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>>> Dating and Finding Love - Hints, Tips and Advice
So, have you dipped your toe into the exciting world of speed dating? Maybe you see a mere handful of minutes, as an inadequate amount of time to find out anything, regarding another person. Revealing things about yourself, in this abbreviated length of time, might not be your cup of tea, either.
Nevertheless, tackling fast-dating using an optimistic attitude, as well as the right frame of mind, you might discover that the whole experience is actually quite a lot of fun, possibly discovering several likely companions in the process. Keeping the following hints, tips and advice for speed dating in view, can certainly assist you in your endeavors.
Your Visual Appeal
These kinds of occasions are made for enjoyment and to be laid back, nevertheless, the initial perceptions of you and how you look, have proven to be crucial elements.
Ladies are encouraged to clothe themselves, with a style ordinarily worn while on an evening out accompanied by friends - appealing, but not over-provocative. Men are encouraged to be attired tidy and sharp, never arrive in bluejeans and a tee-shirt - no necessity for a tie, but do dress yourself in a collared shirt and dress-pants.
Actual shoes will give you bonus points, don't wear sand-shoes, or joggers - do not even think about flip-flops. Do not bring your "lucky beanie". Bear in mind, this meeting isn't all about you, all participants are going to be meeting heaps of members of the opposite sex - dressing sharp, will not only make you more noticeable, but will also show that you tried and that is going to count.
General Demeanor.
General demeanor, means your attitude, if you have a chip on your shoulder about these sort of events - do not attend. Ideally, you want to place the individuals that you are meeting with, at ease. Smiling helps others to relax - and, you are here to enjoy yourself. Everyone is going to be nervous, to a certain degree, so bear in mind your own nervous traits. Try not to drum your fingers or be too effusive, as others may find this off-putting, not to mention rude.
Nonverbal Communication
Call it what you will, body language, mannerisms, or visual communication - this counts big-time. Never sit like a slob, or fold your arms high in front of yourself. This will likely give the effect that you're either bored to death, uptight, or rather more serious - arrogant.
Bending forward just a bit as you are listening, implies that you are paying attention. Keep your hands loose and casual in front of you. Gesticulating during discussions is okay and sometimes an involuntary action when stressing a point, nonetheless, you should try not to wave your arms about.
*Note to men. The whole "be mindful of your body language" thing, applies more to you than women. Women pick up on it fast and use many visual signals themselves. However, it is a fact, sad too, that most men wouldn't notice body language if it hit them over the head. Unless, of course, it was a beer they were hit with.
Consumption of Alcohol
Being well mannered and paying attention, should go without saying. However, if you have been drinking, your senses are going to be dulled and your focus clouded, that's terminal in speed dating. The idea is to be getting to know as much as you can from the person opposite you - fast, without tripping over the chair.
If you're sloshed, you'll say or do something dumb - and you will be the only one who thinks you're funny. You have only got a couple of minutes to make a good impression, you can establish yourself as a jerk in less time. It's not a bacchanalian accompanied by your drinking buddies, you are trying to attract a possible date, not another drunk.
Small Talk
Try to ask indefinite questions that allow for spontaneous answers initially; this way the conversing will keep moving. Inquiring about such things as, "how did you get here?" doesn't afford the other person a lot of leeway, talking about the weather is just as dumb . Inquiring about such things as, "Who is your favourite author/actor/etc?" or "Who of all the famous people in the world, would you invite to dinner?" is going to typically result in discussing why that particular choice, leading to further interesting conversations for you both.
Direction
One pre-dating tip of the utmost importance, would have to be that of, concentrating the discussion in the direction of understanding as much as possible, about the individual you are talking to, as opposed to expounding about how magnificent you, yourself are. Pretty much everyone has some sort of infatuation that they love elaborating on, if you can discover this, follow through with further questions in that direction, which should motivate them to amplify on the subject.
Following Up.
Not long after the night of the event, two or three days later is good, connection information, for those you listed an interest in, who also felt an equal interest in you, will be offered through those running the event. Where there has been a connection, send a pleasant thankyou email, indicating you liked meeting them.
Try not to be grandiloquent, or write 10 pages, also don't be pushy - because this might be misread as harassment. This individual may very well be seriously intrigued, but otherwise occupied, so if they don't reply on that day, don't panic, just allow them the time to reply.
Take Pleasure in Having Attended
These events are never intended as some sort of race. Enjoy the meeting for what it is, and using these hints, tips and advice for speed dating, you have the chance to meet many new and absorbing individuals, establishing some fresh friends along the way. Any dates you get out of the event are an added bonus.
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With dating services, you know that you are only meeting singles who are looking for love. That alone increases your chances of finding someone special. In addition to this, as these services only match you with people who share your beliefs, interests and values, you can also rest easy knowing that your date will share many of the same aspects that you are looking for in a partner. Once you have gotten past the hurdle of the first date (which could be perfect, or perhaps not quite what you had hoped for) and you have started to feel comfortable with your prospective partner, you may start to wonder if they are feeling the same way, or if they are seeing you more as a friend.
Here are some of the most common signals to look out for on your date to see if your prospective partner is seeing you as an interest or more of a friend:
* Playing with their hair
Especially in the case of women, playing with the hair (either shaking it, twiddling a strand of it around a finger, running their hands through it) is often a sign of interest. Your partner is subtly 'preening', much as animals do in the wild to show interest to a potential mate. If your dating services match is doing this, and you are also interested, then this is a very good sign that you are on the same wavelength.
* Staring at your mouth, batting their eyelashes
The eyes are the windows to our soul, as the saying goes. Staring at your date's lips is often an unconscious thing that many are completely unaware of. Unless you have something stuck in your teeth, he or she may well be thinking about kissing you. Another giveaway is if your date lowers their eyelashes to look at you coyly, or flutters their lashes in a flirty way.
* Playful behaviour and constant touching
Unless it is done in an aggressive or uncomfortable way, touching is one of the most common signals that both sexes give out during the flirting stage. If your dating services match is finding excuses to touch your arm when they talk, or is playfully punching your arm or finding a reason to put their arm around you, they are sending out signals that they want to get closer to you.
* Personal space test
If you are sitting opposite each other at a dinner table, slowly and casually begin to play with the salt and pepper shakers or another item that is in the middle of the table between you. Without making it obvious, move it over to your date's side of the table. If he or she is comfortable with you in their space, they will not try and move the shakers back. If they are still feeling a bit reserved, they may push them back to your end of the table. This is excellent for newcomers to dating services to gauge how their date is going.
>> Across the miles - the long distance romance.
Love can come into our lives in ways we never expect. Thousands of hopeless romantics change their lives everyday to pursue long distance love. But, to coin a phrase, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Long distance romances can work and can actually have advantages over same-city romances. People who are in a relationship that's separated by miles appreciate the time they have together more. It's about quality time, not quantity time. They take more care into making each meeting special (and need we mention the physical anticipation and sexual tension!).
Yet, there are a lot of obstacles long distance couples face. In an article called Making Long Distance Relationships Work, the publisher, Joe Tracy, says long distances lovers should invest in setting up some ground rules.
Writes Tracy: "Recent research carried out by Dr. Greg Guldner regarding long distance relationships discovered that 70% of men and women who failed to set rules and routine ended their long distance romances within 5 months. The study concluded that in order for these types of relationships to go the distance it is crucial to establish and agree on certain rules. Setting strict boundaries including not to date other people, to communicate at least every second day, and to take realistic measures to see each other at least every 8-12 weeks".
Another huge and obvious concern is the long-term future of such a romance. If you are at the point where another same-city couple would start to talk about sharing an apartment or marriage, what do you do if you're living in different towns?
Sometimes, this is a question to deal with just as soon as the relationship looks like it's getting serious. It often involves, ultimately, a sacrifice of one person moving towns, or perhaps, the couple moving to a new city all together, in the spirit of compromise. But this is often easier said than done due to working life - and it's often our jobs that are dictating which city we live in.
Once you're under the same ceiling of stars, the dynamics of the relationship can change dramatically. Like everything in relationships, the importance of communication is immense. If you've been long distance lovers for a while, chances are your communication skills have, by necessity, flourished. Use this and talk things through and have contingency plans for every scenario.
In this new age of online romance and eMarriage, the internet has proven to be an entire new way of finding true love. eMarriage (or E-marriage) was almost a foregone conclusion to online dating. eMarriage may well be perfectly normal in the near future.
With the internet beaming into every household across the world that has an internet connection, it is very common for online dating sites to be pairing up the most unlikely couples. Singles chat rooms are another way both long distance and interracial bonds are being formed. Chat rooms, web cams and instant messaging can also be credited for maintaining communication between long distance lovers in between real life visits. And now, here comes eMarriage!
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>> E-Marriage & The Dot Com Wife: Seven Tips to Deal with Her.
The Dot Com Wife: Seven Tips to Deal with Her...
The Internet has reshaped and changed our lives in many ways. Nowadays, along with general etiquette, kids have to learn netiquette during the course of interaction with other people. Internet has transformed relationships as well. Surface mail has been almost replaced by e-mail. Chatting and telephonic calls are thought of as substitutes. Matchmaking services are being provided by online dating websites and much more.
Recently, I have come across quite a few cases of the the emarriage or "Dot -Com Wife". Let me describe the Dot Com Wife. She is from the baby boomer generation or after, her hobbies include chatting, surfing(the internet), her shopping comprises of a bulk of items from amazon.com and E-bay and other shopping websites, her friends exist in chat rooms or MSN /AOL and she cooks from the recipes on desicookbook.com or some other recipe website.
Young and knowledgeable about everything, and very fast with a core 2 duo processor in her mind, she is hard to find a normal looking man. When she does, the question arises, will the marriage last? The need for this question arises from the fact that in the past few years I have come across a number of divorce or broken marriage cases due to excess use of internet.
Most of the times, the problem arises because one or the other of the partner either does not share the internet interest or the level of interest varies. The problem is incurable in cases when the woman is a geek and the man is not. Let me quote a few examples. A newly married couple split a couple of months after their marriage because the bride would be busy most of the night in the chat rooms while her husband did not share the same interest. In another case, a housewife complained that her husband is not interested in her because of his interest in love sites on the internet. The internet also seems to facilitate frivolous behavior for example it is easier for people to meet online where social taboos prevent them to meet physically. Most of us have either observed or seen such cases in our real lives and are well aware of it all. However, the issue is how to deal with a dot com wife or a dot com husband.
1. Check credit card bills: Being internet savvy most of the times comes with a certain kind of laziness whereby the dot com wife/husband would prefer to spend on their credit card but would really appreciate if someone like their partner could drop their bills in the drop box. This would be a golden opportunity to make them dependent on you and keep a check on what they are spending on for example if it is shopping, it is good but if she shopped for a branded leather wallet that you never got, there is something to get nosy about.
2. Be involved, the best way to get someone involved in you is by sharing their interest. One of my friends dealt with this problem by actually being online all the time to chat with his girlfriend, which meant purchasing Blackberry, and monopolizing her time completely so that eventually everyone else faded away.
3. Encourage out door activities: even though the internet is attractive but the real world has much more to offer. If you see her admiring a ruby ring on E-bay, get her all hyped up in research about it and then take her out on ruby ring shopping to real stores. That will give you quality moments to share and she will eventually get used to it.
4. When giving gifts make sure you give him or her a gift they would enjoy like their favorite CD's , Wireless internet USB, latest Laptop, or some other equally techy gadget which will show them that you really care about them and will remind them of you every time they use it.
5. Social Networking Websites: Make your presence known to everyone around her. This would not only show everyone that she is leading a happily married life (stay off) but you can also add a little spice in life by harmless flirtation with colleagues and friends that she can see and sizzle over.
6. Password sharing: Trade your passwords with your wife, an excellent way to keep checks and balances.
7. Check her phone bills: Internet use is closely linked to credit card and mobile phone usage so a close watch on frequently dialed numbers Even though over use of internet may come in between a relationship.
However, its benefits cannot be ignored for example it is one of the best ways to keep in touch with your loved one 24/7, it is one of the best ways to meet people whereby you actually interact with them at their intellectual level and shared interests level and would figure out whether you would get along with them in future or not. So, controlling internet use is up to the non-geek spouse. The above mentioned tips are tried and tested and would come in handy.
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