be really annoying as you have wasted time getting to know them. You also need to be careful as online dating does not come without its dangers. It is a scary world out there and even psychos' and stalkers now have access to computers and the internet. Always meet in a public place and do not let them know where you live until you are sure they are trustworthy and reliable. Let your friends and family know who you are meeting and where.

There are various websites out there you can register with should you choose to give online dating a go. Some may charge you though, but if you are serious about finding someone then it may just be worth it. Do not meet someone immediately though, I urge you to get to know them first as much as you can.

  

 

>> 3 Things You Can Do to Help You Quickly Get Over a Break Up

Breaking up is never easy for any one, regardless of which one of you ended it. It can be hard to let go, but sometimes we do not have a choice. They say that time heals all things and while this can be true, sometimes there are things we can do to make it easier. As you may know, we don't all necessarily have the time to sit around pining for lost love. It is very unconstructive and can be damaging to our self esteem. There are certain things you can do right now which will hopefully help to ease the pain you may be feeling and help you to see things in a new light.

1. Be realistic about the relationship you have just lost. When we break up with someone we tend to focus on all the good things we thought we had. I urge you to focus on the negatives of the relationship and even though you think there weren't any, I can assure you if that was the case then the relationship would not have ended in the first place. It will help you to remember why the relationship was not working. Learn from it what you can and then use it to help pick yourself up and move on. There is a whole world of opportunities out there and now that you are single again you are free to explore them. You can use this time to discover who you are again and get back out there. Have some fun because who wants to be in a dead-end relationship anyways?

2. Go on the rebound. There are probably many people out there who will disagree with me and say that this is not healthy, but I beg to differ. As long as you don't get too serious with your rebound partner unless you are ready and mean it, I think it will be a healthy distraction from your pain and suffering. Put yourself back out there and just have fun. I know that being 'on the market' again can be quite scary and many of us worry that we will never find anyone, but realistically you've already found someone once, so the second time around is usually easier. Dating is fun and you should be glad that you will get to experience those first date nerves, the first kiss and everything else that goes with it all over again.

3. Cut off all contact with your ex. This may sound harsh, but it will be better for you in the long run. Should you choose, you can later reconnect with them, but only once you are sure that you have moved on. I know this is easier said than done, but staying in contact with them will only keep you from moving forward properly. You need to distance yourself and take the time out to get over them. If you do not cut off all contact, you will be constantly waiting for them to call or get in touch or you may want to reach out to them. This could leave you with the disillusion that there may still be hope for the relationship, which often is not the case. I strongly believe that if it ended, it was for a good reason and one should never move backwards.

If you follow this advice I can assure you that things will get a lot easier faster than if you choose to ignore it. No body wants to suffer longer than they have to and while it can be very hard, you do have control over how you decide to cope with it.

 

 

>> 7 Steps to Ease You Back Into Dating After a Divorce

Going through a divorce is hard enough on its own without having to worry about putting yourself back out there. Many people who get divorced are so used to being with one person that they forget what it is like to be single and on the dating scene again. It is almost like trying to learn how to ride a bicycle from scratch (people say you never forget, but when was the last time you tried to ride a bicycle?). Start with the training wheels and go from there.

1. Wait until the divorced is finalised. Do not go jumping in with both feet and ensure that the divorce has officially gone through before you even think about dating again. I would also recommend taking some time out once the divorce is over to rediscover who you are and give yourself time to heal. Running into another relationship will only tarnish your efforts and possibly ruin your chances of finding real happiness.

2. Do the things you have been putting off. If you have always wanted to go sky-diving, but your husband or wife stopped you because they said it was dangerous or too expensive then you have nothing holding you back now. Get out there and do the things you have not been able to do. It will help to take your mind off of the past and put you in a good place to start meeting new people. It will also give you something to talk about during dates.

3. Get out there and make new friends. Join a social group or take up a new hobby and attend classes. It will be a good way to meet new people and expand your social circle. It will also increase the possibility of finding potential dates. Go out as often as you can and just have fun. People will be more attracted to you if you seem to be enjoying yourself. Do not forget to smile.

4. Try not to talk about your ex. Naturally you can talk to friends and family if you are feeling down, but do not talk about your ex on dates or to new partners. Unless they ask questions or it is absolutely necessary then you need to leave the past exactly where it belongs and try to move on. Also, if you must bring them up then avoid negative comments. You need to eliminate negativity from your life entirely and focus on getting it right the next time around. Carrying around anger and bad feelings about your ex will not be good for you or your future relationships. Learn to forgive and let the bad things go.

5. Do not get into a relationship for any other reason than because you want to. I strongly recommend against dating someone purely for the sake of making your ex jealous or simply because you do not want to be lonely. This will not be healthy for you and will only damage your chances at finding potential future prospects.

6. Do not let your new date meet your children until things are serious. If you have children, then I strongly suggest that you do not introduce your dates to them until things are serious and you are sure that the relationship has potential to grow into something special. Children are often vulnerable after a divorce and you do not want to make things worse by bringing a stream of random people in and out of their lives.

7. Take things slowly and learn how to have fun again. Remember what it was like before you got married and possibly had children? Things used to be fun and light hearted. Yes, you may be older and wiser now, but you have not forgotten how to laugh have you? Suggest to your dates that you go watch a comedy show together, or visit an amusement park if you are brave enough. Go down to the beach and build sand castles together or splash amongst the waves. Have fun and enjoy yourself, ensuring your date has a good time too.

The thought of dating again can indeed be scary, but it can also be fun and exciting if you go about it the right way. Do not do anything you are uncomfortable with or do not feel ready for.

 

 

>> 7 Things Women Want from a Potential Date or Relationship - Learn How to Impress Her

If I had a dollar for every time I heard a man asking "What do women want", I'd be a very wealthy lady right now. As you already know, there is no clear cut straightforward answer to that question. What I can give you though is some advice to make it easier for you to win her heart.

1. Women like to be treated as though they are one of a kind. The only way you can get this one right though is by finding out who she is and what she likes. Many men make the mistake of assuming we all like the same things like red roses or chocolates. This is not the case and by putting in the effort to find out what she really likes will put you a step ahead of the rest.

2. Flattery will get you everywhere, so compliment a woman if the opportunity presents itself and don't just make it about her looks. Tell her how smart you think she is, or how you like her taste in music. This tactic has never failed and the ego boost you give her will have her wanting more. She may not remember the things you say, but she will never forget how you make her feel. People like people who make them feel good about themselves.

3. Woo her by slipping back into the old fashioned ways of opening doors for her, letting her go through before you, pulling out her chair, ordering for her...etc. Even though we women are a more liberated species now who fought for equal opportunities we still love that kind of thing and it will make a bigger impression than you might think. I strongly recommend paying for the entire date regardless of where you go and what you do. You may not agree with it, but if you let her take out her purse on the first few dates I don't foresee there being many more. It's a principle thing!

4. Value her opinions and share yours (as long as they are not offensive). Women like to feel like their thoughts matter, so ask her how she feels about life, love, movies...etc. Anything that will show her you care about her thoughts and are interested in her view points.

5. Make her laugh as often as you can. Showing a woman that you can be serious as well as funny will give her a clear indication that you are a well balanced individual. Try to avoid stupid jokes if you can as this will just make you look bad. There are many ways to make a woman laugh even if it is not directly you that amuses her. Take her to a funny movie or find your inner child and be playful when you are around her.

6. Women do not like to feel like things are forced or uncomfortable, so let things happen naturally and go with the flow. For example, if the date has gone well and the setting for a first kiss feels natural then do not ask to kiss her or lean in awkwardly...just sweep her off her feet and kiss her with the passion and fire of 1000 suns.

7. Learn the art of subtle seduction. Most women I know like to be seduced and not just at the end of the night before you plan on taking her to bed. It can start as early in the day as you like by sending her flowers or sweet messages before the date. Do not overdo it, but let her know you are willing to work for her affections.

Not all of these suggestions are guaranteed to work with every woman, but if you can put most of them into practise you will stand a much better chance than if you choose to ignore them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

>> 5 of the Most Common Dating Regrets

We all do stupid things throughout our dating lives which when we look back on them, they make us cringe. We sit there wishing we could take them back, or go back in time and do it all over again, this time only differently. Sadly though, once you make one of the common mistakes I mention below, there is no going back. Your only hope is that you do not make them in the first place. I have pointed them out to you below so that you can realise what they are and either avoid making them or if you already have, then learn from them and move on.

1. Lots of people tend to regret not settling down with their childhood sweethearts or first love. This is a strange one to me because on the other side of the coin, those who did settle down and marry their first loves also often regret not having experienced life a bit more first. Either way you go with this one though, you will probably always wonder what would have happened if you had gone the other way. Put this one down to fate and try not to dwell too much on 'what could have been'.

2. People regret wasting time dating someone they weren't really that into in the first place. This is a common mistake that happens all too often. We date people because our friends say we should, or because they can help us in our careers, or because they look good on our arms. Either way, if you are not dating someone because they physically and mentally attract you then you are wasting your time... and theirs. The perfect person for you could slip by while you are with someone you know you don't really belong with in the first place.

3. Many of us regret turning down a date when it was offered to us. Now naturally as I said above, you should not date someone you are not sure about, but you could at least give them a chance before you make that final decision. Once cup of coffee will not hurt and who knows, they could turn out to be someone you could easily fall in love with once you get to know them. Think about all the girls that turned down Bill Gates before he was famous just because he looked like a bit of a nerd. I bet they are kicking themselves now.

4. With today's busy world, people often force their love lives to take a back seat so that they can focus on their careers. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, if you do not find the happy work / life balance, you will only end up regretting it.

5. Dating someone who is out of your reach, such as a married person will always end in disaster. Those who fall into this trap rarely come out of it saying that they would do it all over again if they had the choice. People often feel guilty during and after this type of relationship. They regret the time they wasted investing their feelings into a relationship that could never fully develop. Even if the person leaves his or her spouse to be with you, could you ever fully trust them? Simply don't go there, it is not worth it.

Having regrets is not healthy for our minds, bodies or souls. Don't make these silly mistakes that will jeopardise your chance at true happiness. Always try to be the best person you can be and remember that life is too short to have regrets.

 

 

>> The Funny Side to Dating - 3 Sections to Amuse and Entertain You

I know that dating can be serious business, but I think that many of you could do with a bit of a break from all the drama and have a bit of a giggle. I trust that this article will help to point out that there is a humorous side to dating.

We all need to learn to see the funny side of things and have a laugh once and a while, even if it is at someone else's expense.

*WARNING: Do not try any of these at home!

Online Dating Funnies:

If you have ever joined an online dating site you will probably know that they often ask you to write a catchy profile header about yourself to entice more people to read your profile. Well this has always annoyed me as I can never think of anything witty or profound to say and even though I personally think I am brilliant, I cannot always get this message across to other people.

I have done some research and found a few people who obviously do know how to attract someone's attention, even if it is not in the most conventional way.

10 of the Funniest Online Dating Profile Headers

1. You must be over 5'10" to read my profile 2. Is this thing like eBay? 3. Shopping for Guys - And They Said There Was No Such Store 4. I am like poop. The older I get, the easier I am to pick up. 5. I bathe everyday! 6. Feel free to interact with me. All my shots are current! 7. Coffee, Chocolate and Men - some things are just better rich. 8. I believe in dragons, good men, and other fantasy creatures. 9. You can't ALL be the one I am looking for! 10. Willing to lie about how we met!

Would you be enticed to message one of those people? I know I probably would. A good sense of humour is a very attractive quality

Meeting the Parents:

Meeting the parents can be a very nerve wracking experience as I very well know. Upon meeting my fiancés parents almost 3 years ago now, I vaguely remember telling his mother in my drunken state that I would shag Will Smith if it came down to it. Seriously!?! What on earth was I thinking? Needless to say, I am not the only one who has messed up and so to help you I have researched a list of 10 things you definitely should not say when meeting the parents for the first time (make that 11 if you include the Will Smith incident).

10 Things You Should Never Say When Meeting the Parents

1. "Shall we get take-out instead?" 2. "Is that your car in the driveway that I just backed into?" 3. "This house could really do with a lick of paint" 4. "I am glad I ate before coming over" 5. (To the mother) "You are as sexy as your daughter." 6. (To the father) "That shelf looks crooked; did you put it up yourself?" 7. (If they smoke) "Did you know that smoking causes cancer?" 8. "Do you want me to cook" 9. "Can I sleep in (girlfriend/boyfriend)'s room tonight?" 10.(To the mother) "Have you tried that new anti-wrinkle cream?"

Pick Up Lines:

I am sure we have all had pick up lines used on us at some point or you have used them yourself. I know I have had some of them tried on me and I mostly just laugh them off, but the really funny ones sometimes get my attention.

Some of these can be a bit rude, so read them with caution.

10 of the Wost, but Somewhat Amusing Pick Up Lines

1. I am like a Domino's Pizza. If I don't cum in 30 minutes, then the next one is free. 2. Motion with one finger for a girl you have your eye on to come over to you. When or if she comes over say: "I just made you come with one finger: Imagine what I could do with two." 3. I bet you $40.00 that you are going turn me down. 4. You know how they say skin is the largest organ? Well not in my case! 5. You know what? Your eyes are the same colour as my Porsche (we all know why that one could work) 6. You might as well sleep with me because I am going to tell everyone we did anyway. 7. I would say God bless you, but it looks like he already did. 8. You look like my second wife! And I've only been married once. 9. Ask a woman for the time. Her reply - "10:30". You say - So today is April 10 2010 at 10:30 PM? Her response - "That's right". You then say - "Thanks I just wanted to be able to remember the exact moment that I met you." 10. I'm invisible. (Really?) Can you see me? (Yes) How about tomorrow night?

I hope these gave you as much of a chuckle as they gave me. I would not recommend you try any of the above, but if you do I wish you luck and kindly request that you do not come running to me if they fail.

 

 

>>> 5 Reasons You May Still Be Single - The Ugly Truth

I have often had people ask me why they are struggling to get a date. They tell me that they have tried everything, but that nothing works. They keep getting rejected over and over. There are many reasons why this may keep happening, but I have narrowed it down for you to 5 of the most likely culprits. These may not necessarily apply to you, but you need to be honest with yourself. In order to find the solution to your problem you will need to think really carefully about your approach to dating and consider whether or not you could be doing any of the following wrong.

1. You compare your life and yourself to other people. This is a clear indication that you are not confident and happy with who you are or what you have. You clearly do not have the drive to go out there and get what it is that you want. Instead you are wasting your time wishing for what other people have. As you can see this is very unproductive and you need to realise that you are not the only person out there who is single. Your friends may be married, engaged or in happy relationships, but that does not mean that their lives are perfect. Once you accept this and focus on what you do have instead of what you don't then you should become more happier and confident, making you slightly more attractive to the opposite sex.

2. You are focusing far too much energy on trying to find someone rather then just letting it happen naturally. This could easily lead to you trying to force things and it could be what is pushing people away as well as putting them off. It's not fun being alone, but you are not the only one. I am sure you have heard this before, but people tend to find love when they least expect it. Go out there and live your life, focus on your friends as well as hobbies and just have fun. It will make you appear more attractive if you seem to be enjoying yourself.

3. You often speak of being stood up, rejected or ignored. This is possibly down to insecurity and self esteem issues. You cannot expect someone to find you attractive if you barely even like yourself. Focus on the good parts about yourself and change every negative thought into a positive one. This will take some work of course and it won't be easy, but you have to start somewhere. Live by the simple philosophy of changing the things you can, excepting the things you can't and learning to know the difference.

4. You are being too fussy about who you choose to date. You are waiting for the perfect person to come and blow you away. Sadly, you will probably be waiting forever. What you think may be perfect is probably a disillusion you have that you will have developed in your youth. The guy or girl next door who keeps asking you out could turn out to be perfect for you in ways you may not have imagined. You will never know though as you won't give them a chance. Give it some thought and be realistic about what it is that you are looking for in a partner.

5. Your appearance or personality may need some tweaking. I am not saying you have to look like Tom Cruise or Sandra Bullock, but you need to make sure you are doing the best with what you have got. Get advice from a good friend or close family member, maybe change your hairstyle or go for some beauty salon treatments. Looks are not everything but they do help. As for the personality, well you will need to assess this one honestly with yourself as friends may not be so honest. Do you have an arrogant streak or a tendency to be rude? Do you have a reputation as a gossip or a player? If you look deep enough, there might be a clue there. Do whatever you can to become the best person you can possibly be. People who strive to be better are quite endearing.

 

 

>> The 5 Stages of Dating

While people go on their merry way through life there will come a time (or a few times for that matter) when they will want to start dating or looking for happy long-term relationships. Even though you may not come across all of them, you are bound to stumble through a few of the stages I will mention below. It is more than likely that you may go through some of these more than once or it is possible that you may not even make it past the first stage.

Stage One: Excitement

This is commonly known as the 'single' phase of your life. It is the point where you are on the prowl and you notice the opposite sex more often than usual. It could be that you have only just entered this phase of your life, or you are newly single again after having come out of a relationship. Either way, this is an exiting time when most people feel attractive or they have a sense of freedom to date whomever they choose, whenever they choose. Some people choose to stay in this phase forever, mostly because they fear commitment and do not wish to settle down or they have intimacy issues. Either way, it is a good stage to be in, so enjoy it and have fun.

Stage Two: Dejection

Most people who have enjoyed stage one have more than likely experienced stage two. We all have to face rejection at some point or another. It is a part of life and while it may not be pleasant you need to remember that you are not the only one who has ever been rejected. Some people have a hard time getting over this when it happens and can go back and forth between stage one and two for many years. Realise that it happens, get over it and then move on. Do not let it force you into giving up. If it keeps happening then look deeper and see if there is anything you might be doing wrong and if there is then you need to rectify it and keep trying.

Stage Three: Frustration

When people have been single for a long time it can become rather infuriating. People focus so much attention on trying to find a relationship that they can often scare people away and end up neglecting other areas of their lives. It is not a healthy stage to go through, but again...many of us have been there. There are normally only 2 ways to deal with this stage. You can either keep trying or give up on dating entirely. When you think about it though, neither of those will get you what you ultimately desire, so my advice is to stop looking so hard for love and let it find you.

Stage Four: Depression

I pray that you will never get to this stage and that you will skip right on to stage five because this is not a pleasant phase to stumble into. This usually happens when people have been in stages two and three too long. If this happens you need to remind yourself that you are not the only single person in the world. Letting yourself feel so down that you think you are worthless and cannot cope without someone in your life is not at all healthy for you. It could be possible that you need to take time out and learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company before someone else can. Seek professional help if you think you might need it.

Stage Five: Meeting your Match

With any luck you will have only experienced stage one and then jumped straight into this stage. It can happen more often than you might think. When you reach this phase it will be very exciting and passionate. This stage can still be delicate though, so tread lightly and do not get too deep too soon otherwise you will probably scare them off. Have fun and enjoy it. Let it develop naturally into a healthy and loving relationship.

It does not matter which stage you are in right now, as long as you can recognise it and address what needs to be done in order to progress to where you want to be. You can meet someone in any of these five stages, so keep yourself open to the idea, but stop looking so hard.

 

 

>>>> Dating Do's and Don'ts

Have you ever been on a date and found yourself wondering 'I don't know if I should have said or done that'? Well many of us have, and the truth is there is not really a right or wrong way to go about dating. Connections generally tend to happen naturally and you will either click, or you won't. There are however simple guidelines to follow that might just help things along to ensure there is at least a chance of another date.

These are not 100% foolproof, but do keep them in mind.

Do's:

Do make an effort to look your best Be mindful of your posture and try and sit or walk tall Smile, laugh and flirt Enjoy yourself and try to ensure the other person has a good time Compliment the other person (people feel good about people who make them feel good about themselves)

Don'ts:

Don't talk about the weather Don't be late Don't refer to ex girlfriends or boyfriends Don't interrupt the other person while they are talking, if you can help it. Don't chew with your mouth open or eat too quickly Don't be rude to any service personnel you come into contact with Don't get too drunk Don't reveal unnecessary information your date might find weird. An example of this would be talking about the fact that you secretly like to cross-dress. Do not stalk the other person

As you may already know, straying from the above guidelines could be deal breakers for many people. Think before you act or your date could end abruptly and leave you back at square one.

 

 

>> Find Your Dating Confidence Quickly and Easily With These 7 Secrets

Dating confidence comes naturally to some, but for many of us out there it is not so easy. I also know from experience that good advice usually doesn't come cheap. It's not fair to have to pay to find love, because we all deserve someone special.

I have taken my many years of experience and my countless hours of research and I have devised 7 simple, but effective dating secrets which will help you quickly and easily find the confidence to start dating and build your success rate of achieving romantic bliss.

1. Be realistic. The perfect man or woman does not exist. You need to lower your expectations and you just might be surprised at whom you're Mr. or Mrs Right is. When you date someone who is not perfect you will feel more confident as the pressure on you to be perfect will also be eased off.

2. Put yourself out there. You know as well as I do that you will not find someone lounging around on your couch all day. Unless of course you have a laptop and paid memberships to various popular dating websites. Get out as much as you can, wherever and whenever you can.

3. Always be ready. You need to ensure you are looking your best at all times. Practice good hygiene habits and wear clothes than compliment your body regardless of your shape. Keep your hair clean and find a style that compliments your face. Ask friends and family for their honest advice and opinions.

4. Make the first date count. Once you have landed that date, you don't want to ruin it by getting too drunk, saying the wrong things, or moving too quickly. Be honest, but don't give away too much information at once. Keep things simple and light hearted. It will ensure that your date comes back wanting more.

5. Take it easy and keep your cool. You don't want your date to think you are a stalker, so don't call them too soon. Don't call them too late either as this will lead them to believe you are not interested and they will move on. Let things progress naturally and do what feels right. Playing mind games is not advisable and will probably end with you being alone.

6. Put in the effort. Once things progress to their natural state and you are happily dating someone long term, don't just assume it will all be downhill from there. 'Happily Ever After' worked for Cinderella and Sleeping beauty, but it is not realistic. You need to work on it and make the other person feel special as often as you can.

7. Don't stay because it is easier. Sometimes we will date someone and the truth is that some people are just not compatible. Don't be afraid to hurt someone's feelings or to start all over again. If it is not working for you, then you need to put your happiness first and move on.

 

 

>> Why Nice Guys (and Girls) Finish Last

I didn't always believe the saying that "good guys always finish last", but lately I cannot help but think there is some truth to it. Let me put it in a way that hopefully will not offend anyone, but will at least help you to see my point.

I used to have a crush on Harry Potter. Some people may not understand it, but he is the nice guy - the hero who saves the day. I am sure a few of you will know what I mean. Then came the Twilight movies and now I am like, "who is Harry Potter?" Vampires (especially the newly invented Hollywood kind that are capable of walking in daylight and of human interaction) are so much sexier than nice wizards who only want to save the day. I think it's has a lot to do with a sense of danger and excitement.

The same way that most men, from what I gather are rather attracted to someone like Rachael (Jennifer Anniston) from friends, but if given the choice would much rather go for someone like Elektra.

It's the dangerous and sexy side that appeals to most of us. God alone only knows why as surely life would be easier with the "good guys" so to speak?

Where does this leave the rest of us normal people who aren't vampires, or demon hunters?

Sadly there is not much we can do aside from getting a few tattoos and living a bit dangerously. Is it worth it? No, probably not. I reckon there are normal people out there who would prefer being with a 'nice' girl or guy. The problem is that it could get a bit boring from time to time, so my advice would be to embrace your sexy dangerous side. Surely we all have one? Even if it just means driving over the speed limit once in a while or throwing caution to the wind and getting a new hairstyle. Nothing too drastic, but small changes that keep us interesting and the other person interested might help.

Embrace your inner wild child and let them come out to play every once and a while, you might just surprise yourself, and someone else at how much fun it could be. Be careful though and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Who says nice can't be fun and interesting as well?

 

 

>> Why Can't Love Be Like It Is In The Movies?

Surely we've all seen those romantic comedy's that make us sigh at the end? Wishing something like that could happen to us. How awesome would it be to have Colin Firth come up to you and say "I like you just the way you are" (Bridget Jones). Or how sweet would it be to have a girl come up to you and say "I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her" (Notting Hill). The truth is that these things do mostly only happen in the movies. I'd be lying though if I said I did not secretly fantasise about something equally as romantic happening to me.

I could sit here and tell you that it could be just like the movies if we wanted it to be, but I don't think it would work. It would probably feel like it was forced and that is hardly romantic now is it? True romance comes from within. Sadly I think the media and Hollywood build up our expectations a little too high. I am guilty myself of expecting horse rides on the beach and guys sending me flowers to my place of work for no other reason than because he thinks I am amazing. While this is all very possible it is also quite unlikely.

Now don't get me wrong, while I do think that all this acting is a bit farfetched, I do think we can all learn a little something from these romantic movies. I think that subliminally they teach us what is right and what is wrong when it comes to love. In some respects anyways. I mean for example, we all know that it is wrong to cheat and lie and Hollywood also tries to imply this in most of their movies.

On the other hand though, these movies also leave us with the romantic notion that finding, or being found by 'the one' is easy. We all know this is not the case and there isn't always a 'happily ever after' either. The good thing about this though is that it leaves us open to hope and in my eyes, that is not such a bad thing. You will also notice in these movies that someone always messes up and then has to swallow their pride to do what it takes to get the other person back and make it up to them. We can learn from this as many of us are too stubborn to admit when we have wronged the other person. If you have something worth fighting for, then take a leaf from Ryan Gosling - The Notebook and fight for someone you want.

So in conclusion, while love can't be as simple and easy as it is in the movies, we can still learn something from these romantic comedies us girls love so much and you guys have no choice but to watch.

 

 

>> 5 Signs Your Date Will Not Turn Into a Promising Relationship.

We all go on dates with the romantic notion that they could turn out to be the person of our dreams. This is exactly the way it should be. In the beginning, we all tend to wear our rose-tinted glasses which make it difficult to tell when all the signs are clearly pointing at quite the opposite and we find ourselves stuck in a bad relationship. There are signals you can look out for which will indicate early on whether or not someone will be worth your time in the long-term. I have highlighted some of these signals for you below.

1. They are apprehensive about giving you their home telephone number. This is not a clear and cut sign as many people do not give out their home telephone numbers to people they have only just met. If however they still do not want to give it to you after a reasonable amount of time dating them, then you should be weary about why? It would appear that they are limiting the ways in which you can contact them and I often find that there is never a good enough reason for this.

2. They never invite you over to their house or place of residence. If you find they are constantly coming around to your place, but never seem to want to invite you over to theirs, this could be an indication that they have something to hide. Try suggesting a night at their place and see how they react. If they still live with their parents or other family members then it could be understandable, but should you both want this relationship to move on at some point then you will have to meet them sooner or later. If they continuously persist to keep their home off bounds to you, then I would seriously consider keeping yourself off bounds to them.

3. They avoid questions that require them to reveal personal information about themselves. This could possibly just be a sign that they are lacking confidence and self esteem, but it could also be a red flag. If they continuously avoid your questions or do not give you clear enough answers, then you do not really know who it is that you are dating and things cannot move forward.

4. They constantly change or cancel plans It is acceptable that things can sometimes come up and plans will need to be changed from time to time, but do you find this is happening a little too often? If they keep cancelling on you at short notice, it could mean that they are lying about why. People who have a genuine reason will often give you as much notice as possible.

5. They are difficult to reach and often take ages to return your calls, emails or texts. If you find yourself struggling to get a hold of them for days on end, then this is clearly a bad sign. No matter how busy someone is with their career or studies, they can never be too busy to answer or return a call. If they take more than 24 hours to come back to you I would be very leery of this. Unless they tell you beforehand that they might be unreachable for a few days and give you a good reason as to why, I would suggest you walk away and never look back.

Do not settle for second best and do not keep telling yourself that it will change when things get more serious. You need to start a relationship the way you choose to carry it on. If it does not start well, it usually will not end well.

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>>> Simple Flirting Tips for Women to Start Using Immediately 

There are many flirting tips for females that will see you having more success with guys. Having read the following flirting techniques, you will be able to start putting them into practice and you'll be amazed the results you will begin to see. The great thing is that these are all relatively easy to do and simple to master, so in next to no time you will become a queen of flirting and be able to attract virtually any man you lay your eyes on.

This leads nicely onto the first point I want to make, which is based on eye contact and how important a role this plays in your flirting repertoire. You may view looking at someone as something that comes pretty low down on any list of things you feel are significant in building attraction with a guy, but actually it holds great importance.

The eyes tell a lot about a person and what they are thinking and feeling. You may have heard the saying 'the eyes are the keyholes to the soul' and while that might not be quite true, they do give away a lot about what is going on in your mind. For example, did you know that when you are attracted to someone, that the pupils naturally dilate (although this also happens in darker places to take in more light and allow us to see properly, so don't think that every guy in a club is interested just because of this point!).

If you are interested and attracted to guy, looking over at him and raising your eyes brows is a good way to get his attention and accompanying this will a nice smile is a great technique for enticing him to come over and talk to you. Research has shown that in this instance, a raising of ones eyebrows is a way to invite someone into a conversation and is a welcoming gesture.

Holding eye contact whilst you're having a conversation with him also shows that you are interested in him, although not too much as this is can come across as a bit crazy and too full on, or desperate and needy, neither of which you want to be thought of being! It also shows that you are confident if you are able to hold his gaze, as looking away displays signs of nervousness, or that you are looking for an escape and would rather be somewhere else.

Next, as I already touched on briefly is smiling at him. Just by doing this you instantly increase your chances of him coming over and wanting to talk to you and also of him sticking around when he does. Guys find women's smiles irresistible, as it makes them look as if they are happy within themselves and therefore will be fun and easy to be with. This will help to put them at ease and make them feel comfortable with the situation. It will also make you feel better too, as when you smile, you tend to relax more and this works to make you feel happier and able to enjoy things more.

Also, by smiling you are drawing his attention to your mouth and this is another subtle way to stir things up a little, as it will get his mind ticking over in the background, as he starts to think what it would be like kissing your lips. Other tips to do this include subtle touches such as moistening your lips with your tongue, or softly biting your lip as he's talking to you. You can even use props to help with this point, for instance, playing with the straw from your drink.

The keys to the points I have just made are that they make you look happy and in control of things and men love these qualities in women. Therefore, start to use these simple flirting tips for females and you will soon start to see that not only does it make you feel better about things, but that it really works too.

For more flirting tips for women, including more on flirting body language of men and women, visit the website by clicking the link below now. 

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